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08-01-2006, 01:50 PM
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| WLS Master Guru  Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Near St. Louis, MO
Posts: 633
Weight Statistics June 17, 2005 Start Date:
June 17, 2005 Surgery Date:
5' 2" Height: 313 lb Start Weight:
173 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
140 lb Weight Loss:
33 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.7284345048 % % Lost:
don't have a set goal date, I take it day by day that way I don't get discouraged Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 57.2421956296 BMI Start:
31.6386576483 BMI Current:
25.6035379813 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  |  Bored in my Relationship Does anyone else find that they are now bored in your relationship with a spouse? I have been with mine for 5 year on Aug 11th and I have found I am bored out of my mind with this relationship. It's though we are not even a couple but more like roommates. Sex isn't an issue here, there are no problems there. It is everything else. I have found the old me that I was before gaining all the weight, by that I mean the social butterfly that doesn't want to be couped up in the house all the time. I like to go out and do things. All he wants to do is work and come home, I feel like he never has time to do things with me. He has become very jealous since I have lost most of my weight and now has a fit if I want to go anywhere without him. So for the most part now I just work and go home. I'm really hating it. I'm getting very bored with him. I have tried talking to him about this but he won't listen. Is this normal? Just wonder if this is part of the emotional changes we go through after surgery. Shelley
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08-01-2006, 03:16 PM
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| Guru In Training  Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NJ
Posts: 333
Weight Statistics 3/14/06 Start Date:
4' 11" Height: 239 lb Start Weight:
119 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
120 lb Weight Loss:
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50.2092050209 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 48.2668773341 BMI Start:
24.0324619362 BMI Current:
24.2344153979 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  |  I don't have any wise words of wisdom, I just wanted to stop by and give you a  If I can do anything let me know. I will be praying for you.Jolie
__________________ Jolie  RNY 3/14/06 239/65/174   |
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08-01-2006, 08:59 PM
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| Super Moderator  | Oh, Shelley, ((((((((HUGS)))))))) This must be very hard on you, and many have thoughts on this in various degrees. Of course, you will change, not in the core as a person, but because you don't have the weight any more that was limiting your physical activities, and your thoughts in some things that you can/cannot do. So, how you EXPRESS WHO YOU ARE is going to change. Remember, Craig went on to start singing and get his own band AFTER his weightloss, not before, even though being a big band singer was his dream since he was 4 years old. It can be difficult for your partner, if he felt secure with you because he he saw and liked how you expressed yourself, and did not think to look at the person who you are in the core. You are turning out to seem to be a different person to him, and that may be pushing both him and you into new corners that can feel insecure. If he isn't willing to talk about what both of you see/feel from both sides, or if he gets emotional when you try to talk this out, then maybe, it will be for the better if you consider getting outside/professional help. Who knows, even if he thinks he doesn't like going out sometimes, he may find that once he takes the first step, he may find himself enjoying the time out on town more than he had exepected, because you are having fun with him. That said, men are such clods  , it takes soooooo much to get into their thick heads that having fun and enjoying the time with eachother in a scene that's away from home is a great depressor of daily stress, and a must for women, since often enough, the home scene is a place of work for women, as well as the office. Make the choice that is best for YOU!
__________________ "In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun."   Just a li'l bit 'bout myself  Last edited by DocSanae : 08-02-2006 at 08:20 AM. |
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08-01-2006, 09:18 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NYC the best place in the world to live!
Posts: 2,982
Weight Statistics Halloween 2005 Start Date:
4' 11" Height: 212 lb Start Weight:
127 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
85 lb Weight Loss:
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40.0943396226 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 42.8141338696 BMI Start:
25.6480896294 BMI Current:
26.2539500144 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  | I totally understand what you are going through. We havent talked in a while but i think we shared alot of similar issues!!! Hang in there and let me know when you figure it all out. {{HUG}} LittleLisaMarie
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08-02-2006, 12:52 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NYC ~ Love it!!!
Posts: 2,997
Weight Statistics 4/19/06 Surgery Date:
5' 8" Height: 333 lb Start Weight:
175 lb Current Weight:
155 lb Goal Weight:
158 lb Weight Loss:
20 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.4474474474 % % Lost:
010/19/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 50.6269463668 BMI Start:
26.6057525952 BMI Current:
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Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  | Oh.... Shelley.... I'm soooo sorry that you are going thru this.... It's a hard process....and I know that it's not just YOUR life that has changed since your surgery...but your spouces too. I dread this....and have thought about it....and just reading your post it's reminded me of this being something that I'm not looking forward to. I've heard this happens.... Right now...all I can do is tell you that I'm here for you.... offer you a {{{{{{{{{{{{{HUGE HUG}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}}} And thank you for being sooo vulnerable. You are such an amazing woman....I've seen that over the last few months...and hope that your relationship will "become fun" again.... Thanks for sharing....
__________________ Deborah  Lap RNY Gastric Bypass follow my "Journey and Progress" at www.femmemodeweightloss.blogspot.com    |
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08-02-2006, 05:34 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
Posts: 6,756
Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date:
Height: 310 lb Start Weight:
167 lb Current Weight:
159 lb Goal Weight:
143 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.1290322581 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start:
27 BMI Current:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | ITS hard as we now have all the new energy and want to do tons of things are partners weather husbands, wifes, boyfriends or girlfriends havent made the commitment to get healthy and change as well. I know i have tons of energy and dont know what to do with it and he is still the couch potatoe as always. ITs a tough one and probably why the divorce rate is very high for post op gastric bypass people. Hang in there and think things thru clearly. PERHAPS its time for councling to help sort thru such issues.
__________________ LISA  http://w5.photobucket.com/widgets/dy...164/fr1endly2/ LAP RNY Gastric Bypass  |
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08-02-2006, 09:30 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Kuwait
Posts: 2,430
Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics for ever! Start Date:
4/18/06 Surgery Date:
5' 3" Height: 335 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
154 lb Goal Weight:
158 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.1641791045 % % Lost:
9/18/07 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 59.3361048123 BMI Start:
31.350718065 BMI Current:
27.2768959436 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | Awwwwwww come over here Shelley you need a gigantic teddy bear warm hug honey  I fully understand I'm now been married to the man of my dreams for the past 4.5 years. We were business partners and friends for 5 years before we got married I knew from the begining he's not a talkative person he's not that kind of a man who reads peotry to his beloved or maybe a Zoro type hheheheheheh but he has a heart of love, graceful, warmth, and wisdome. He's so simple and if I don't hear the hot sparky words from him (that every woman wants to get these fireworks from time to time) I feel it in his hand touch or his eyes. Sometimes I ask him say to me this or that!!! I don't expect from him red petals on my bed   or maybe a dinner with candle lights!!! our relationship has no innovation in it at all. And I can agree with you with years it's gonna be so much a rotien adn boring!!. You know I always wish if he acts as a jealous person coz this will make me feel the spark I'm looking for (but not too much other wise I'll feel trapped, I'm a free soul heheheh) Part of the boring feeling, or the coldness should be blamed on us the women, talk to him or hmmm maybe invite him to a romantic dinner sometimes men need the other side to initiate the first step they're like babies you know that! mommy and grandma (God rest her soul) told me that when a couple get married man and woman can get changed easily for the sake of love in between them. They can be modeled like a peice of clay they way the other side desires, this way both can carry on throw tough times. I know we all seek happiness and especially us after we reach our WL targets, as if we're in preson for so long time and poooffffff it's freedom. All I can advice you is have some patience, take it easy and baby steps I'm sure he loves you like no one ever in this whole world, look how crazy he's when you get out without him or maybe somebody gives you an admire look! Problem with some men they don't know how to express it! If I were you I'd take an off from work, family, kids and take a cruise or maybe go to a nice sunny beach spa with him and re-do your honeymoon  this would help trust me! Love ya :* Last edited by ChuppyGirl : 08-03-2006 at 01:11 PM. |
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08-02-2006, 10:05 AM
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08-02-2006, 10:44 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: McGuire Air Force Base, New Jersey, USA
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Height: | Shelley... you are so well understood on my part in this. I have the same issue here. I love my husband, but when he is stressed out he forgets to have fun and relieve the stress. He is really not too happy with the time I spend online right now, but he doesn't want me to go out and spend time gallavanting about either...lol. It is hard to know what to do to reignite the spark when our partners seem so unwilling to see the need for it. Good luck and if you find something that works let me know... Janae |
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08-02-2006, 10:47 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Apr 2006 Location: Kuwait
Posts: 2,430
Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics for ever! Start Date:
4/18/06 Surgery Date:
5' 3" Height: 335 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
154 lb Goal Weight:
158 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.1641791045 % % Lost:
9/18/07 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 59.3361048123 BMI Start:
31.350718065 BMI Current:
27.2768959436 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | Hey Pillowwwwwwwwwssssssssss look what I found for you!!!!!!!!!!!    cute right??? heheheheheh |
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