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06-09-2008, 05:24 PM
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| Big Loser  Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: North Royalton, Ohio
Posts: 187
Weight Statistics June 4, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
214 lb Start Weight:
186 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
28 lb Weight Loss:
61 lb Lb Left to Lose:
13.0841121495 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 40.4305294276 BMI Start:
35.1405536146 BMI Current:
23.6159634507 BMI Goal:
  |  Questioning friendships...
During the days following having surgery did any of you begin to question friendships that you previously thought were good and strong? I really have heard from so few friends since my surgery and when I've reached out to some, they haven't even asked how I was doing. I feel quite crushed because I wanted to really lean on friends to help get me motivated and get moving (walking around the mall, hiking in the metroparks, etc.) but it seems like many have faded into the shadows. Did you guys experience anything like that? Or have your true friends shown through during this difficult time? Thank you!
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06-09-2008, 05:32 PM
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| WLS Guru  Join Date: Oct 2007 Location: Utah
Posts: 362
Weight Statistics 10/2/2007 Start Date:
10/5/2007 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
287 lb Start Weight:
128 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
159 lb Weight Loss:
-22 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.4006968641 % % Lost:
18 months Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 47.7540828402 BMI Start:
21.2979881657 BMI Current:
24.9585798817 BMI Goal:
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Many of my friends have seemed to disappear since surgery. I have a group of frriends from my previous job that I would get together with a couple times a month since we quit working together. Since my surgery in October, I have met with them exactly 3 times. When we do get together, they don't mention a thing about my weight loss. We used to all be overweight together, but I don't know if it is jealousy or what, but they don't seem to want to be friends now. It makes me feel really sad because I have been friends with some of these people for over 15 years. I wish I had someone close to me to share this with, but as far as friends go, they are AWOL. Thanks heavens for my daughters. They have been very supportive and sweet.
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06-09-2008, 05:33 PM
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| WLS Mentor  Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Northern VA
Posts: 1,111
Weight Statistics 02/07/2008 Start Date:
02/07/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
310 lb Start Weight:
182 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
128 lb Weight Loss:
22 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.2903225806 % % Lost:
Summer 09' Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 48.5475607039 BMI Start:
28.5021162843 BMI Current:
25.0568055246 BMI Goal:
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I have not experienced this yet. I only have like 3 really close friends and they came to the hospital to visit me. I did not tell anyone else. Maybe your friends do not realize how invasive or major the surgery was that you just went through. They may feel odd brining it up because it is a weight issue. Sometimes it is difficult to address. What I can say I have gone through is that nobody really says they notice the weightloss. I have lost 70lbs...how can somebody not notice it??? Well...my mom and husband are really the only people that tell me how good I look. I think everyone else know I had surgery and weightloss is expected so there for they think I am not working hard to lose and complements are not warranted. Thats all I can think of. I try not to let it bother me. I am starting to really see a difference and my husband can't stop telling me how beautiful I am. Thats really all that matters to me.
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06-09-2008, 05:43 PM
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| Big Loser Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: North Royalton, Ohio
Posts: 187
Weight Statistics June 4, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
214 lb Start Weight:
186 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
28 lb Weight Loss:
61 lb Lb Left to Lose:
13.0841121495 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 40.4305294276 BMI Start:
35.1405536146 BMI Current:
23.6159634507 BMI Goal:
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This isn't a weight issue for me, I'm sure...as I'm the largest of the bunch. It's really disheartening because I know how I would be towards them if they had a serioius surgery. I'm just too kind-hearted of a person to ignore someone when they're going through something like this. The last time I had a true test of friendship was 10 years ago when I lost my dad to cancer but I fear this will be another one...
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06-09-2008, 07:01 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: North Dakota
Posts: 2,393
Weight Statistics June 11,2007, lost 36 Lb. before surgery Start Date:
September 10, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
373 lb Start Weight:
210 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
163 lb Weight Loss:
30 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.6997319035 % % Lost:
2 years Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 62.0636686391 BMI Start:
34.9420118343 BMI Current:
29.950295858 BMI Goal:
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I do not know what to say about lots of friends. I have a few friends that live pretty far away from us, so we get in contact by e-mail or phone, and they are so happy for me that I have lost all this weight and they also know how I stuggled to get the weight off with no sucess. But I have one true friend that is there for me no matter what. She calls me or vise versa about 3 to 4 times a week. But when I first had my surgery she would call me every night to see how I am doing and when we would get to town we would stop in at her house to visit, and she would always compliment me on my weight loss and how good I looked. She saw first hand how I struggled to lose weight. She is just so happy for me and there is not an ounce of jelously in her towards me. We have been friends for over 30 years and we have been threw alot together and like we always say to eachother we will be friends forever. Otherwise it is my family who also have been my huge support and they all are so tickled pink about my weight loss. They have seen me almost all my life so heavy and struggling to loss. I lost alot of weight right after high school and when I moved away from home and I got down to 145 pounds and I felt so good. But when I got married I was up to about 160 pounds or so and everytime I got pregnant it just kept going on and on and after the last child I had, I weighted right around 270, after that I gained all that weight up to 384 at one point and when I had to lose weight for the surgery my weight started at 373 pounds and was miserible. So now when they see me now they are all so happy for me. I have more trouble with my husbands side of the family that do not even come and compliment me on my weight loss. But there are a few that came and complimented me and gave me a big hug that I lost all that weight and are happy for me, and a few that just walk away and have nothing to say to me. But I do not let that bother me at all becasue I have more than enough relatives and my best friend that keep me going.
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06-09-2008, 07:10 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 3,643
Blog Entries: 1 Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
197 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
166 lb Weight Loss:
27 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.7300275482 % % Lost:
12/31/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 52.0793877551 BMI Start:
28.2634693878 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass |
When it comes to somthing like this, death, etc....... You will find out who really cares about you. I think its sad it takes somthing of this magnatude to figure it out.
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06-09-2008, 10:20 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: May 2007 Location: minnesota
Posts: 5,331
Weight Statistics july 21, 2007 Start Date:
august 17, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.7876106195 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 54.7100550964 BMI Start:
28.5654269972 BMI Current:
25.8218549128 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass |
i have not had this happen to me yet, i am still close to everyone i was b4 hand, although i did have a friend of mine tell me im snobby...lol yet he still calls me everyday, cant figure that one out
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