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12-20-2006, 08:52 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: illinois
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178 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
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29 BMI Current:
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Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  how do you cope? 12-20-06
how the heck do you cope when your kids make ya wanna knaw your heart out?
well i don't,i didn't eat rite or sleep or nuthin,imma mess,i lost 6 pounds in 3 days.lil brat,but i love her and wouldn't trade her for nuthin.
huggs
christy
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12-20-2006, 12:49 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NYC ~ Love it!!!
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|  Well....
....I'm only have Isabella...and she is ONLY 3 yrs....
But...whenever I am overwhelmed...and things are difficult and seem impossible the only thing I know I can do is pray!
I love the verse in the bible from Ephesians 3:20 saying, "Now to [God] who is able to do immeasurably MORE than we can ask...or imagine..." | |
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12-20-2006, 05:44 PM
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You just went through a megga-tough time. You are human after all. I would have been a real case. I think that you handled pretty good. Prayer is great like Deb says.
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12-20-2006, 06:19 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: MW
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I'm so glad to hear that she's safe now and doing well. Phew....please do continue to update us. Big hugs and prayers coming your way..
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12-20-2006, 07:28 PM
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What you just went through is a nightmare, truthfully, I won't know how I'll be able to cope with something like that, unless I find myself facing it.
However, in general, when someone upsets me, I think and try to see how the scenery and things look from the other person's point of view. With my kids, I also tried to remember how I felt at their age--though, granted, many things about the world have changed quite a bit since my childhood. (Since I've been a Mom for 30 years, up to now, this has worked pretty well for me.)
Then I pick up a book and a music CD and block out the world for a while. Just spending a few hours away from the problem often gives me a better perspective.
Oh, spending an hour or so at the gym, going for a walk, going off to the tennis courst, a good physical workout of some sort, is also an alternative.
If something other than a person upsets me, I pick up a book and a music CD ASAP and block out the world for a while. Or go to the gym or tennis court.
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04-28-2007, 08:40 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Oklahoma City, Okla USA
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165 lb Weight Loss:
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29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
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I think the hardest thing has been to learn to cope without food. I had to learn to cope with a lot of hard hard things. When I was just 2 yrs out the man I was with committed suicide, then several days later I was assaulted quite brutually by someone in a 'hero' position, then diagnosed with cancer and told to put things in order. I already live with medical conditions with no cure so on top of that..wow.
lemme tell ya...cope with all that? huh? how? did I try turning to food? what's funny is for once in my life I just couldn't eat, hardly ate for months on end got really, really thin, ran every day, hardly ate..the cancer issue is in holding pattern at this point..we just kind of ignore this issue in my life and don't talk about it but have things in order just in case.
But cope..I had absolutely came to a point I HAD to learn to cope, how to relax and how most of all to just make it through each day. and it IS possible...without food as a crutch!
Thank goodness my mum is in the mental health field and had talked long and hard about not just replacing food with something else.
Life is good...it really is and food is great..it is a tool to stay strong and healthy if --used wisely- this is the only thing I really can say about food anymore. Use it wisely and it will treat ya right. LOL
Gotta have humor in the end don't we?
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05-02-2007, 01:13 PM
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Sometimes I don't cope well under stress. That is why I weigh 356 lbs. I use food to relieve the stress for me. I would like to think that I pray when I get so upset or when someone pushes my buttons but to be honest lots of time I react first and then I pray. I have that all backwards. I have a teen and I tell you sometimes I wonder will I make it until she is grown. I can not tell you the drama that she has going on in her life. LOL
If it's not one thing it's another. Last night she found a spider in her room. Lord you would have thought this world was surely coming to and end. She was in and out of my bedroom at least a 100 times. "What if it bites me? What if it has babies someplace in my room? Can I sleep with you and dad? OMG PLEEZE your killing me here. Don't you know I am already stressed out enough about the insurance and the drama in my life. LOL
Give me a break kid it's only a spider mine is worse than your drama. LOL
Ok so I need to pray more that would be my answer!!!
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05-02-2007, 02:35 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Raleigh, NC
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| Coping with Kids
From reading the posts, it does sound like you have been having some issues for quite some time. I do understand that, my daughter and I have had our share of issues over the years. She just turned 18 on the 20th. I have been a single mother more then I have been married, and my second husband was awful to her when I was not around and I did not know until I left him.
This has caused alot of problems after the fact. I have worked hard to help her get through this with everything I can, counslers, my support and my families support, but sometimes there is still some resentment.
Coping with all of this has not been easy. Sometimes I have turned to food and so has she. However, we are both trying to learn how to find other ways to deal with it now. She and I have joined Curves together.
I think one of the best things that has helped is talking. Your posting here should help. Just keep talking. Talk to who ever you need too.
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