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04-23-2008, 04:56 AM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: In saudi arabia but I am from the UK
Posts: 141
Weight Statistics 1st march 2008 Start Date:
march 8th 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
234 lb Start Weight:
100 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
134 lb Weight Loss:
-15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
57.264957265 % % Lost:
march 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.2090835797 BMI Start:
18.8927707605 BMI Current:
21.7266863746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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hi all,
just a bit worried about my husband, he has supported me in my wls and has been there for me there is 10yrs difference in age i am now 53 which is what spurred me on to change my life for the second half lol anyway he has started to exercise quite a lot, he isnt overweight at all and fit for his age but hes weighing himself and telling me what hes lost and im worried why is he doing this like hes trying to keep in front as my weight loss draws nearer to his weight ive told him he looks fine and theres no need to wear himself out like this and leaving food and throwing it away and its all healthy stuff is he just feeling insecure do ya think i love him dearly and am really worried ive tried talking to him about it but he just says he dosent need all the food thats all im at at loss as he works long hard hours and is up exercising at 4 30am every morning what do you think any ideas thanks jx
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04-23-2008, 06:51 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Central Virginia
Posts: 2,952
Weight Statistics 4/30/2007 Start Date:
9/5/07 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
233 lb Start Weight:
127 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
106 lb Weight Loss:
2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.4935622318 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index39.9899902344 BMI Start:
21.7971191406 BMI Current:
21.4538574219 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Is he 10 years younger, or 10 older? What's his height vs: weight? Assuming he's fit and not the slightest bit overweight, I still wouldn't worry about his eating less. I seriously doubt he will starve himself. I think he's seeing you taking action to ensure your health in you "old" age and he's realizing that he needs to work at that too if he wants to be around in the future (especially if he's 63).
My hubby had been hitting the treadmill and weights too and I feel that he's just trying to get fit because I am. This surgery affects the whole family! Isn't that something?
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04-23-2008, 07:54 AM
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As you grow older (middle age and beyond) you need less calories to keep up the same body. (In other words, if you eat the same amount you will gain weight!!   )
He sounds like he knows how to take care of himself, so I'd say don't worry.
Let him do what he wants to, if it's a whim, then things will eventually slow down.
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04-23-2008, 08:46 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Mira Loma, CA 91752
Posts: 589
Weight Statistics April 15, 2006 Start Date:
May 10, 2006 Surgery Date:
6' 3"
Height:
365 lb Start Weight:
200 lb Current Weight:
200 lb Goal Weight:
165 lb Weight Loss:
45.2054794521 % % Lost:
anytime Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.6168888889 BMI Start:
24.9955555556 BMI Current:
24.9955555556 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I think he's trying to look good for you too. You're doing your best to lose weight for health and appearance, and he could be doing it too as he's showing you he's interested in your progress. Many men lose weight when their wives have RNY surgery. The smaller portions and healthier foods can affect their husbands too. In some cases the husbands initially gain weight, as they eat the food the wife cannot finish off of her dinner plate.
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04-23-2008, 08:54 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: upstate ny
Posts: 2,091
Weight Statistics 1/10/08, the final endeavor, I WILL SUCCEED!!! Start Date:
3/12/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
316 lb Start Weight:
203 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
35.7594936709 % % Lost:
7/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index55.9707734946 BMI Start:
35.9559082892 BMI Current:
31.8820861678 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I Think He Is Picking Up On Your Healthy Habits....
I Wouldn't Be So Concerned. It's For The Best For Him As Well As You..
Why Not Ask Him If He'd Mind If You Join Him In His Workout????
Lol,
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04-23-2008, 09:22 AM
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Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Texas
Posts: 5,236
Weight Statistics I've lost/gained my whole life!!! Start Date:
Aug 1, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
126 lb Weight Loss:
4 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45 % % Lost:
Summer 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.5692041522 BMI Start:
23.4130622837 BMI Current:
22.8049307958 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I think it just kinda rubs off on them....DDH is talking about going to the gym now, and he's weighing everyday....
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04-23-2008, 09:25 AM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: In saudi arabia but I am from the UK
Posts: 141
Weight Statistics 1st march 2008 Start Date:
march 8th 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
234 lb Start Weight:
100 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
134 lb Weight Loss:
-15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
57.264957265 % % Lost:
march 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.2090835797 BMI Start:
18.8927707605 BMI Current:
21.7266863746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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thanks guys sometimes your too close to to see it, what you say makes sense and hes 10yrs older than me so its good for him and ill stop nagging and let him get on with it, cheers j xx
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04-24-2008, 12:52 PM
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Join Date: May 2007 Location: minnesota
Posts: 5,595
Weight Statistics july 21, 2007 Start Date:
august 17, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.7876106195 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index54.7100550964 BMI Start:
28.5654269972 BMI Current:
25.8218549128 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i agree, he just wants to be healthy too, i wouldnt worry about it
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04-24-2008, 01:01 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: AZ
Posts: 2,178
Weight Statistics January 1, 2008 Start Date:
January 11, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
145 lb Current Weight:
149 lb Goal Weight:
194 lb Weight Loss:
-4 lb Lb Left to Lose:
57.2271386431 % % Lost:
July 4, 2009 FIREWORKS, BABY! Goal Date:
Body Mass Index53.0891067053 BMI Start:
22.7077300067 BMI Current:
23.3341501448 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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He probably wants to make sure he stays as hot as you! Seriously, my hubby is sort of on the same kick and I just figure it's better to be focused on healthy and go a little overboard than the other way around. Besides, I think he is determined that I won't weigh less than him! (he is 174 now......he better watch out!)
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04-24-2008, 01:37 PM
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| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Atlanta, Ga
Posts: 1,440
Weight Statistics March 12, 2008 Start Date:
December 4, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
259 lb Start Weight:
211 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
48 lb Weight Loss:
61 lb Lb Left to Lose:
18.5328185328 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index45.8747795414 BMI Start:
37.3728898967 BMI Current:
26.5684051398 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I agree with everyone else. He's seeing your changing appearance and attitude and he's getting on the bandwagon. My husband is 8 years older than I am and he's not heavy by any means. He's 5'10" and weighs about 170. He's about 10 lbs overweight for where he likes to be but he gained it going through chemo. He complains about losing it but doesn't do anything for it. I'm actually looking forward to him getting on the bandwagon with me. Right now he finishes our kids plates when they don't eat. LOL I mentioned to him night before last that if he wanted to lose, he should stop doing that.
Also, Usually as summer nears he tends to start thinking of his weight. He weighs himself daily and broadcasts his weight. It's almost like a kid who's started a new game. LOL
Don't worry about it and like a PP said.... ask him if you can join him in his workouts.
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