[ckrieg]

start weight 249

goal weight 135



MY HUSBAND AND I MET WITH A SURGEON.
I HAD A PSYCHOLOGICAL EVALUATION DONE AND WE WERE THEIR ALL DAY. THEY GAVE ALL THE INFO TO US AND WE SENT IT TO BOB'S INSURANCE FOR APPROVAL.

WE PRAYED ABOUT IT AND BOB AND I PRAYED......."IF"
THE SURGERY WAS GOD'S WILL, NOTHING BAD WOULD HAPPEN, THE SURGERY WOULD HELP ME WITH MY HEALTH ISUES AND THAT I WOULD NOT DIE.
THE INSURANCE WOULD PAY FOR IT.
I RECEIVED A LETTER FROM OUR INSURANCE CO.
THEY APPROVED THE SURGERY.
ALL WE HAVE TO PAY IS THE DEDUCTIBLE
AND OUR INSURANCE WILL PAY THE REST.
I TOOK IT THAT GOD SAID YES
BOB TOOK IT THAT WAY TOO
BUT
HE SAID HE DID NOT WANT ANYTHING TO HAPPEN TO ME...
HE RATHER HAVE ME THE WAY I AM, THAN NOT AT ALL.

I REMINDED HIM THAT WE PRAYED FOR GOD TO GIVE US AN ANSWER AND RECEIVING THE LETTER OF APPROVAL WAS THE ANSWER...WASN'T IT???

GOD FORGIVE ME, HELP ME TO TRUST, NOT TO BE FEARFUL!
PART OF ME WANTS IT SO BAD AND ANOTHER PART OF ME IS SCARED TO THE POINT THAT I WAKE UP, CAN'T SLEEP...I CRY BECAUSE IF I DO NOT DO IT, I WILL ALWAYS WONDER IF THAT WAS MY ONLY CHANCE TO LOSE THE WEIGHT AND GET HEALTHY. THEN IF I GO THRU WITH IT AND SOMETHING HAPPENS, IT WILL BE MY FAULT FOR THE SADNESS IN MY FAMILY'S HEART.
AND OF COURSE I AM NOT READY TO DIE YET...
I WANT GOD'S WILL IN THIS........

I THOUGHT THAT WHEN BOB AND I WENT LAST YEAR AND THEN WE SENT EVERYTHING TO OUR INSURANCE COMPANY, WE PRAYED ABOUT IT, WE LEFT IT UP TO GOD AND PUT IT IN HIS HANDS. WHEN I GOT THE LETTER AND READ IT, I WAS HAPPY, THINKING THAT GOD ANSWERED OUR PRAYERS...
I ALSO STARTED CRYING BECAUSE DR. G HAD HER SURGERY DONE LAST MAY AND DIED ON JUNE 2 (MY MOM'S BIRTHDAY) DR. G WANTED TO LOSE WEIGHT SO BAD, IT WAS HER SECOND SURGERY AND SHE WAS AT A HIGHER RISK FOR COMPLICATIONS AND DEATH.

NOW, I AM GETTING NEGATIVE RESPONSES FROM SOME OF MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS. MY SON TELLS ME TO WORK HARDER, EAT LESS AND EXERCISE MORE. I HAVE, HE DOES NOT BELIEVE ME...
I AM AT RISK FOR DIABETES AND HEART PROBLEMS.
WHEN MY HIP AND SCIATICA NERVE FLARES UP, I AM UNABLE TO WORK AND MISS WORK.
DR. GUPTA SAYS I AM A CANDIDATE FOR THE SURGERY AND IT WOULD INCREASE MY YEARS OF LIFE.

SO PRAY FOR ME, I WANT TO LIVE TO SEE MY KIDS GET MARRIED AND I WANT TO SHARE MORE YEARS WITH MY HUSBAND.
THE SURGERY IS SCHEDULED FOR MAY 29, AT @8:00 AM.
GOD KNOWS THE DESIRES OF MY HEART, I AM SAVED BY GOD'S GRACE, GOD WILLING, I WANT TO SEE BOTH OF MY KIDS MARRIED, I WOULD LIKE TO EXPERIENCE MORE GRANDCHILDREN, GO ON THE CRUISE THAT BOB AND I HAVE PAID FOR, 3 YEARS AGO BUT WE PAY A FEE EACH YEAR TO EXTEND THE CRUISE. BECAUSE SOMETHING ALWAYS COMES UP AND WE CAN'T GO.
(WE ARE HOPING TO GO NEXT YEAR...GOOD LORD'S WILLING, 80 POUNDS LIGHTER....)
I WOULD LIKE TO BE MORE ACTIVE IN OUR CHURCH (WHEN I STOP WORKING SECOND SHIFT)
EXPERIENCE MORE YEARS WITH BOB, WE HAVE GONE THU SO MUCH TOGETHER AND HAVE GROWN SO MUCH TOGETHER AND WE LOVE AND APPRECIATE EACH OTHER MORE NOW THAN EVER. (28 YEARS OF MARRIAGE)
JULY 29, 2007 WE WILL CELEBRATE 29 YEARS
IN MY HEART, I BELIEVE THAT GOD WOULD HAVE SHUT THE DOOR TO THE INSURANCE APPROVAL IF SOMETHING BAD WAS GOING TO HAPPEN.
IF THE INSURANCE DENIED PAYMENT, BOB AND I WOULD HAVE SAID NO TO THE SURGERY.
BOB ALSO SAID THAT GOD WOULD NOT PUT ANYTHING ON A PERSON THAT HE COULD NOT BEAR, AND HE SAID HE COULD NOT LOSE ME TOO. HIS MOM DIED JANUARY 1, 2004 AND HIS DAD DIED THIS YEAR, HIS FUNERAL WAS ON THE MARCH 12.
GOD KNOWS OUR HEARTS, EACH DAY WE ALL HAVE.
I PUT MY TRUST IN HIM, THE BIBLE TELLS ME THAT HE LOVES ME, HE MADE ME FOR A REASON....
I HOPE THAT GOD IS NOT FINISHED WITH ME YET....
I HAVE A LOT OF GROWING TO DO......

"IF YOU BELIEVE, YOU WILL RECIEVE WHATEVER YOU ASK FOR IN PRAYER. MATTHEW 21:22

[DocSanae]

Welcome to the board, thank you for joining us.
You and only you can make the decision for this surgery, and I am sure your trust will be answered.
Congratulations on your date, keeping you in my prayers for an uneventful surgery and uncomplicated recovery.

((((((((HUGS)))))) May your journey go well.

[FemmeMode]

....I love reading your post!!
I hear your timidity...but don't worry you are not alone - we ALL felt this way early on.....it's natural!!

I'm all for trusting the Lord -
You are sooooo right - HE DEFINITELY HAS A PLAN FOR YOU!!
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Jeremiah 29:11
"I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future."
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I often rest in this promise....I also rest in the next verse.
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Ephesians 3:20
"Now to him who is able to do immeasurably more than all we ask or imagine, according to his power that is at work within us..."
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God CAN DO immeasurably MORE than all we can ask or imagine....if you think your life will be great on the 'other side' of WLS....it is MORE THAN Great....it is more than you can even think of!!!!
I see this in my own life - PRAISE GOD!
Thanks for posting....
I look forward to hearing more from you....and wow. your surgery is in just 19 days....a little over 2 weeks!
I know that God provided this avenue for you.....HE WILL COMFORT you thru all your struggles....and then he will use YOU to comfort others!!
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2 Corinthians 1:3 & 4
"Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. "

[myavt]

Originally Posted by ckrieg

I RECEIVED A LETTER FROM OUR INSURANCE CO. THEY APPROVED THE SURGERY. ALL WE HAVE TO PAY IS THE DEDUCTIBLE AND OUR INSURANCE WILL PAY THE REST.
I TOOK IT THAT GOD SAID YES... NOW, I AM GETTING NEGATIVE RESPONSES FROM SOME OF MY FAMILY AND FRIENDS. MY SON TELLS ME TO WORK HARDER, EAT LESS AND EXERCISE MORE. I HAVE, HE DOES NOT BELIEVE ME... ...I WANT TO LIVE TO SEE MY KIDS GET MARRIED AND I WANT TO SHARE MORE YEARS WITH MY HUSBAND...

Sweetie I definitely understand your fear and reservations. Anyone I've evver known who was going to have major surgery worried (needlessly) about dying. I believe it's a test of faith and part of the process.

You've been given such a gift. So many very ill & suffering people CANNOT get the insurance approval they need, regardless of their extensive documentation. Also, we know, nothing happens that wasn't meant to happen. It's when we jump in and try and take control from God and run our own lives that things get messed up.

It's such a blessing that your hubby loves you however you are. Mine didn't even NOTICE I'd gained weight--until he saw an unflattering PICTURE of me. That just wasn't how he thought of me.

Unfortunately many people do not understand obesity and can be very harsh/negative about us being "lazy", not "trying" hard enough, having "weak will power", wanting "the easy way out". They really just don't get it! My husband remarked to me yesterday that all of the over-weight people he's known chronically diet, deprive themselve, and eat like rabbits--that he couldn't LIVE that way. He's never KNOWN an excessive eater obese person! That kind of validation is sooooooo nice.

I'm so glad for you that you have your faith, your hubby, and now your insurance approval!!! Best of luck!!!

XOXO
Mya

[macathrt]

all I have to say is "Trust in the Lord" and he will lead you down the right path. Nobody can make that decision but you and the good Lord. Just keep praying on it, you'll make the right. I'll be praying for you too.

Debbie

[terry]

it happened to me like that to i prayed and ask the lord to close every door that was not his will and i was approved in less than a month and had sugery 1month later i had no pain during or after sugery in fact the day i got home from hosiptal i worked in my garden for 3 hrs and being going every since

[MsVickie]

We have all questioned this surgery and if it was time to have it done. I have been researching this and my heart for over 6 years about this decision. I have changed my mind once after seeing a surgeon. He just plain right out scared me to death.

This is my personal feelings on what made me make the decision I did.
You get to a breaking point.......its not about having a better looking body.... its about being able to live. This is for me anyways. When you get to that breaking point you will know it.

My cousin/best friend had this done almost 2 years ago. When she did it she told me Vickie I just got to the breaking point. I didn't understand what she meant. She looked at me and said .......when I was kneeling down dusting the bottom of a cabinet then got on my knees.... then layed down to get to the very back..... then upon trying to get up...... she couldnt........ she had to literally roll over to the phone.....finding she couldn't reach it... she had to roll to a broom......roll back knock the phone off roll to it....and call for help....... to get her up. Then....she said if that wasn't bad enough.......... she had trouble wiping ....upon going to the bathroom. She said that was her breaking point.

Mine? The realization that I will die from obesity. I already have several weight related problems. I hate taking 10 pills at one time. I know I have to do this to live. The surgery don't scare me near as bad as not having it done. Im doing this to save my life.

So for me given the slim choice of dying on the operating table in no pain or dying a slow death because of my weight..... I will take that operating table any day. This is why Im doing it.

And for those who don't have the insurance to pay for this surgery my heart breaks into. I know there are others out there doing every thing they possibly can to live. I will support them no matter what and help them until I cant help them. I don't believe that if a insurance company denies you , that you shouldn't have it done. I believe you should be thankful you are allowed that benefit. Now if a competent Family Dr or surgeon denies you then Its for the best.

I do believe when its our time to go, its simply our time.

Its great to meet you Ckrieg. I know the choice you end up making will be the right decision for you not anyone else. Why? Because its YOUR life.