[LittleLisaMarie]

I am a true believer in therapy in order to keep on track with many things in life. Some agree and some dont . Here is an article i just read. I feel that since i began with therapy it has helped me stay or get back on course with alot of things in my life. It is hard to take this journey alone and if you do or dont have a strong support at home its a nice place to go to let it all out.



What is Psychotherapy?

Psychotherapists are not just people who give you advice. Psychotherapy is not simple problem-solving. Therapy produces change in your life, but not primarily because of advice you get from the therapist.
In reality, therapy is a much, much richer experience. Psychotherapy is a specialized technique which is effective in helping you cope with a wide range of difficulties. It can produce lasting change in your life.

“Specialized techniques of caring have been developed which have the potential to produce change in human life, even when there are deep and persistent problems.
“Psychotherapy helps individuals explore and resolve more enduring and deeply felt sources of conflict and dissatisfaction in their lives, so that they will gain confidence and inner wholeness.
“Building an alliance of trust with the therapist leads to a reshaping of significant emotional experiences, and builds confidence and wholeness in new and enduring relationships. It provides the presence of ‘personhood,’ not just technique.” --Gary Hellman

The foundation of psychotherapy is the relationship you establish with the therapist. Research has shown that the technique the therapist uses is not as important as the relationship you build together. As therapy progresses and trust is established, you will actually use the relationship between you and your therapist as a workspace, to resolve problems in your life.
Because the relationship with the therapist is so essential to the process, it is important to find a therapist to whom you feel connected, with whom you feel safe. In psychotherapy, you intentionally make yourself deeply vulnerable to another human being. That is a very frightening assignment indeed. But you must realize it is this very process of self revealing and trust building that can be the means of your healing. At the end of this frightening and difficult path lies the inner wholeness you long for.
Obviously, if you are to make yourself so vulnerable, you must feel safe.



Love ya
LittleLisaMarie

[DocSanae]

Thank you for this thread, LisaMarie.
Psychotherapy is not giving you instructions or advice, it's giving you tools that let you explore yourself, understand, and resolve. So, if you may find yourself shopping around some before you can find someone you *click* with.

[LittleLisaMarie]

Yes Doc and that is important in long term success with this surgery. Because issues that cause us to eat before surgery dont go away with the surgery, we need to explore and try to figure them out before during and after the surgery!

LittleLisaMarie

[ChuppyGirl]

very interesting post. Thanks for sharing it with us. Gotta go for grocery shopping will read it throughly later.

bye for now
Hanadi

[DocSanae]

Originally Posted by LittleLisaMarie

Yes Doc and that is important in long term success with this surgery. Because issues that cause us to eat before surgery dont go away with the surgery, we need to explore and try to figure them out before during and after the surgery!

LittleLisaMarie

That is soooo correct. The world doesn't change because you've had gastric bypass, unfortulately, the same old world is out there, so you need to learn what to change in how you deal with the world, and that is probably one of the most difficult things you find yourself facing post op. To do so, you need both peer and professional support.