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12-23-2008, 03:43 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Cheektowaga, New York
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Weight Statistics November7,2007 Start Date:
MARCH 11,2008 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
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289 lb Start Weight:
171 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
118 lb Weight Loss:
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40.830449827 % % Lost:
1 yr from surgery Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.6407254362 BMI Start:
27.597107438 BMI Current:
28.2426538108 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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wELL HERE GOES ....kENYA wHERE ARE YOU I NEED SOME MAJOR HELP HERE ...oH BOY WHERE DO I START ? WELL A VERY GOOD FRIEND OF MINE FOR AROUND 25 YEARS CONFESSED TO ME TO DAY OR NIGHT THAT SHE WAS IN LOVE WITH ME ....oH MY GOD I CAN'T SLEEP OVER THIS I DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO . SHE ISN'T GAY IT IS JUST ME THAT SHE IS ATTRACTED TO IN DON'T KNOW WHAT TO DO . < I DON'T WANT TO LOSE HER AS A FRIEND BUT CAN'T GO TO THAT LEVEL WITH HER EITHER THIS WHOLE THING IS BLOWING MY MIND . SHE HAS A 19 YEAR OLD AND A FIVE YEAR OLD AND PLUS SHE HAS A BOY FRIEND THAT SHE HAS BEEN WITH FOREVER AND WE ARE ALL GOOD FRIENDS I JUST DON'T KNOW HOW TO HANDLE THIS DO I JUST CARRY ON OUR FRIENDSHIP AS IF THIS NEVER HAPPENED OR WHAT . YES WE HAD A FEW DRINKS TO NIGHT AND SHE SAID SHE HAS BEEN FEELING THIS WAY SINCE ATLEAST 2000 AND SHE WAS JUST AFRAID TO SAY ANYTHING BECAUSE SHE ISN'T ATTRACTED TO ANY OTHER FEMALES JUST ME . WOW WHAT IS A GIRL TO DO I AM TOTAL AND COMPLETELY LOST AND CONFUSED ON WHAT TO DO IN THIS SITUATION DO I JUST CHALK IT OFF AS SHE WAS DRUNK AND TALKING CRAZY AS SHE ASKED ME TO DO BECAUSE SHE WAS EMBARASSED AFTERWARD AND I KNOW THAT SHE WASN'T OR WHAT PLEASE HELP ME THIS IS NOT THE KIND OF ATTENTION THAT I WAS LOOKING FOR BY LOSING WEIGHT BY ALL MEANS
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12-23-2008, 06:39 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Davenport, IA
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Weight Statistics 12/28/06 Start Date:
May 14, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
253 lb Start Weight:
191 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
62 lb Weight Loss:
41 lb Lb Left to Lose:
24.5059288538 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index42.0968047337 BMI Start:
31.780591716 BMI Current:
24.9585798817 BMI Goal:
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I would say as long as you are firm with her and say there is absolutely no way anything is going to happen, then go on like nothing happened. If you see she is trying to make something happen then I would tell her you are uncomfortable and must part ways.
That's a though one.
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12-23-2008, 06:43 AM
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5' 8"
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280 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
126 lb Weight Loss:
4 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45 % % Lost:
Summer 2008 Goal Date:
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I have a girlfriend that I tell all the time..."it's a good thing I'm straight or your husband should be worried." I love her to death....I've always been straight, but there's just something about her...if that makes any sense. We are actually more like sisters!!
I'm sure it was hard for her to admit, and in a way, it's flattering...HOWEVER, I agree with Spikey....you need to stay firm and let her know where you stand on the issue...if you are strong friends, you will get through it....
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12-23-2008, 07:14 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Central Virginia
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127 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
106 lb Weight Loss:
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21.7971191406 BMI Current:
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I think you need to have a discussion with her when you are both sober. You can't just ignore it or it will eventually come between you. Let her know that you are flattered but just want to be friends and that you don't want to lose that friendship. Find out if she can deal with that - hopefully she can.
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12-23-2008, 10:18 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Alabama
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186 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
93 lb Weight Loss:
11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
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30.0179063361 BMI Current:
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OMG is all I can say!!!
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12-23-2008, 11:27 AM
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134 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
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20.9850746269 BMI Current:
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I agree with not quite Barbie, you really need to discuss it with her or it will always be there between you. I think the liquor had something to do with it--I'm sure she is kicking herself for telling you her innermost thoughts. If you two are good friends as you say you are you can work this out, I'm sure she will respect your wishes--if not you may have to move on--but I don't think that will happen. Sometimes people are curious about same sex relationships--hopefully that's all it is. You let her know you are not up for that--and don't drink together unless around other people. Good luck.
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12-23-2008, 11:54 AM
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142 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
125 lb Weight Loss:
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24.3715820312 BMI Current:
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OMG Im with christy. I would be scratching my head too~!!!
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12-23-2008, 01:52 PM
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Who knew that weight loss would make a straight girl wanting another woman......just a joke but seriously maybe she was just drunk and didn't know what she was saying. If she mentions it again I would discuss it with her and stand firmly with what you believe. If your friendship is strong, you could over come this. I have a coworker who tells me all the time that when I speak in a foreign language it turns her on and too bad I wasn't male but she and I are both straight. I don't make a big deal out of it. In fact it is like our little joke.
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12-23-2008, 02:00 PM
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And too, if she had enough to drink, she probably doesn't even remember saying anything to you about it. The thing is, now you know, but how can you just not talk about it and act like it never happened? I think you need to talk to her about it.
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12-23-2008, 02:16 PM
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HERE I AM!!!!! WOW poopoo!
liquor is liquid courage!!!! i doubt highly that she has or will forget she said it. if anything she is probably embarassed if there has been silence between you two since. i agree with barb wholeheartedly. dont avoid it. good friends talk things out, stick by eachother and dont pressure eachother into things. that said, she has to understand that you dont "want her" that way but you can TOTALLY continue being friends. you may be even better friends because of it.
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