[Kenyar]

You know how some of us have trouble accepting that we are thinner? Let me explain. FOR ME, when i look in the mirror, i dont see my weight loss at all. i KNOW i've lost weght because i buy smaller clothing, and I see it in pictures sometimes, BUT if i look in the mirror i look the same to me.

I watched a talk show on anorexia today. and it got me thinking, ok panicking. i am wondering what's the difference between THAT and the lag that some of us experience in terms of accepting the fact that we have actually lost weight?

Am I sick? Is my lag an illness or just a lag? I understand that anorexia is a mental illness and has a lot to do with control. and that people intentionally starve themselves. well i am not intentionally starving. i forget to eat sometimes as a result of WLS of course, but i dont stress eating either. and I dont see me how everyone else does. am i going to have a problem? I am very nervous about this. I'm afraid that when I hit my goal, I will not be satisfied with how I look being that I dont see it. And then I will keep going or obsess over continuing to lose because of this. I am going to my first psych appt tomorrow afternoon, so I have faith that there is help for me, but I just thought I would put this out there incase anyone felt the same but was scared to post.

Doc, are there any published stats or studies on WLS patients who uncovered actual eating disorders along the journey?

[fr1endly2]

nope its normal!
i dont see m!
yself thin
and im over two years out

[rozzy345]

Kenya, I know how you feel. I think, or should I say I hope, the difference is that we won't stop eating because we can not see a change. Their view is so distorted that they see their body larger than it is. We just see our body the way it was. If that makes sense.

Roz

[Kenyar]

i guess that makes sense BUT i am wondering if my perception of me motivates me to strive for a weight thats dangerously low. my surgeon wanted me at 180 which is a little less than 20 lbs away, MY GOAL is 150. which i am re-thinking right about now to be honest. now, at the weight that i am now i dont see much improvement in the mirror. maybe i am over analyzing this...

[fr1endly2]

got to view you in pics not the mirror!
cause takes time for the brain to cactch
up

[terry]

kenya when i look ed at your befor and after pitcure girl you look good i stared at the after pic because your stomach was so flat i said i wanna look like that when i lose 61 pounds like you dont stress honest you look amazing

[Kenyar]

oh thank you terry. i appreciate that. thank you.

[LadyLisa]

I know when I lost all my weight the last time I did not see it coming off and I was working out more and more and more, every one was saying how good I looked but to me I just wasn't fit enough. Not necessarily thin but fit an that can be a problem as well. And then when I got sick and started gaining weight back I didn't see that really either. I think I was afraid to face all my hard work slipping away. I have been wondering about this again as well and I will be keeping an eye on this part of my weight loss this time I don't want it to get ahead of me. And I think that knowing is half the battle so if you know you have lost weight and see it on the scale and in your clothing keep that close and realize it is not lying to you. And if you were heavy for a long time well it may take a long time for you to look at yourself as no longer being heavy.

[bren]

I'm a year out tomorrow and I don't see myself as thin. I'm at 148lbs wearing a size 6-8 jeans and I still feel fat and I want to lose another 18lbs because I think I'll be small enough then.. go figure

[Kenyar]

Originally Posted by bren

I'm a year out tomorrow and I don't see myself as thin. I'm at 148lbs wearing a size 6-8 jeans and I still feel fat and I want to lose another 18lbs because I think I'll be small enough then.. go figure

can i ask you a question about this? i just think this might be along the path of what i am saying. you dont think you are thin enough so you want to lose another 18...do you think when you lose another 18 you will want to lose another 18?