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08-24-2008, 04:54 PM
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| WLS Mentor  Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: No. Los Angeles County, CA
Posts: 1,184
Weight Statistics 4.29.08 RNY Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
211 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
90 lb Weight Loss:
41 lb Lb Left to Lose:
29.9003322259 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 45.7618944637 BMI Start:
32.0789359862 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass   |  Being different somehow
Someone had said in a different thread that she was observing that passer-bys were nicer and looked at her in a different manner than pre-op. It was a WOW moment and of course it is thrilling to be noticed. Leave it to me to find discomfort in someone else's WOW. LOL For me, if ever there was a reason to NOT lose the weight, it was the whole thing about strangers being "nicer" or seeing me as "normal", as though I was not "normal" before. I work with the public and patient's reactions toward me through the years have been mixed, at best. A few would not make eye contact, A few would look outright repulsed, and some would be so uncomfortable that I would tell them that mine was not the only clinic that did mammograms and maybe next year she would be more comfortable going to one of the other sites. In my off-work duties I felt the same way with teachers and parents and other people I have met in the community. I am now only to the point to where the "regulars" are complimenting my new haircut (my hair is the same, albeit less of it) rather than noticing the weight loss, but as soon as I tell them it isn't the hair but the WLS they are suddenly my new best friends with congratulations, etc. I have maintained a "normal" weight in the past, for maybe a year or so. I was invited to all kinds of events and parties and dinners/lunches, etc. back then. Once the weight came back on, the invitations stopped and "friends" were no longer available. I swear it wasn't me. That taught me that image, even in friendship, makes a difference. I find that very sad. Anyway, my random thoughts on a too warm Sunday afternoon. Your mileage may vary.
__________________ Judijo  7/2008: I no longer qualify for WLS! BMI <40 with NO co-morbidities!  9/29/08: 5 months post-op and 70 pounds gone forever, babeeee!  11-29-08: 7 months post-op and down 90 lbs. Total cholesterol is under 200 for the first time in my adult life!   Starting weight: beginning of nutrition classes, August, 2007 My blog on my weight loss journey and thoughts that go with it. My MySpace Page. |
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08-24-2008, 05:43 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida
Posts: 4,749
Weight Statistics July 21, 2007 Start Date:
August 6, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
287 lb Start Weight:
164 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
24 lb Lb Left to Lose:
42.8571428571 % % Lost:
January 1, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 52.4872528616 BMI Start:
29.9927159209 BMI Current:
25.6035379813 BMI Goal:
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Very good thread Judijo! You hit some very valid points for a lot of us! I am right there with you too!
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08-24-2008, 06:54 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Texas
Posts: 4,345
Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics I've lost/gained my whole life!!! Start Date:
Aug 1, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
138 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
142 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
50.7142857143 % % Lost:
Summer 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 42.5692041522 BMI Start:
20.9805363322 BMI Current:
22.8049307958 BMI Goal:
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I know what you mean...I was thinking about this just yesterday...that pre-op, I was different....and now, I feel more like I fade into the woodwork...what made me different before was being overweight....it wasn't really about invitations-I had so much self confidence even heavy, I made myself the center of attention....now it's weird because people in public see me and HAVE no idea how far I've come, what I've accomplished, and how HARD it was to lose me and start over....sorry for rambling...I hope it made sense!
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08-24-2008, 08:28 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Buffalo, NY
Posts: 2,442
Weight Statistics 12-19-07 Start Date:
1-29-08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
286 lb Start Weight:
164 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
122 lb Weight Loss:
14 lb Lb Left to Lose:
42.6573426573 % % Lost:
eventually Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 50.6570924666 BMI Start:
29.0481229529 BMI Current:
26.5684051398 BMI Goal:
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I notice that the doctors I work with are much nicer to me now. All the other staff was always nice, but now I'm ok for the docs to 'acknowlegde'. Part of me wonders if it's because they just know me better now, but you'll really never know. It's very unsettling. I also think it's hysterical that my husband would be worried about me leaving him for a guy at work (no one inpaticular - just someone). These (very few) guys that I work with never acknowledged me before, never flirted or made any kind of comment that made me think they were interested. They still haven't - thankfully, I hate ackwardness - but if they did, why would I care? I wasn't good enough before, so why should I be now? He's the only man who has been in love with me at my wrost and actually made me feel better about myself because he was truly very attracted to me. I know he's just nervous, but no body likes 'fair-weather' people in their lives, so he has nothing to worry about.
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08-24-2008, 09:46 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Troy,ny
Posts: 1,608
Weight Statistics Since birth:) Start Date:
Put on hold for now Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
319 lb Start Weight:
292 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
27 lb Weight Loss:
142 lb Lb Left to Lose:
8.46394984326 % % Lost:
sometime in 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 51.4823232323 BMI Start:
47.1248852158 BMI Current:
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I can completely relate. Not only do thin people do it to me but image overweight women doing the same thing. I get the look, the lack of acknoweledgement, and even looks of disgust. I work at Lane Bryant for god sakes. No one should look at me like anything....I think because I also wear a scarf that poses an issue also. The whole Muslims are terrorists deal.
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08-24-2008, 11:30 PM
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| WLS Master Guru  Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Oklahoma City, Okla USA
Posts: 862
Blog Entries: 52 Weight Statistics 05/17/02 Start Date:
05/17/02 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
355 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
163 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.9154929577 % % Lost:
may 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 59.0686390533 BMI Start:
31.9469822485 BMI Current:
29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
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I so hear you hon..and yes, people definitely show their fickle side in regards to what they "see" like we don't actually change, perhaps to only become more confident, but do we actually change? or is it everyone perception of what they now 'see' when they look at us I ask you?
__________________ --BREE open RNY 5/17/2002 -166 lbs(-200 at lowest) Everything & Anything is possible with Belief in place....WLS changes LIVES  |
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08-24-2008, 11:51 PM
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| WLS Master Guru  Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Rochester, NY
Posts: 706
Weight Statistics March 12, 2008 Start Date:
December 4, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
259 lb Start Weight:
250 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
9 lb Weight Loss:
115 lb Lb Left to Lose:
3.4749034749 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 45.8747795414 BMI Start:
44.2806752331 BMI Current:
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I haven't had my surgery yet, but I've thought a lot about what the future holds for me, in comparison to the past. I"m like Kath... I am outgoing and don't make myself invisible. However, I did put up a wall to keep people from getting too close to me. Heck... this may be too much info.. but I didnt' even DATE.. and pushed anyone who was interested in me away. My husband is my first and only SERIOUS love interest and I was 35 when I met him, 37 when we married. I honestly feel people over look me not neccessarily because of my weight, but because I give off some sort of vibe that lets others know I"m not happy with myself. That makes them uncomfortable. I just know I"m not the me on the outside that I know I am on the inside. I truly expect to "shine" as the weight comes off and I think that draws people to you. I've known people who have lost weight both through eating and excercise and WLS and I've seen the transformation in them. I didn't look down on them before, heck.. I'm in the same boat...but they were so different... almost glowing, when they lost weight and that's a draw to people. I can only pray that happens with me. I wouldn't see the new attention as a negative, but rather, as a reward for my hard work. Just my view point.
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08-25-2008, 10:11 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Davenport, IA
Posts: 1,582
Weight Statistics 12/28/06 Start Date:
May 14, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
253 lb Start Weight:
191 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
62 lb Weight Loss:
41 lb Lb Left to Lose:
24.5059288538 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 42.0968047337 BMI Start:
31.780591716 BMI Current:
24.9585798817 BMI Goal:
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Yep isn't strange the people who wouldn't even acknowledge you before are now the friendliest people around. I have worked with this one man for over 20 years, he has always been nice, but when I lose weight he is down right friendly. He is a very good looking guy and when he was younger all the girls were after him. I guess it's a throw back to that. I wasn't good enough for him to date, so why bother talking. Society definately has a double standard and even though it is not fair it is there. It is very hard to come out of our shell once we have been used to it protecting us from the world. And I think this is one of my subconsious reasons for hanging on to what I have left to lose. When it is gone, I will be completely vulnerable. Although I hate being this size, it is a buffer from the world. Something I really need to work on.
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08-25-2008, 11:47 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: May 2007 Location: minnesota
Posts: 5,210
Weight Statistics july 21, 2007 Start Date:
august 17, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.7876106195 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 54.7100550964 BMI Start:
28.5654269972 BMI Current:
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It is funny why this is but it is...i notice it all the time, just another reason for me to go out of my way to make sure i am not this kind of person
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08-25-2008, 12:27 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: AZ
Posts: 1,692
Weight Statistics January 1, 2008 Start Date:
January 11, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
189 lb Current Weight:
159 lb Goal Weight:
150 lb Weight Loss:
30 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.2477876106 % % Lost:
July 4, 2009 FIREWORKS, BABY! Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 53.0891067053 BMI Start:
29.598351526 BMI Current:
24.9002004901 BMI Goal:
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You know- I often wonder if some of it is me too- I seem to be more willing to make eye contact and smile and interact with people. When I get a response I think "Is it that I am more friendly and comfortable with who I am, or is it that THEY are more comfortable with who I am?" Not sure I will ever know.
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