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07-07-2009, 01:12 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: North Dakota..ya sure, u betcha!
Posts: 1,738
Weight Statistics Which time? Start Date:
July 24, 2009 Surgery Date:
4' 11"
Height:
213 lb Start Weight:
108 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
49.2957746479 % % Lost:
Whenever.... Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.0160873312 BMI Start:
21.8109738581 BMI Current:
24.2344153979 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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....hopefully this isn't considered inappropriate, it is meant in jest.
I have a co-worker who always says "FAMILY!...... the other "F" word!"
Sometimes family can be the most frustrating thing, but, we are stuck with them, they are family. They are asking because they care about you, but simply don't understand. I like the suggestions from the other posters.
You are doing great, don't let them get you down.
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07-07-2009, 05:36 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: michigan
Posts: 150
Weight Statistics 11/2008 Start Date:
1/5/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
244 lb Start Weight:
130 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
114 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.7213114754 % % Lost:
January 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.2179390275 BMI Start:
23.0259511212 BMI Current:
21.2547241119 BMI Goal:
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Im getting this already. Whats your goal weight? Oh thats too low! My Mom spent the weekend mad at me because I am following my doctors orders eating my plan and exercising. I was completely frustrated with her and then she goes on to say "Oh all the people I know regained all the weight plus some" after bypass. Im like why would you say that in the same breath? She didnt have any reason and got defensive. Im with Doc S..I need to tell people to knock it off and yes many of my "people pleasing" skills work against me and cause that eating pattern. I will succeed!
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07-07-2009, 07:56 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: No. Los Angeles County, CA
Posts: 2,849
Weight Statistics 4.29.08 RNY Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
168 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
133 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.1860465116 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index45.7618944637 BMI Start:
25.5415224913 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
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I found it hysterical when I was still >230 lbs and people were already saying that I looked too skinny.
Last week one of our GYN nurse pratitioners said, "you need to stop losing. You don't want to lose too much, because you will lose bone mass."
Point taken. Bless them all!  I also told her that I am still under an MD's care and I appreciated her input.
And regarding family...ya can't live with 'em, and you can't shoot 'em! I am a little sorry my mom couldn't see me now (as she is dead) but OTOH she would be constantly on me to take my vitamins...when was your last MD appt...how much more can you POSSIBLY lose, etc. (the answer...I can POSSIBLY lose 38 more pounds, but I will stop on purpose in about 8 lbs.) My dad, who lives 8 miles away, says NOTHING about my weight loss, except to say, "I'm proud of ya, kid," which includes my mad-mommy-skills as well as the weight loss.
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"Burning out this fuse out here alone" Surgery 4.29.08
11-29-08: Down 90 lbs. Total cholesterol is under 200 for the first time in my adult life!
1.11.09: 100 lbs down! Century Club! WHOO HOO! 
7.10.09 GOL! GOL! GOLGOLGOLGOLGOL! GGGGOOOOLLL!
1.10.10 Still at goal.
2.21.12 up a bit. Back on track, I hope. 
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07-07-2009, 08:30 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
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Originally Posted by kellinp  I was completely frustrated with her and then she goes on to say "Oh all the people I know regained all the weight plus some" after bypass. | Oh, so your your mother has an extensive database of WLS patients on her Christmas card list? She's doing extensive follow-ups of all of them? How many does she know, anyway? (Of all the people she knows, how many may have had WLS but are keeping a low profile about it to avoid this exact thing?) Of that tiny sample of those she knows (yeah, I know, I'm assuming, aren't I?) how many have been diligent about following the rules for life? Of those, how many have experienced regain? Of those who haven't followed the rules, how many had the extensive pre-op training that is now mandatory per our surgeons?
I have seen the statistics in my surgeon's patient database of his 2700 operations. On the whole, folks have done pretty well. I know these are only facts, and facts aren't much good in an argument based on illogic and emotion, but it's all we have on our side. That, and our wonderful health and energy levels, which are guaranteed to drive those who choose not to take control of their lives absolutely wild!!
The only thing you can do with her, considering that she is your mother, after all, is to follow your doctor's orders and live healthy. Maybe sometime in the future there'll be a moment of candor in which she admits, like jj's dad, that she is proud of you. It'll never happen if you let it become a running battle, though. Love her. You'll miss her someday and wish you could hear her lovingly nag you about anything, even this. 
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07-07-2009, 09:05 PM
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#15 (permalink)
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Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: North Dakota..ya sure, u betcha!
Posts: 1,738
Weight Statistics Which time? Start Date:
July 24, 2009 Surgery Date:
4' 11"
Height:
213 lb Start Weight:
108 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
49.2957746479 % % Lost:
Whenever.... Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.0160873312 BMI Start:
21.8109738581 BMI Current:
24.2344153979 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I have a friend who had the surgery and hardly told anyone at the time. She is 4 years out now and most people still don't know. When she was asked about how she was losing the weight, she would just smile sweetly and say..."I finally decided it was time to follow my Dr's orders...eat less and exercise more! My doc knows what is best for me."
Yes, my mom was the QUEEN of guilt and nagging, and yes, I DO miss her, she passed on 11 years ago.
Hang in there.
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07-07-2009, 11:04 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Cypress,Texas
Posts: 926
Weight Statistics March 17,2009 Start Date:
March 17,2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
294 lb Start Weight:
157 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
7 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.5986394558 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index47.4476584022 BMI Start:
25.3376951331 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
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Originally Posted by DocSanae You have the choice of sayin as clancy has suggested, or, after you have heard each of them out ONCE, say flat out that once is enough and it isn't their business anyway.
Have you ever thought that trying to be nice to everyone the way you are trying now, is/was one of the stressors in the past that made you turn to food? If that's the case, then you know you'll have to cut that kind of *talkin' to ya* out of your life for once and for all.
My $0.02 | I LOVE IT!!! Great advice! I so much agree!! that's my $0.02 as well...lol!
I mean come on..who cares about their opinions. I hate when people act as if they are concerned to only say something to try to bring you down. They know what they are doing. There are haters in the family too that don't want to see you happy or looking good. Don't let anyone steal your joy!
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07-08-2009, 01:27 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Oklahoma City, Okla USA
Posts: 2,549
Weight Statistics 05/17/02 Start Date:
05/17/02 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
355 lb Start Weight:
190 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
165 lb Weight Loss:
15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.4788732394 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index59.0686390533 BMI Start:
31.6142011834 BMI Current:
29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
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Welcome to the club hon!!! the club of everyone thinking they can say whatever stuff they want to, to you..
This is where you are going to HAVE to start standing up for yourself and just say"
Thank you for your concern, my doctor is very happy with my results and continued success AND -I- am very happy with it too!!"
and if they keep on with it..."you keep repeating..thank you for your concern...etc.."
It's always interesting if you develop a "rote" answer and just KEEP Repeating it over and over they DO get the message and stop.
Do NOT let it sink into your brain and make you start doubting yourself or your body OR start believing that nonsense!!!!
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07-14-2009, 10:27 PM
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Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Iowa
Posts: 5
Weight Statistics 7/10/2009 Start Date:
7/10/2009 Surgery Date:
6' 3"
Height:
337 lb Start Weight:
250 lb Current Weight:
190 lb Goal Weight:
87 lb Weight Loss:
60 lb Lb Left to Lose:
25.8160237389 % % Lost:
7/2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.1175111111 BMI Start:
31.2444444444 BMI Current:
23.7457777778 BMI Goal:
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Tell them to mind there own business, be bold with them. I am only four days post op and am already hearing the crap......you are going to be so skinny, I wan't all of your fat clothes.......My god people I have not even dropped a pants size yet!!!
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07-15-2009, 08:58 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Durham, NC
Posts: 693
Weight Statistics All my life Start Date:
February 10, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
88 lb Weight Loss:
12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
31.4285714286 % % Lost:
June, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index40.1714285714 BMI Start:
27.546122449 BMI Current:
25.8244897959 BMI Goal:
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[QUOTE=richierich;193512]you are going to be so skinny, I wan't all of your fat clothes.......My god people I have not even dropped a pants size yet!!!
Now, that sounds like people I know. I've got people saying they are coming to my closet to go shopping. I'll give you want I don't want to have taken up, but you won't be coming in my closet!! I've come to the conclusion that people just don't listen to what they say and how they sound sometimes. They mean well........but we get tired of hearing the same things....over and over and over and over......
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07-22-2009, 09:04 AM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Feb 2009 Location: Louisburg, NC
Posts: 150
Weight Statistics January 27, 2009 Start Date:
2/11/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
283 lb Start Weight:
201 lb Current Weight:
176 lb Goal Weight:
82 lb Weight Loss:
25 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.9752650177 % % Lost:
May 1, 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.672405877 BMI Start:
32.4387052342 BMI Current:
28.404040404 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Girl Girl Girl.....hang in there, and people love to make comments. I agree with Perfesser....I would tell them you are being medically supervised and your doctors are very pleased with your progress and your body will level off on it's own. Continue like you are doing and you'll be fine. Smile and enjoy it!!!
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