Shorty Needs Help !!

Shorty · 03-22-2006, 03:32 PM

I am 3 years and 3 months post op. I was 326 and was down to 156 now I have gained 22 #'s back! I am in a panic. I can eat more, hardly ever get sick. I had some cosmetic surgery done in Aug. 2005, got away from my Curves workouts, moved in with my Finance', cook more, eat more! I think about food all the time etc. for the lst 3 years I had no appetite, no desire for food, I have developed bad habits. Any help or suggestions would be apprecaited.

CraigT · 03-22-2006, 03:56 PM

Hey Shorty,

Welcome to Renewedreflections. I hope you dont mind that I moved your post to it's own thread.

The first thing I would say is that you have done the right thing by reaching out. Take a deep breath and relax. Panicing has NEVER done any of us any good.

Some others will chime in I'm sure, but being 9 years PostOp, one of the backwards things I had to learn was to stop fighting this. If it was a matter of my ability to fight this mental obsession off, then I would have never been in a desperate enough position to get gastric bypass. Remember that most people dont have to lie on a cold OR table with a surgeons hands in their gut in order to lose weight.

When you had weight loss surgery you had to at some point admit that you couldn't win this battle on your own. You had to ask for help.

Now that you are this far post op, you are now learning that the food nor tummy was the problem. They were symptoms. Most of us didn't really have eating problems, we had living problems. Once we come to this realization, we find that here too we are just not qualified to win this battle without the help of others. This kiddo, is the GOOD news.

Welcome home. You have indeed found this help. We rely on God and each other to quiet the raging voices of compulsive eating and other behaviors.

This will be a process, not a quick fix. When you are looking for a true break-thru, you don't find it in the drive-thru.

Raise the white flag of defeat. You cannot win this battle on your own. The quicker you admit defeat with this, the sooner a loving God can have all of us really help in your recovery. The cool part is that you are not alone.

Now, step away from the Ben and Jerry's...... and get ready for a tsunami of hugs from all of the wonderful folks here you just happen to be going through the same thing you are.

Blessings,

RobinZ · 03-22-2006, 08:01 PM

Hey Shorty,

I don't have advice, I'm only 4 months post-op, but I do have HUGS for you. I wish you all the best. Please keep us posted!

DocSanae · 03-23-2006, 03:38 AM

Welcome to the board, Shorty!

No need to panic, I think you know very well yourself that panic will not help you. Thank you for trusting us and reaching out for help.
You know, everyone gets off track from time to time, and that's why we are here, to share what's bugging you. Post, vent, here, or join us in chat.
Don't commiserate, you know you have done extremely well. You have been given the power within yourself to make this right, so trust yourself that you can get back on track.

Write down 10 reasons you decided to make this journey.
Write down 10 things that have changed for you, that are good for you, since you've had this surgery.
Are they worth the effort you have made up to now?
Are they worth the effort for you to keep on going?
I am sure they all are.

The first thing for anyone to do, is to go back to the basics. No matter where you are on your journey, whether only days out, weeks out, months out, or years out. The first thing for you to go back to the basics of where you are--for you, the rule of the pouch.

No need to feel guilty that you have food on your mind all the time, food, after all, is what we need to survive. Just make sure that you are making the right choices with them.
Check out how much you are actually eating, utilize fitday, or any other tool that might help, such as
http://www.ars.usda.gov/Services/docs.htm?docid=7783
http://www.mypyramidtracker.gov
Utilize the recipe section of the main pages of this forum, as well.
http://www.renewedreflections.com/ca...ypass-recipes/

I can see in your profile that you love dancing. Dancing is good exercise.
You may have stopped going to Curves, but maybe you can take up dancing for exercise. Do something that you love, and will give you exercise while you are at it. Kill two birds with one stone, so to speak.

Remember, everyone messes up once in a while. (I'll tell you a secret, Craig's known to have messed up, but don't let the others know

, I think he's going to wring my neck if he finds out that I've blabbed

) But, I give him credit, he has some great articles and insight in the main pages of this site, so why don't you check out everything he's written that's in Reflections in the home site of RenewedReflections,http://www.renewedreflections.com/category/reflections/ something in there might give you inspiration.
Know that you have been gifted with the strength within you to make it through, so you can.

May your journey go well.

__________________

fr1endly2 · 03-23-2006, 06:56 AM

i would first off relax take a deep breath!

THEN i would go on a strict diet of our POUCH rules
I know once u rid ur cravings they will get back in control.
THAT means tons of water...
Eating protein first, and more protein
and not to many carbs! KEEP them
lo under 40.
I do believe those foods trigger us to eat more and more.
GOOD LUCK!
but u have to get it in control and you can!
GOOD LUCK
and we are here to help get you back on track!

GOOD LUCK
LISA
xoxo

EATING YOUR PROTEINS FIRST

Pillows · 03-23-2006, 10:10 AM

Hey shorty, I hope that you dance away the extra pounds and start feeling motivated again. I love to dance too, so that is something we have in common. Just come and participate here when you can and we will try our best to give you all the support and love one person can handle. Good luck.
Janae

Shorty · 03-23-2006, 03:08 PM

My sweet daughter in law who had surgery 4 weeks ago directed me to this website. You are all terrific. I am feeling somewhat better already. You are correct that the problem is life and life's situations that are bothering me.....not food. I know that in my heart of hearts, I knew it way before WLS and I know it now. I have returned to Curves and am I praying that God will help me.. I know He has brought me this far and He will not let me fail now.

Thank you for the hugs and kind words. I am off to write down the 10 reasons why I had WLS and the 10 things that have changed in my life. Only problem is I have way more than just "l0" things to write about. My life has changed in so many areas it's unreal!

Pillows · 03-23-2006, 06:26 PM

Hey Shorty, maybe you wouldn't mind sharing some of your list when you are done here on the message board? maybe on the daily reflections or thoughts forum? That would be really great to read. Good luck with your list, and I am really glad that you found us.
Janae

03-22-2006, 03:56 PM	#2 (permalink)
CraigT Administrator Join Date: Oct 2005 Posts: 417 Please Enter Height:	Hey Shorty, Welcome to Renewedreflections. I hope you dont mind that I moved your post to it's own thread. The first thing I would say is that you have done the right thing by reaching out. Take a deep breath and relax. Panicing has NEVER done any of us any good. Some others will chime in I'm sure, but being 9 years PostOp, one of the backwards things I had to learn was to stop fighting this. If it was a matter of my ability to fight this mental obsession off, then I would have never been in a desperate enough position to get gastric bypass. Remember that most people dont have to lie on a cold OR table with a surgeons hands in their gut in order to lose weight. When you had weight loss surgery you had to at some point admit that you couldn't win this battle on your own. You had to ask for help. Now that you are this far post op, you are now learning that the food nor tummy was the problem. They were symptoms. Most of us didn't really have eating problems, we had living problems. Once we come to this realization, we find that here too we are just not qualified to win this battle without the help of others. This kiddo, is the GOOD news. Welcome home. You have indeed found this help. We rely on God and each other to quiet the raging voices of compulsive eating and other behaviors. This will be a process, not a quick fix. When you are looking for a true break-thru, you don't find it in the drive-thru. Raise the white flag of defeat. You cannot win this battle on your own. The quicker you admit defeat with this, the sooner a loving God can have all of us really help in your recovery. The cool part is that you are not alone. Now, step away from the Ben and Jerry's...... and get ready for a tsunami of hugs from all of the wonderful folks here you just happen to be going through the same thing you are. Blessings, __________________ Craig T 11 years PostOp Open RNY - 2 TT's Last edited by CraigT : 03-23-2006 at 01:02 PM.

03-22-2006, 08:01 PM	#3 (permalink)
RobinZ Big Loser Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Newburgh, NY Posts: 131 Please Enter Height:	Hey Shorty, I don't have advice, I'm only 4 months post-op, but I do have HUGS for you. I wish you all the best. Please keep us posted! __________________ Hugs - RobinZ

03-23-2006, 03:38 AM	#4 (permalink)
DocSanae Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan Posts: 8,677 Blog Entries: 2 5' 5" Height:	Welcome to the board, Shorty! No need to panic, I think you know very well yourself that panic will not help you. Thank you for trusting us and reaching out for help. You know, everyone gets off track from time to time, and that's why we are here, to share what's bugging you. Post, vent, here, or join us in chat. Don't commiserate, you know you have done extremely well. You have been given the power within yourself to make this right, so trust yourself that you can get back on track. Write down 10 reasons you decided to make this journey. Write down 10 things that have changed for you, that are good for you, since you've had this surgery. Are they worth the effort you have made up to now? Are they worth the effort for you to keep on going? I am sure they all are. The first thing for anyone to do, is to go back to the basics. No matter where you are on your journey, whether only days out, weeks out, months out, or years out. The first thing for you to go back to the basics of where you are--for you, the rule of the pouch. No need to feel guilty that you have food on your mind all the time, food, after all, is what we need to survive. Just make sure that you are making the right choices with them. Check out how much you are actually eating, utilize fitday, or any other tool that might help, such as http://www.ars.usda.gov/Services/docs.htm?docid=7783 http://www.mypyramidtracker.gov Utilize the recipe section of the main pages of this forum, as well. http://www.renewedreflections.com/ca...ypass-recipes/ I can see in your profile that you love dancing. Dancing is good exercise. You may have stopped going to Curves, but maybe you can take up dancing for exercise. Do something that you love, and will give you exercise while you are at it. Kill two birds with one stone, so to speak. Remember, everyone messes up once in a while. (I'll tell you a secret, Craig's known to have messed up, but don't let the others know , I think he's going to wring my neck if he finds out that I've blabbed ) But, I give him credit, he has some great articles and insight in the main pages of this site, so why don't you check out everything he's written that's in Reflections in the home site of RenewedReflections,http://www.renewedreflections.com/category/reflections/ something in there might give you inspiration. Know that you have been gifted with the strength within you to make it through, so you can. May your journey go well. __________________ __________________ "In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun." Just a li'le bit 'bout myself Last edited by DocSanae : 03-23-2006 at 10:09 AM.

03-23-2006, 06:56 AM	#5 (permalink)
fr1endly2 Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY Posts: 6,756 Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date: Please Enter Height: 310 lb Start Weight: 167 lb Current Weight: 159 lb Goal Weight: 143 lb Weight Loss: 8 lb Lb Left to Lose: 46.1290322581 % % Lost: Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start: 27 BMI Current: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	i would first off relax take a deep breath! THEN i would go on a strict diet of our POUCH rules I know once u rid ur cravings they will get back in control. THAT means tons of water... Eating protein first, and more protein and not to many carbs! KEEP them lo under 40. I do believe those foods trigger us to eat more and more. GOOD LUCK! but u have to get it in control and you can! GOOD LUCK and we are here to help get you back on track! GOOD LUCK LISA xoxo EATING YOUR PROTEINS FIRST __________________ Last edited by CraigT : 03-23-2006 at 07:47 AM.

03-23-2006, 10:10 AM	#6 (permalink)
Pillows Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: McGuire Air Force Base, New Jersey, USA Posts: 2,495 Please Enter Height:	Hey shorty, I hope that you dance away the extra pounds and start feeling motivated again. I love to dance too, so that is something we have in common. Just come and participate here when you can and we will try our best to give you all the support and love one person can handle. Good luck. Janae __________________ "Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect...it means that you have learned to see past the imperfections. " Surgery date April 4th 2006



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03-22-2006, 03:32 PM	#1 (permalink)
Shorty Newbie Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 5 Please Enter Height:	I am 3 years and 3 months post op. I was 326 and was down to 156 now I have gained 22 #'s back! I am in a panic. I can eat more, hardly ever get sick. I had some cosmetic surgery done in Aug. 2005, got away from my Curves workouts, moved in with my Finance', cook more, eat more! I think about food all the time etc. for the lst 3 years I had no appetite, no desire for food, I have developed bad habits. Any help or suggestions would be apprecaited.

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03-23-2006, 03:08 PM	#7 (permalink)
Shorty Newbie Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: Arizona Posts: 5 Please Enter Height:	My sweet daughter in law who had surgery 4 weeks ago directed me to this website. You are all terrific. I am feeling somewhat better already. You are correct that the problem is life and life's situations that are bothering me.....not food. I know that in my heart of hearts, I knew it way before WLS and I know it now. I have returned to Curves and am I praying that God will help me.. I know He has brought me this far and He will not let me fail now. Thank you for the hugs and kind words. I am off to write down the 10 reasons why I had WLS and the 10 things that have changed in my life. Only problem is I have way more than just "l0" things to write about. My life has changed in so many areas it's unreal!

03-23-2006, 06:26 PM	#8 (permalink)
Pillows Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: McGuire Air Force Base, New Jersey, USA Posts: 2,495 Please Enter Height:	Hey Shorty, maybe you wouldn't mind sharing some of your list when you are done here on the message board? maybe on the daily reflections or thoughts forum? That would be really great to read. Good luck with your list, and I am really glad that you found us. Janae __________________ "Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect...it means that you have learned to see past the imperfections. " Surgery date April 4th 2006

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