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12-15-2008, 08:49 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: Wisconsin
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174 lb Weight Loss:
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22.4627218935 BMI Current:
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Okay so I just posted a big wow for me for dropping 3 more pounds. I am very happy and excited. BUT I am feeling quilty for even feeling this way. As most of you know my sister was diagnosed with stage 3 colon cancer a couple of months ago. Her surgery is this Thursday, the 18th. When I think of all she has already gone through and still has to go through I get mad and scared for her and her daughter (heck for all of us). Today she went for her pre-op and came home and cried all day and kept saying she isn't going to go on Thrusday. I am just sick over all of this I truly am.
Darn I feel like crap for even feeling great about my wow this morning. In fact I am feeling pretty anxious right now. What kind of a sister am I?? To top it off my boss says she cannot find (too convenient?) my request for off on Thursday and the schedule is posted so I cannot be at the hospital. Now I cannot call in sick because she knows I want off.
Everyone please keep sending your thoughts and prayers for her. Thanks!
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12-15-2008, 09:46 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2008 Location: Atlanta, Ga
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Weight Statistics March 12, 2008 Start Date:
December 4, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
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259 lb Start Weight:
211 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
48 lb Weight Loss:
61 lb Lb Left to Lose:
18.5328185328 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index45.8747795414 BMI Start:
37.3728898967 BMI Current:
26.5684051398 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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First off... I think it's CRAP that your boss won't let you off, knowing the reasons you want it off. It's not like you want to go shopping or something. My prayers are with your sister on Thursday.
As for you... You can still rejoice in your own successes and be concerned for your sister at the same time. You earned that 3 lb loss and you should be proud of yourself. You can feel more than one emotion at a time. Being happy over your own successes doesn't take away from the love and concern and worry you have for your sister. Wouldn't she be just as proud of you???
((((HUGS))))
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12-15-2008, 11:04 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: North Texas
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280 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
126 lb Weight Loss:
4 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45 % % Lost:
Summer 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.5692041522 BMI Start:
23.4130622837 BMI Current:
22.8049307958 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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you take, you give...it's hard, I know..I feel great about my weight loss...I feel bad about other things...where do you draw the line? I'm sure your sister knows your love for her...and you are entitled to your own joy....
Remember...everything happens for a reason and exactly as it's supposed to happen....keeping you & your family in our prayers!!
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12-15-2008, 11:26 PM
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32.7110204082 BMI Current:
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Sending you hugs and prayers Kim.
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12-16-2008, 12:52 AM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
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Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
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280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
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38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
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25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
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Would your sister feel you were more faithful to her if you felt terrible about everything, 24/7? Or (more likely), if she knew that her situation was sucking the light out of your own eyes, would it make her feel worse because of the effect it was having on you?
You are not disloyal to take a moment of joy from something in your life to help strengthen you through the trials you share with her.
As for your boss, I'm sure Doreen could come up with some ideas for additives you could slip into her coffee ... untraceable ... 
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12-16-2008, 01:25 AM
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Kim, my thoughts are prayers are with you and your family. I pray all goes well for your sister, and as hard as it may seem it is ok to be happy about wows in your life, it doesn't change how you feel about your sister and all the crap she is going through.
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12-16-2008, 01:59 AM
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((((((HUGS)))))
You are entitled to be happy, you've done a lot of hard work on this.
Besides, if you were still heavy, do you think you could have done all you have for your sister? Happiness helps people be strong, and share that strength with others when they need strength. Unless you are happy with yourself, about yourself, it's going to be very difficult to be selfless to others. You are a very good sister to your sister, so don't berate yourself.
As for you boss, sorry to hear about that, but what goes around comes around, so I'm sure your boss will get her desserts. 
Prayers and thoughts for your sister.
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12-16-2008, 06:08 AM
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165 lb Current Weight:
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121 lb Weight Loss:
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42.3076923077 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index50.6570924666 BMI Start:
29.2252456538 BMI Current:
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That is bull sh-t about the day off. Just knowing what is going on they should have no trouble giving you the time off. Especially knowing her state of mind, that should be ample reason for your boss to give you time off. I consider it an emergency if she refuses to have the surgery and you need to be there to drag her kicking and screaming.
As for feeling guilty, don't. You need some bright spots with all the bad going on, otherwise you could get seriously depressed. Your sister, I'm sure, is thrilled for you and how hard you've worked and I'm sure she wants the best for you like you want the best for her.
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12-16-2008, 06:23 AM
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100 lb Weight Loss:
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I am so sorry.... You should not feel sorry for your post. It does not mean that you dont love your sister. It is ok to be happy about one thing but concerned about another. I will say a prayer for your sister and your family. Good Bless and keep you all ... ((((hugs and prayers)))) dixie
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12-16-2008, 07:28 AM
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Hang in there Kim. Good thoughts and prayers going out to you and your sis!
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