[sageemily2005]

ok well im goin to start off with my morning i woke up and was playing with my 2 yr old and having a great time then hubby starts getting morbid AGAIN and i was like ok lets have out with this one last time cause this is get really old he was like what i dont trust the surgery and continued that he feels that there is some type of hidden agenda and that i will die and he is goin to be stuck with a train wreck and how im be wicked self fish and then asked me how my mother feels about it and i turned it into ITS MY HEALTH NOT HERS....then he tried playing the guilt card on me well what about the baby she relies on you so much what am i supposed to do when u die on the table i then SNAPPED I WAS LIKE IM GOIN TO BE FINE AND STP BEING LIKE THIS then i told him he can stay home im doing this with OR WITH OUT HIM then he called me a cop out and he knows how bad i struggle with the weight and losing it i mean jeez im on this stupid liquid diet and im stuck i cant lose any more i dont know what to do .... THEN all of the sudden i began to get MAJOR doubts so badly that i almost called it off i was so filled with anxiety that it wasnt even funny tuesday is comming up really quick....well now his excuse is he dont like my dr and the truth is i like him alot and im comfortable with him and he was like the appointment was to quick i was like everyones appt is quick wat ya want him to do hold ur hand threw it.... then i went on to remind him how he never likes any of my dr's might i add the last tim he didnt like my dr he was the only dr that really cared about finding out y my left hand was half numb and part of my arm other looked at me like i was nut for 5 years and 2nd visit with this dr he got it right off....i think i pick the good dr's... his dr's are scarey i went to one of his dr's they put me on some med and put me on TOO MUCH and i has hallusinatating AHHHHHHHHHH!!!!! well thank god for sisters cause mine called me into work and i so needed the break she called me into work THANK THE LORD!!!! oh and if ya all want a good laugh i will tell you now what i did to hubby when i got back i went in my book and got all the risks and showed him them JUST TO MAKE HIM MAD lol and i laughed at the same time then he was like i want numbers give me numbers i was like u want numbers i'll give you ur numbers (i only told him to read the book i got from my support meeting and he did not) so i went in my book and gave him numbers he was like OH thats not that bad (i was then banging my head against a wall LOL) he was like the risks are those almost like an apectomty i told him he really needs to come to this site he and was like no they sugar coat i told him if he only read what half of you all wrote its not all candy its a fight its a struggle we have to deal with he shut his mouth and looked at me defeated i think he realized i am 10000000% goin to get this done on TUESDAY he isnt goin to guilt me out of it make me wait til he is comfortable ITS MY TIME MY LIFE MY HEALTH....... ok im going to shut up i needed to vent cause he is really gettin on my nerves im nervous a lil bit if i think about it or if i have time to think about it i rather work and not think about it to be honest and when i work i bloat up and im drinking water and more water OYE i cant get past this point and im affraid they are goin to say no surgery for you uu didnt lose enough im telling you im goin to cry to get all this way and get there to have it ripped away from me thats waht im so scared of its not for a lack of tryin ok i will really shut up im sorry for writting soooooo much thnk you all......huh maybe just maybe im finally gone nuts

[beckamarie]

Honey you are doing this for your future, for your childrens future and for his future, dont let his negative attitude detour you. Yes there are risks with this surgery but the risk you indure everyday from being morbidly obese is just as dangerouse. With this surgery you are saving your life. Is this gonna be easy, absoluetly not, but it is gonna save your life. hag in there honey once you make it through the surgery I bet he'll be there 100% to support you

[clancythecamper]

Geez, dont you hate it when people do that to you??? I know the week before my surgery one of the girls at work told me not to have surgery, that if it didnt kill me, I'd be ruined for life, and mamed, and have a colostomy, and nobody would like me and I'd die a lonely man. I looked at her like she was nuts and told her thank you and walked off but it was so unnerving! I dont blame your DH for the nerves and he obviously cares about you ~ just wish he'd found a different way to verbalize it but he's a guy and they just dont think like we do. Go figure. As for the weight loss before surgery, why not call the docs office tomorrow and tell them what's going on? You probably dont really need to worry about that, but until you hear it from them, it's gonna bug you. Also, if they want you down 2 more pounds, maybe they can tell you what you need to do. Hang in there! We're here for you.

[greensgirl19]

You are doing this for you and if he were in the same situation, what would he do? I'm glad that you're confortable with your decision and are strong enough to stand up for what you believe. I know you can do this and we're here for all the support you need!

[TamTamW]

You can do this, hang in there and he will come around, he may just be scared that he is goning to lose you. We are here for you..

[Trulykath]

i still think he's scared....he needs to realize this will prolong your time togeter!!!!

[kiwi-leelee77]

Hey. at the risk of sounding a bit um..harsh... maybe is is worried about they surgery yes, but also maybe in the depths of his mind he is More worried about you getting skinny and leaving him. It sounds like he is being very insecure. Perhaps if you reassure him how much you love him and appreciate him... stroke his ego in other words.
Good Luck and keep strong. No doubts, you are doing this for the right reasons.
*HUGS*

[kitty56]

Don't let anyone detour you from the lifesaving surgery. Being heavy is very unhealthy and like some said that if you do not have the surgery that being heavy could take your life. I was in really bad shape before I had the surgery and my surgery was lifesaving for me. I would do it over in a heartbeat, I do not have near the aches and pains I had before. I can do so many things now that I could not do before and I am so amazed by the things I can do now and you are doing this for your family and for yourself, so that you can be around for them. My husband did not want me to have the surgery, becasue he was so scred of losing me. I left it in Gods hands and I did really good after surgery and had a few things to get over as time passes and most of it was I had a real hard time with food but I did alot of reading and asked questions and they said give it time and in time food will taste good again. They were right, so we are here for you any time you need us, these are such wonderful people and will be here on your new journey of a new you. I think once he sees the results of the surgery he will be excited as my husband is now.

[lazell]

This is where you are suppose to vent!!! We are all here to support you. This wls is gonna save your life. When you can sit comfortably on the floor with your little one you are gonna be the happiest girl around!Its almost here so all this part will be over. Hang on tight cuz its a crazy ride.

[sageemily2005]

oh yes i for got about the WHOLE EGO thing...but he is a streight forward kinda guy i asked him streight up he said if im goin to leave him leave but he just dont want me dien and leaving him with a train wreck meaning the kids (3 of em are momma's kids) and if i leave at least he knows i would have the kids with me...im not bout to leave him i was small when i met him just got kinda big durin the many years..