[MsVickie]

Oh do I understand this. I have Three brothers. Me being the only girl. This started as soon as I remember and its went from the boys trying to outdo each other for my fathers attention to after my father passed to the boys trying to get attention from each other. Me? Im a bit guilty of the same thing but only to one brother. My oldest brother..... is not the one we look up to. Its the brother that is a year younger than myself. Strange huh. Hes the one that never did nothing wrong in my fathers eyes or mothers for that mattter. It wasnt Gregs fault. He learned from Darrell and myself the mistakes and didnt do them so......he was on the Pedastal. Of course that got my parents attention and we were TOLD this daily. My baby brother whom is 7 years younger than Greg whom is a year younger than myself got left with the baby brother thing and didnt have to compete.

I think this is my own opinon is that your hubby is trying to show his elder brother how well he has done part of its culture. Today it I dont do this with my own but my eldest brother and my middle brother have that competion. I dont think they realize it.

I see it in the homes they buy, the cars, the mowers, etc..... even the tools!!! I even said to them about 5 years ago.... I cant keep up no longer have fun boys. They had no idea what I meant.......but I did.

Honey its never gonna stop.........like clancys mother said... Eat it. If this is the only thing that gets to you then... be happy.

Trust me the eldest brother knows without you alot of that cant be done but you will never hear it in the younger years of life. That is when they hit there older years they think back and say hey........... they did have a wife and I have one and we both couldnt have gotten to where we are today without them.

Smile sweetie your normal!!!!!!!! I image there are sisters that do this also. With clothes jewerly etc.....however we tend to say look what my hubby bought me!

[MsVickie]

Stylindi she is beautfiul!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! Start another post premireing her!

[kitcatcopycat]

Thank you sooooo much everyone!!!

[klong]

I am the middle of five siblings, with one older brother, who is 3 years older than me. He was the 1st born son of a Korean mother. I grew up in his shadow. He was a better athlete, student, etc. You get the idea. No matter what the reason, I felt inferior to him in just about every way, and he had no issues reinforcing these feelings. Even though I am now 43 years old, I still feel different when I am around him. I imagine that I also act differently. I feel a twinge of all the insecurities of my youth when I am around him. I don't believe it is hero worship as much as it is the anxiety. This may not be what your DH feels, but it is another perspective to consider.

[clancythecamper]

This has been an interesting perspective as an only child who has two kids and is still trying to figure out the dynamics there. Sty ~ she's beautiful ~ thanks for sharing