[skinnydip]

I'll hit 'em all with one post.

For the first time ever I was having a minor freak last night. The top of my range is 170. Got on the scale and it was 180! Did the potty parade all night and I'm 169, even after breakfast. Guess that means I'm full of it, huh?! Anyway, I remember when I was losing how even 1/2 poiund was a huge deal. Now I totally have to change my mindset. There's usually at least a 4 pound difference am and pm. No biggie, a pound or two, or three. Guess that's why we're advised to weigh the same time evry day, duh!

Lots of my beliefs are having to be changed now. Like if I'm not losing, I should cut calories. Actually, sometimes I have to increase to lose. Weird.

Or I don't have to always be losing; sometimes I may actually have to make myself eat to gain weight, double weird (sigh, not the case now unfortunately).

Like social events must be organized around food; food is love, not let's take a hike all together.

Many, many things.

I had an uncomfortable experience at my neighborhood meditation group this morning. These people have never seen me fat and think I'm a normie because I keep my diet talk on these boards. Somehow it slipped out that I had lost a lot of weight. They of course asked how much. I told them 210. They asked how I did it.

I was honest, to a point. I told them I went to bed at 9, up at 5 which cut out the nightime munchies, went to a 6am group, came home, loaded up the kids for school and the dogs, walked the dogs for an hour, then did 30 min. cardio, 30 min. weight, 20 min. stretches. I didn't count cals., just protein first, then veges, fruits and complex carbs, all whole foods. And it took me three years.

Maybe because I was such a slow loser they made an assumption. One woman I really like said, well you really worked at it. You didn't do any of that stupid stuff like stomach stapling.

Eek! Now I feel like I'm hiding a secret and if I tell, I will lose respect.

Same thing happened in Calif. at the gym. They watched me struggle for 8 years and finally drop the weight. My best gym buddy made a comment on how proud she was of me that I stuck to my routine and didn't resort to some artificial means like gastric bypass. Ouch! I never told, but was uncomfortable from then out.

Yesterday was NOT a perfect day. No day ever is. I did compensate for my less than stellar eating habits by exercising. Until I buckled and had a bowl of shepherds pie. Some things I just can not make. Ironically, they are too darned good.

So I'll try again today. In the past 5 yr. 4 mos. I have not had to really watch what I eat because of my eating style. This is the very first time I have had to "diet". I forgot how! It's hard!!!!

Vicki

[Pillows]

Vicki, I am so sorry that you have had those rude experiences where people have made snap judgements and you felt like you had to keep quiet about the surgery. I think it is awful how people that have never really been there to the extent we have think that people who have this surgery are vain and impulsive. The more research I do, the more I know that this is not the easy route to take. I would like to say that I know that once we get stationed somewhere new I will still tell people about the surgery, but I don't honestly know, not having been there myself. I do hope that if I am shy in the future about it that I will at least have the courage to let someone else in on it if I hear that they may be considering it. This whole attitude about it being the lazy way out is one of the main reasons that my in-laws do not know yet about it. I already have so much pain inside about how I was not welcomed into their family based a lot on my weight, that I want to have real results and be stable in my new lifestyle before they know the particulars. Fortunately living clear on the opposite side of the country will afford me time to do this to some extent without having to outright lie. Good job on going to the gym and making amends though. Kudos to Vicki.
Janae

[lilacbloom]

i have heard about various forms of weightloss surgery while my friend was looking for the best method to lose weight and help in her obesity.while researching, we came across something called stapling.we didnt know much about it and she actually considered going for that. later on a forum, i found some information about stapling and they were not at all encouraging.here is what i read, among many others:Weight Loss - What about Stapling it?

after making her read this, we concluded that this is just not the method for her!

[DocSanae]

lilacbloom,
Stapling as the done the way to the blogger's father is probably even not done now, this person's surgery was done 16 years ago, and many things have changed, including the methods of surgery and the support system.
I have included in this post the link to an overview article on weightloss surgery for professional healthcare providers, published by the American Diabetes Association. This should give you a good perspective on what present day surgery is like. Whatever info you gather, always be sure that is based on the most recent data, not something that came out years ago. Otherwise, you will find yourself in for some unexpected surprises because you based your decisions on data/info that are outdated.

Good luck on your search and research.

[fr1endly2]

AWWW SKINNYDIP...
Your always gonna get negative from the uninformed people on the surgery. I pick and choose who I tell. I personally dont care what people
think for me having this surgery now. IT was my personal choice and I know
it has saved my life. NO one knows what it was like to live in my body
at 310 lbs but me. THAT was horrible..and now I have a chance to enjoy
life again.

THAT scale issue i can relate too. I never weigh but in the AM.
AND i have cut back alot of weighing now that my weight loss
is far smaller. EATING more to loose does work for us. SOMETIMES
we slip into that starvation mode and our body holds on to the fat.
WHEN we eat the little more.....we trick the obdy and it releases
the fat.

HANG in there Vicki we are here for you!
hugzzzzzzzzzzzzz

[freebird]

skinnydip..
it sucks that people have said such to you and makes you uncomfortable now. i hate that people who have never been where we are/were before the surgery make such judgments. personally, i have told everybody and anybody who will liisten about the surgery, but that's probably for the most part because i have gotten to the point that most of the time i don't care what others think, (outside of my family anyways), this surgery is not easy, i can tell that from being here with you all for so long. I haven't told Roo's family about the surgery yet because he asked me not to. He wants them to get to know me and like me before we let them in on this because he thinks they will judge me as lazy and taking the easy way out. i also haven't told them about my narcolepsy yet which sucks because it cuts our visits down so that i can come home and sleep. if i were to fall asleep in the middle of a conversation or go lie down he says they would not understand.

[PeggySue]

Skinnydip, so sorry this had to happen to you! Sometimes people says things that are stupid becuase they just don't understand. In your heart you know that your life is your own and you owe no one an explanation!
My husband had his WLS 5 years ago and never , ever,
did I think then i would have it done. I* am very comfortable who I am, even to the point of my Boss telling me that I am very imtimidating to others { she also said that is a good thing} but having an angina attack in December, no heart problems after all{ figure that out} but all the other co-mobitities that an old lady of 56 can have it was necessary for me.My weight was only 203 but my health was my main concern,Im so veryglad I did it!
So you hug yourself cause you are becoming a 'bird ready to try her wings" with your new lifestyle and attitiude!
Go for it Girl!
Peggy/fargo

[Pillows]

I am sorry you have issues with Roo's family like that sweetie. I am a person that can relate to feeling awkward with your partner's family. Big Hugg.
Janae