Thinking.

schippers · 06-23-2007, 11:48 AM

just some things on my mind,
went shopping today, and I hate to shop for clothes, it makes me grumpy, but my Husband was going to help me pick out a goal dress to get for a few months after opperation, so I could hang it and look at evry day, and be encouraged, well I found one size 16, understand im in a 24 right now if I wore dresses which I dont!! it was so pretty, but I put it back , couldint imagine my selfe ever wearing anything like it , it was so hard to bye something like that cause I just doubted I would ever wear it and didint want to waste my Money.so I bought a fishing pole and we went fishing, lol
I am woundering if what I have herd is true, some people that have the by pass loose there marriages over it for one reason or another, has any one had a change in there realtionships, for the bad scence the opperation, I so dearly love my Husband and so hope are relationship dosent suffer from my choice to do this.
I was in the store and watching people bye food and I found my selfe looking at ever body's carts at the choice of food they make and for the most part junk.was what I saw,so after we got done shopping we went to the little resturant in the store and got some lunch, I relized that soon my view on food would have to change and my day's would not be able to be all about food food food, but I thought that at this point to be so foregin, what will I replace this old habit with , that is fun and something to look forward to , as all my life I have looked forward to eatting and byeing food, and making food , and planning dinners, and cookouts,I dont know how to live outside of the idea of food food food.so I truley started tohave a panic attack and had to go to the car I thought I was loosing my mind!!!!this upcoming opperation, food , clothes, body image,recovery,3 years from now, these things are controlling my thoughts, I just want to turn it off for a while, wish I could just go and get it done tomarrow and get the waiting out of the waite, as Patients has never been a strong point for me.any how thanks for letting me vent .
Hugs to all.
Connie.

Kenyar · 06-23-2007, 11:59 AM

This is all very normal. We've all gone thru it at some point or are still going thru it. I'm going thru it myself

I too dwell on what the future will be like; how i will feel what i will look like etc. As far as replacing bad habits with new good habits, you will find your way. We all do.
I think you should take the time that you have to wait and really do some soul searching, figure out the reason WHY you want this surgery. Dont worry about your relationship suffering. Dont worry about how things will change until you are there. Just know that they will.

Right now, use this time to prepare yourself for the idea.

24 to 16 is a very realistic goal in terms of clothing. If you are uncomfortable with the dress, buy a pair of jeans or a pair of shorts. It will motivate you like you wouldnt believe.

I know its all easier said than done but take it easy.

DocSanae · 06-23-2007, 12:07 PM

A couple of threads for you to read.
You may or may not like what is discussed, but it should help give you some insight into what you need to know and understand.

http://www.renewedreflections.com/fo...s-husband.html

http://www.renewedreflections.com/fo...dear-food.html

(((((HUGS)))))

06-23-2007, 11:48 AM	#1 (permalink)
schippers Newbie Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Norway,but born and raised in Ohio. Posts: 6 Weight Statistics March the 5th,2007 Start Date: will find out August the 8th this year. Surgery Date: Please Enter Height: 240 lb Start Weight: 233 lb Current Weight: 130 lb Goal Weight: 7 lb Weight Loss: 103 lb Lb Left to Lose: 2.91666666667 % % Lost: july the 4th 2008 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 39.9 BMI Start: 38 BMI Current: 20 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	Thinking. just some things on my mind, went shopping today, and I hate to shop for clothes, it makes me grumpy, but my Husband was going to help me pick out a goal dress to get for a few months after opperation, so I could hang it and look at evry day, and be encouraged, well I found one size 16, understand im in a 24 right now if I wore dresses which I dont!! it was so pretty, but I put it back , couldint imagine my selfe ever wearing anything like it , it was so hard to bye something like that cause I just doubted I would ever wear it and didint want to waste my Money.so I bought a fishing pole and we went fishing, lol I am woundering if what I have herd is true, some people that have the by pass loose there marriages over it for one reason or another, has any one had a change in there realtionships, for the bad scence the opperation, I so dearly love my Husband and so hope are relationship dosent suffer from my choice to do this. I was in the store and watching people bye food and I found my selfe looking at ever body's carts at the choice of food they make and for the most part junk.was what I saw,so after we got done shopping we went to the little resturant in the store and got some lunch, I relized that soon my view on food would have to change and my day's would not be able to be all about food food food, but I thought that at this point to be so foregin, what will I replace this old habit with , that is fun and something to look forward to , as all my life I have looked forward to eatting and byeing food, and making food , and planning dinners, and cookouts,I dont know how to live outside of the idea of food food food.so I truley started tohave a panic attack and had to go to the car I thought I was loosing my mind!!!!this upcoming opperation, food , clothes, body image,recovery,3 years from now, these things are controlling my thoughts, I just want to turn it off for a while, wish I could just go and get it done tomarrow and get the waiting out of the waite, as Patients has never been a strong point for me.any how thanks for letting me vent . Hugs to all. Connie. __________________ SCHIPPERS

06-23-2007, 11:59 AM	#2 (permalink)
Kenyar Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Mount Vernon, NY Posts: 7,738 Weight Statistics 4/1/07 Start Date: 4/19/07 Surgery Date: 5' 9" Height: 258 lb Start Weight: 158 lb Current Weight: 165 lb Goal Weight: 100 lb Weight Loss: -7 lb Lb Left to Lose: 38.7596899225 % % Lost: 04/19/2008 Goal Date: Body Mass Index 38.0957781979 BMI Start: 23.3299726948 BMI Current: 24.36357908 BMI Goal: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	This is all very normal. We've all gone thru it at some point or are still going thru it. I'm going thru it myself I too dwell on what the future will be like; how i will feel what i will look like etc. As far as replacing bad habits with new good habits, you will find your way. We all do. I think you should take the time that you have to wait and really do some soul searching, figure out the reason WHY you want this surgery. Dont worry about your relationship suffering. Dont worry about how things will change until you are there. Just know that they will. Right now, use this time to prepare yourself for the idea. 24 to 16 is a very realistic goal in terms of clothing. If you are uncomfortable with the dress, buy a pair of jeans or a pair of shorts. It will motivate you like you wouldnt believe. I know its all easier said than done but take it easy. __________________ Anything worth having is worth working for Kenya R. Lap RNY 4/19/07

06-23-2007, 12:07 PM	#3 (permalink)
DocSanae Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan Posts: 9,861 Blog Entries: 2 5' 5" Height:	A couple of threads for you to read. You may or may not like what is discussed, but it should help give you some insight into what you need to know and understand. http://www.renewedreflections.com/fo...s-husband.html http://www.renewedreflections.com/fo...dear-food.html (((((HUGS))))) __________________ "In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun." Just a li'l bit 'bout myself

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