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05-08-2008, 03:35 AM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Apr 2008 Location: Oregon
Posts: 42
Weight Statistics 3/1/08 Start Date:
4/16/08 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
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274 lb Start Weight:
186 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
88 lb Weight Loss:
51 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.1167883212 % % Lost:
not sure Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.7661918839 BMI Start:
35.1405536146 BMI Current:
25.5052405267 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|  Concerns about going back to work
Hi all. I have just realized that I am going back to work in 1 week. I took 4 weeks off and that is the longest I have been away in 13 years. My office is about 45 people and a lot of them came to the hospital to see me but only my closest office friend has seen me since. I am 3 weeks out today, and I am worried about 2 overweight people that I work with. They both have been so negative about the whole thing since I started this journey. I consider my journey the decision that I made to change my food lifestyle and have the surgery. It took me 7 years to make this decison. I know that a lot of this is my issue, but I worry about them hating my guts and maybe thinking I took the easy way out. I am looking for people that might have had this issue to help me out. I also can't believe how many people don't want to eat in front of me. It is driving me crazy!!! I also feel that when I go back to work that people are going to watch me eat...but I guess that is how I felt before when I was eating A LOT. I am finally starting to hit some of this emotional stuff & it is a challenge. Thank you all.
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05-08-2008, 04:08 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida
Posts: 5,162
Weight Statistics July 21, 2007 Start Date:
August 6, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
287 lb Start Weight:
151 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
136 lb Weight Loss:
11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.3867595819 % % Lost:
January 1, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.8342151675 BMI Start:
26.7455278408 BMI Current:
24.7971781305 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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It does get easier! I was worried about all that when I went back to work 6 weeks later. My friends were my friends and I was lucky! They did start with the "I dont want to eat in front of you", but I let them know that it was perfectly fine! They did joke that I was only eating enough to piss them off! LOLOLOL Dont fret so much, if they were your true friends, they still will be. As for the ones that think that you took the easy way out...let them go through this! There is nothing easy about this, we are still doing it for ourselves. You said it exactly right too, you made this decision for YOU and no one else. I too took several years of thinking it over...2 of my best friends had it done and it wasnt the "right decision for me" at that time. I had it done 4 years after one and 2.5 years after the other! That helped me a lot since they had already gone through it and had the same doctor! Good luck on your journey, we are all here for you!
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05-08-2008, 07:33 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: North West, NJ
Posts: 2,707
Weight Statistics 1/14/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
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330 lb Start Weight:
235 lb Current Weight:
200 lb Goal Weight:
95 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.7878787879 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index47.3448979592 BMI Start:
33.7153061224 BMI Current:
28.693877551 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I know it's hard, but try not to worry about what other people say or do. You did this for you, you know it was far from the easy way out (being gutted like a deer is not the easy way out). Your friends will grow with you as you explain things...'yes you can eat in front of me...' Some may ask questions, some may not, either way don't feel like your answers need to be defensive. There is no reason for you to feel defensive when talking to an ignorant person. If you go in defensive it will backfire - if you go in confident...it will all settle down in a little while, and for the ones who judge you...pray for them, they have other issues.
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05-08-2008, 08:57 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 9,445
Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 June 18,2012 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
226 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
56 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.741046832 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index52.0793877551 BMI Start:
32.4240816327 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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The ladies that have posted before me have very good advice. The ladies that a still overweight and whom wasnt very supportive will be ok. Just dont place judgement on them. They are either happy with who they are or dying in inside. Be who you was to them before and it will be ok. Dont worry about eating in front of them either. Just go on about yourself and that is gonna pass to.
Honey dont ever think in your mind you took the easy way out. Your gonna find there is nothing easy about this. Your gonna wanna punch someone that says that to you eventually or I feel that way. LOL.
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05-08-2008, 10:10 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Texas
Posts: 5,236
Weight Statistics I've lost/gained my whole life!!! Start Date:
Aug 1, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
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280 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
126 lb Weight Loss:
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45 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index42.5692041522 BMI Start:
23.4130622837 BMI Current:
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you cannot hold yourself responsible for the actions/reactions of others...look out for you and let them wallow in their own misery....get a routine going...it's hard to make good choices at work and figuring out a routine is what saved me!
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05-08-2008, 10:56 AM
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| | Super Moderator
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(((((HUGS))))))
Keep in mind, those who are negative about you have their own issues, and that it's their issues, not yours. There is nothing you can do there, except when you are asked Qs, be honest, straightforward, informative, and stick to the facts. Sticking to the facts probably will help you most. You aren't resposible for other people's actions and reactions, they are. So just be yourself, and those who are your true friends will stand by you. Others? It's their loss, not yours.
Keep your head high, you made the choice that was best for you, and this is a decision no one else can make in your place. You did the right thing for you. You can only hope that the others will make the right choices for them.
Keeping you in my prayers that you find the strength in you to deal with whatever needs to be dealt with.
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05-08-2008, 01:31 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: upstate ny
Posts: 2,091
Weight Statistics 1/10/08, the final endeavor, I WILL SUCCEED!!! Start Date:
3/12/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
316 lb Start Weight:
203 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
35.7594936709 % % Lost:
7/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index55.9707734946 BMI Start:
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31.8820861678 BMI Goal:
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It Is Rather Funny  How People Don't Want To Eat Around Us, Heh???
I Do Get Stares  From Others Of My Co Workers Who Happen To Be Overweight, In Fact, Some Gals Have Started The Medifast Diet, As Well As Others Attempting To Eat As I Do... 
I Don't Say Anything,  Cause This Surgery was & Is Still My Decision...
Despite Times Of Upsets, Not Being Able To Keep Foods Down At Times,  I Can Truly Say I Don't Regret my Decision One Bit!!!!!!!!!!! 
IT IS OUR NATURE AS OBESE PEOPLE TO TRULY BE OVER CONCERNED ABOUT HOW OTHERS ARE FEELING,  RATHER THAN FOCUSING ON OURSELVES, AT LEAST FOR ME THAT IS THE CASE!!!!!!!!
IF THEY ARE YOUR FRIENDS, THEY'LL BE YOUR FRIENDS WHETHER YOUR FAT OR SKINNY...
GOOD LUCK, HON.
KEEP US POSTED HOW IT GOES. 
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05-08-2008, 01:42 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: Alabama
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93 lb Weight Loss:
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You are going to be fine. The people that say negative things are only because they are miserable themselves. I think your feelings are ones that we have all had, and I promise, it will all work itself out.
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05-10-2008, 07:55 AM
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Join Date: May 2007 Location: minnesota
Posts: 5,595
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177 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
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Body Mass Index54.7100550964 BMI Start:
28.5654269972 BMI Current:
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i wouldnt worry about what others have to say, you did this for you not them and if they cannot be supportive of you, then why do u need them?? good luck with returning to work, things will get better as time passes
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05-12-2008, 05:55 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: No. Los Angeles County, CA
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Weight Statistics 4.29.08 RNY Surgery Date:
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133 lb Weight Loss:
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You are a people-pleaser, too, huh? 
Everyone here has offered such wonderful insights. I am 50 years old (To quote a line from Fried Green Tomatoes..."I'm older and have better insurance.") and have come to a decision that my opinion is just that and anyone else's decision is just theirs. Can't get rid of them. They just exist.
By the time I made the decision to do this, two in my office had already had the surgery. Now, I have had the surgery and three others are in the bariatric prep classes. It has gotten to the point that the nay-sayers are pretty much in the minority.
I think what will amaze my co-workers is how little I will be eating. I didn't eat humongous portions (never ate out at work) but my lunchbag was full of random stuff that was all consumed in 30 minutes. Now I will be eating with a cocktail fork and a baby spoon. lol
I look forward to going back to work, in 4 weeks. My biggest fear is staying awake for the entire shift, as my noon naptime is VERY important right now (2 weeks out).
Congrats on your >40 lb weight loss, btw! 
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"Burning out this fuse out here alone" Surgery 4.29.08
11-29-08: Down 90 lbs. Total cholesterol is under 200 for the first time in my adult life!
1.11.09: 100 lbs down! Century Club! WHOO HOO! 
7.10.09 GOL! GOL! GOLGOLGOLGOLGOL! GGGGOOOOLLL!
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