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11-24-2008, 03:58 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Upstate, NY
Posts: 16
Weight Statistics 7/2008 Start Date:
2/19/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
251 lb Start Weight:
128 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
49.0039840637 % % Lost:
summer 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.0793457031 BMI Start:
21.96875 BMI Current:
24.0283203125 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  Friends upset about surgery
The other day I went to a get together at a friends house and the one person I have been confiding isn because she has had this surgery was there. She asked me about when I was having my surgery and two other friends overheard. WELL.... that started a huge ordeal. These other two friends started in on me telling me how unsafe the surgery is and that I am not over weight enough to have the surgery, saying my doctor must be a quack to even consider surgery and so on. I am 236 lbs on a 5'2" frame and my BMI indicates that I am morbidly obese. These people actually think I am just extremely vain and that I only want to be thin that's why I am having surgery. I tried to explain that I have sleep apnea, I am pre diabetic and so on but the one friend who is an RN stated that anyone over weight has those issues. I just could not believe how they hounded me about this. I now that this is the exact reason why I have never told anyone except the one person I now that has had the surgery and my family. Has anyone else experienced something like this and how did you deal with it.
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11-24-2008, 04:08 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2007 Location: minnesota
Posts: 5,595
Weight Statistics july 21, 2007 Start Date:
august 17, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
339 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.7876106195 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index54.7100550964 BMI Start:
28.5654269972 BMI Current:
25.8218549128 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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there are always people who have their opinions about wls surgery...ultimatly it is not their decision and not their body..if they cannot be supportive of your decision then bluntly they are not true friends...good luck!!
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11-24-2008, 04:11 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: DEPTFORD NJ
Posts: 1,773
Weight Statistics Pre-Operation. Start Date:
oct 21st 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
278 lb Start Weight:
149 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
129 lb Weight Loss:
-1 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.4028776978 % % Lost:
2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7133789062 BMI Start:
25.5729980469 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
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thats why i really didn't tell alot of people because i didn't want to hear a bunch of horror stories i already made up my mind to have the surgery whether i heard any horror stories or not i also had just got diagonised with diabetes and didn't want to deal with that for the rest of my life so good luck on your journey and god bless you
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11-24-2008, 04:57 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: LAFAYETTE LA
Posts: 211
Weight Statistics OCT 13,2007 Start Date:
JUNE 5Th 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
397 lb Start Weight:
213 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
184 lb Weight Loss:
43 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.3476070529 % % Lost:
18 MONTHS Goal Date:
Body Mass Index64.0704775023 BMI Start:
34.3753443526 BMI Current:
27.4357208448 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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people will always voice there opinion about the surgery. But remember its your choice not anyone elses. I was scared to but i would do it again in a heart beat! I have no regreats
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11-24-2008, 05:24 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: upstate ny
Posts: 2,091
Weight Statistics 1/10/08, the final endeavor, I WILL SUCCEED!!! Start Date:
3/12/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
316 lb Start Weight:
203 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
23 lb Lb Left to Lose:
35.7594936709 % % Lost:
7/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index55.9707734946 BMI Start:
35.9559082892 BMI Current:
31.8820861678 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Stories, stories & more stories!
You can choose to listen, filter out & go through with the decision you feel is right for you, or listen to these stories, let them take a toll on your mind & confuse you..
Be armed with knowledge if you plan on telling people before surgery, so you have your amno prepared!
Good luck, we all had to deal with this at one time or another...
Hang in there & keep those supportive people surrounding you,.
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11-24-2008, 05:39 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Wisconsin
Posts: 2,004
Weight Statistics July 07 Start Date:
1/24/08 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
309 lb Start Weight:
135 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
174 lb Weight Loss:
-5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
56.3106796117 % % Lost:
02/01/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.4146745562 BMI Start:
22.4627218935 BMI Current:
23.2946745562 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Like everyone else has stated "this is your desicion to make" and no one elses. I didn't have much support from friends or family but I knew I did not want to live with the fat or all of the side effects anymore. Against everyones wishes I had surgery. Yes, I was scared but would do it again. The surgeon's are more practiced now and the stats are way better than say 20 years ago. Look at how many people alone are on this forum that have been successful.
Good luck with this.
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11-24-2008, 05:42 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Troy,ny
Posts: 2,799
Weight Statistics Since birth:) Start Date:
August 5, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
319 lb Start Weight:
189 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
130 lb Weight Loss:
39 lb Lb Left to Lose:
40.7523510972 % % Lost:
sometime in 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.4823232323 BMI Start:
30.5020661157 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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There are always going to be some people who have a negative idea about WLS. Ultimately it is your choice. You must arm yourself with knowledge and research any and all info. about the surgery you choose to have. People have insecurities about themselves and then there are the people who make them feel better about themselves because they are heavier than they are or what not......If your "friends" are not going to be supportive of your decision then it is better not to mention that subject or get rid of the negativity surrounding you. I had friends that never mentioned how they felt when I told them I was having WLS. They respected my decision. Only and ONLY after I decided not to go through with it did they say they were glad I didn't. Knowledge is power my dear and ONLY YOU can decide what is right for you. BTW, did you tell your RN friend that you having sleep apnea was just as dangerous as any surgery?
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11-24-2008, 06:39 PM
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Join Date: May 2007 Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 3,239
Weight Statistics April 11th 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
267 lb Start Weight:
142 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
125 lb Weight Loss:
-8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.8164794007 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index45.8254394531 BMI Start:
24.3715820312 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Yes I didnt tell many people about my decision. Very few. I had already made up my mind and I was going thru with it and I know there were alot of people out there who dont feel strongly about it and etc....After the fact I didnt care who knew casue it was done and over with.
If you feel right about this and so does your surgeon than I say go for it.
Where and who is your surgeon? I see your from upstate NY. I had mine done at Highland with Dr. Omalley.
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11-24-2008, 08:56 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Dec 2007 Location: Oakland, CA
Posts: 77
Weight Statistics 2/27/08 Start Date:
5/15/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
247 lb Start Weight:
144 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
103 lb Weight Loss:
-1 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.7004048583 % % Lost:
5/15/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.7493071303 BMI Start:
25.5056689342 BMI Current:
25.6827916352 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I was truely blessed that I had all the support of my family and friends. Not a single person that I know of had a negative reaction. I was open and told everyone...even my guy at the tanning salon! LOL
Sorry you had to hear the negativity. They could either really mean well and care and are worried or are mis-informed and are only making assumptions.
No one knows best but YOU and your doctors.
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11-24-2008, 10:23 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: No. Los Angeles County, CA
Posts: 2,826
Weight Statistics 4.29.08 RNY Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
168 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
133 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.1860465116 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index45.7618944637 BMI Start:
25.5415224913 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Sigh. Friends...can't live with 'em...can't shoot 'em.
I remember a co-worker who, when noticing me being riled about something, would say, "Hey. You mad or you jealous?"
I wonder what your friends would say. Here you are, taking charge of your life for maybe the first time in your life, and they are giving you grief. You may have to give them some breathing room at this point.
Hang in there. 
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11-29-08: Down 90 lbs. Total cholesterol is under 200 for the first time in my adult life!
1.11.09: 100 lbs down! Century Club! WHOO HOO! 
7.10.09 GOL! GOL! GOLGOLGOLGOLGOL! GGGGOOOOLLL!
1.10.10 Still at goal. Using Weight Watchers guideline which is: JOURNAL YOUR FOOD AND MOVEMENT FOR SUCCESS! 
Starting weight: beginning of nutrition classes, August, 2007
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