[Kenyar]

Maybe you guys can share some ideas with me. I grabbed a "big people" plate today. I guess because I was being lazy and didnt want to wash the saucer i usualy use; part of me also thought i could handle eating off an adult size plate. boy was i wrong.

I didnt load it up like i would have pre-op. But i did put more than i would have on my itty bitty plate. so i guess my question is; how do you all handle the eyes being bigger than the pouch? why is it, the bigger the plate the more we try to pile on eventhough we know good and well we cant eat it all. now im sitting here staring at 3/4 of what i put on the plate... i know the surgery doesnt "fix" the issue itself. but how do we address and fix a compulsive eating issue? where do you begin? im not upset about anything. i have never felt more content with my life so i am not eating out of emotion, i dont know why i always try to push the limits when eating


just curious what your thoughts are.

[genmel]

I don't know if we ever get over that. I fixed the big thanksgiving and christmas dinners and both times, i filled my plate full. Both times I pushed it and ended up outside sick. I decided to buy the little plastic plates for our next get together to see if that would help. I just don't know.

[Kenyar]

i usually use this salad plate ( i guess thats what its called) but im just wondering if "this" will ever be over? LOL. I never even really thought about it until now....i dunno.

[Trulykath]

I never used smaller plates or utensils.....I modified what I put on the regular plates and took smaller bites....my doctor wanted us to start off where we would end up...thus using regular stuff and eating 3 meals a day so we didn't have so much adjustment down the road....

[Kenyar]

well my dr never said i HAD to use smaller plates. it was a choice....but regardless of what size plate you use, if you were a compulsive eater, at some point you will attempt to fill it up KNOWING FULL WELL all you can eat is a cup of food or less; unless of course you are "cured" of your compulsive disorder... and i am just wondering how those who suffer from this are dealing with it.

[SHH]

Kenyar,

I often still fill a big plate, if I am at a buffet or a cocktail party where h'or doerves are served. My problem is that everything looks SO GOOD, and there are times I STILL WANT IT ALL! And, at more than two years out...sometimes I CAN eat a lot of it.

S

[Corrine]

I'm religious about measuring/weighing the food I eat, and recording it (fitday is my choice). It's the only way for me to control a lifetime of overeating.

After years of dieting, I thought I was good at judgeing amounts/weights. That definately isn't the case cause I've recently had a couple of days where I guessed the quantity and then went and weighed it. My guessing was a minimum of 20% over the actual figure right across the board.

I don't know that I can ever rely upon myself to determine an appropriate portion of anything and hunger never factored into my life - I ate cause I liked food.

[clancythecamper]

Several thoughts - 1- old habits die hard.... was it a conscious decision to put too much or did you go on auto-pilot? 2 - Do you wander why grocery carts are so big? It's because it's human nature to fill them up (according to the manager I used to work for) that's why they are so big, so you spend more money. Could it be the same psych process for plates? Its there, so fill it up? 3 - I appreciate what Kath is saying, but I also almost always use a salad/breakfast size plate and it's not uncommon to put more than I'll eat. One of the things I have really been working on is listening to my body and knowing when to stop. That's my 3 cents.

[Kenyar]

VERY TRUE. i did stop though thats got to count for something. lol. and i appreciste what kath is saying as well as everyone else. im just trying to brainstorm here.

just putting all that on the plate bothers me a bit. i guess its not as bad as i think it is? because i put it on the plate but i didnt eat it...i dunno what to think or how to think about it. the past coupld of days i have taken a bigger plate now that i think about it, and i think i put more food on it each time but didnt eat it all. ended up throwing most of it out. but why is that?

[clancythecamper]

Who knows. I think being able to listen to your body and quit eating is a huge accomplishment. I still struggle with this too, sometimes I think we're just hungrier than others and when I genuinely get hungry I really have to watch it. One of my ways to cope with the hungry horrors is sf oatmeal, it fills me up nicely and its good for ya.