Hoping this lasts
Posted 08-31-2009 at 10:42 PM by sherrid
So many good hearted ppl say " just don't let this not work like so-in-so" and " I hope you don't wast this like ....." I feel like this is sooooo neg! I know they are really trying to encourage me but I don't feel it. It's like they are waiting to use me as a so-in-so bad example? Like I am under the microscope of their scruitiny? Do I have permission to scruitinize their bad habits and give them advice??? It makes me mad. Like I would go through all this just to TRY to fail???? Like it is a choice I am making to fail??? I hope too I have the strength to make the right choices and face my own demons........... I just wish everyone weren't evaluating me as I do it? What right do they have??? That Bible verse that says "those who want to remove the speck from their brothers eye first must remove the plank from their own!" Seems to ring true. I don't know why I let this bother me so but it does. Must be hidden anger?? Fear of failure? IDK I guess that is why I need to BLOG.
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You no this is what I am going through..My best friend is always praying for my future in the name of "this wont happen or that wont happen"...She has been so negative when she is really a supportive person. I just found out my 19 teen yr old daughter is pregnate and she was negative bout that..HUH???????? I luv her and I dont want to find I loose this friend because I dont hold back and tell her off...I am tired of hearing her negativity...Help!!!!Posted 09-02-2009 at 01:55 PM by smile2day
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It sounds like toxic friendship. You should assess if you really really need that person, or if you let them stay in your life because you are afraid if you let them go, there will be no one else.
Be assured that for every door that closes, you will always find a new door that opens.
((((HUGS))))Posted 09-06-2009 at 01:11 AM by DocSanae -
I know how you feel. I have a "friend" at work who was always really supportive of me until I started talking about wls. Suddenly it was "oh, you dont want to do that to your body do you?" and "Why would you even consider that? Youre not big enough for that!" Umm, hello? My BMI is 42.6! There are a couple of ladies in my office who have had it done, and suddenly this "friend" was telling me things like "Look how unhealthy so-and-so looks, you dont want to look like that do you?" The bottom line is she really wasn't my friend. She wanted me to stay they way I am for selfish reasons. The way I found this out was to confront her as to why she would say these things, and her answer was that if I got the surgery, that would mean she would end up bieng the "fattest member on the team". I said to her, 'So, you want me to remain overweight and unhealthy so you can say that at least youre not the fattest member on the team, that I AM?' Yeah, that essentially was her reason. Better off without her! My real friends are totally behind me, giving me facts and opinions, both good and bad. Hang in there! ::hugs::Posted 09-07-2009 at 01:36 PM by FluffyKitteh
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