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06-04-2007, 01:53 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: Near St. Louis, MO
Posts: 636
Weight Statistics June 17, 2005 Start Date:
June 17, 2005 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
313 lb Start Weight:
268 lb Current Weight:
220 lb Goal Weight:
45 lb Weight Loss:
48 lb Lb Left to Lose:
14.3769968051 % % Lost:
July 15, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index57.2421956296 BMI Start:
49.0124869927 BMI Current:
40.2341311134 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Oh Mya.... You said it just right. That is exactly what has happened in my relationship. I have now been single for 3 months. The second best thing I did for myself was getting out of that relationship.
Stacie, sorry to hear things didn't work out for you. I understand so well. We have had conversations about this in the past. Just hold your head high and remember it wasn't "you" that was the problem. Mya couldn't have said it any better.
HUGSSS....
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06-04-2007, 03:37 PM
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#32 (permalink)
| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Milwaukee, WI
Posts: 48
Weight Statistics October 24, 2001 Start Date:
October 24, 2001 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
342 lb Start Weight:
147 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
195 lb Weight Loss:
-3 lb Lb Left to Lose:
57.0175438596 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index53.5589218089 BMI Start:
23.0209400757 BMI Current:
23.4907551793 BMI Goal:
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Even before I had surgery I spoke to my hubby and told him I would not stand for any jealous comments or behavior. He has been one of my biggest cheearleaders... And when we go out, he wants me to wear low cut, revealing tight clothing. Then he sticks to my side, as if to tell all the other men, "Look at this Women... she is with ME!!" I just love him for that! I guess I am a luck one!
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06-04-2007, 05:03 PM
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#33 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: NewEngland
Posts: 335
Weight Statistics 9/1/2006 Start Date:
5' 1"
Height:
278 lb Start Weight:
188 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
90 lb Weight Loss:
58 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.3741007194 % % Lost:
05/2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.5219027143 BMI Start:
35.5184090298 BMI Current:
24.5606019887 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodPhysician Prescribed Diet/Exercise
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Stacie;
You're more than welcome for the feed back. ...anytime I can be helpful!!!
Take care of YOU girl!!!
Shelley I'm sorry you found yourself in a similar position! I think the people who LOVE us ought to CELEBRATE us!!!
XOXO
Mya
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06-06-2007, 02:29 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Mar 2006 Location: NYC ~ Love it!!!
Posts: 3,008
Weight Statistics 4/19/06 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
333 lb Start Weight:
175 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
158 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.4474474474 % % Lost:
someday... Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.6269463668 BMI Start:
26.6057525952 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I love your 'take on things'..... Thanks for posting it! ______________________________ I feel very very fortunate....I'm sooo blessed with my Russ.... | |
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08-21-2007, 03:45 PM
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#35 (permalink)
| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: PA (Near Philly)
Posts: 1,123
Weight Statistics March 12, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
340 lb Start Weight:
239 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
101 lb Weight Loss:
89 lb Lb Left to Lose:
29.7058823529 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index54.8714416896 BMI Start:
38.5713957759 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I was thin when I met my new hubby. I was body building to be exact. Then when I got pregnate and sick I gained all my weight back. I was worried that he wouldn't want to be with the fat me. But he just loves me.. no matter what I look like. And he is having a hard time with me having this surgery. He is worried about my health. So I know from being with a jerk for 17 years what I have now and I won't let this one go no matter what.. And just try to take him.. and you will be in big trouble..lol..
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08-21-2007, 03:51 PM
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#36 (permalink)
| | Big Loser
Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: north carolina
Posts: 125
Weight Statistics Oct 26th 2006 Surgery Date:
Height:
230 lb Start Weight:
140 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
90 lb Weight Loss:
20 lb Lb Left to Lose:
39.1304347826 % % Lost:
summer 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index49.8 BMI Start:
30.3 BMI Current:
24.9 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Yeah I agree with Lisa it comes with the weight loss.. even though my hubby had surgery he still makes comments like "Your going to leave me soon aren't you. I have never given him a reason to believe this. Just give it time. I know its hard but its his problem not yours. good luck.
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09-09-2007, 10:10 AM
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#37 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Northwest Iowa
Posts: 221
Weight Statistics 8/27/07 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
231 lb Start Weight:
119 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
112 lb Weight Loss:
-1 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48.4848484848 % % Lost:
10/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.2458376691 BMI Start:
21.7630072841 BMI Current:
21.9458896982 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Im only 2 weeks out and i think about this alot. i thought about it before i had the surgery. About 2 years ago i found out that my husband was cheating on me. Since then he has stopped drinking and changed alot about him. But i always think to myself that if i felt better about myself i might have just left him and not came back. To this day i still have days when i still hate him for what he did, like i can not get over it, and im affraid that when i get thin that our marriage will be have a lot of problems and end. I guess im just very, very, very scared.
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09-09-2007, 10:53 AM
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#38 (permalink)
| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Modesto, CA
Posts: 470
Weight Statistics 12/13/06 Start Date:
December 13, 2006 Surgery Date:
Height:
220 lb Start Weight:
150 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
70 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
31.8181818182 % % Lost:
Dec 2007 Goal Date:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i am sorry to hear about the situation with your husband, but i kinda understand. mine isn't with my man, but with my daughter and best friend. it is really sad, but i can't talk to either one of them about how happy i am or how much weight i have lost. i too was told that these things could happen, but i thought ... family and my best friend would surely just be happy that i was now healthy and happy, instead.... my best friend said "so i guess you won't want to be my friend now that you are skinny" i told her, am i only your friend because i was fat.... i mean what kind of comment is that. i just couldn't understand it. and my daughter, i think it bothers her because i weigh less than her, but i keep trying to tell her i may weigh less, but her body is rock solid and beautiful, mine... is a whole lot saggy and disgusting under my clothes..  but nothing i say or do helps, so i just dont talk to the people who i thought i would be able to, about my WLS. thank god for all of you.
So keep you chin up and keep talking to the people that support you and hopefully he will come around when he finds out there is nothing to worry about. trust takes time and work. And honesty will carry it through.
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09-11-2007, 03:13 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2006 Location: McGuire Air Force Base, New Jersey, USA
Posts: 2,495
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I have to chime in here and update myself I guess. I have gone through so many hard and difficult challenges emotionally through losing my weight. I lost many friends, lost a big part of my so called identity, lost my marriage, lost my faith in my religion, lost financial security and many other assorted changes. However, I have gained, my freedom to find out who I really am and who I want to be. My ability to recognize that I have worth and strength. I left my marriage of almost 9 years because after the surgery when he would still put me down and abuse me I realized that it was not a flaw in me that caused him to mistreat me, but his own issues to deal with. My divorce has been excruciating at times, but now that it is over and I am settling down in a new state....go buckeyes...I am starting to put the pieces back together. There for awhile I was in a very self destructive mode and was very depressed. Now however, I am starting to put things back together, have been more picky in the number of people I date and may have even found someone with great potential that seems to see me as more than a pretty face. My hugs my tears and my love go out to my other sisters on here that have experienced the same pain and trauma I have gone through. You are not alone. This will be a battle I will have to fight for a long time I feel, but it will be worth it in the end.
Janae
__________________  "Being happy doesn't mean that everything is perfect...it means that you have learned to see past the imperfections. "
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09-11-2007, 09:21 PM
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#40 (permalink)
| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 9,445
Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 June 18,2012 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
226 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
56 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.741046832 % % Lost:
When I get there again Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.0793877551 BMI Start:
32.4240816327 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I havnt had surgery yet but I have to chime in myself on this one. I have told yall before I waited until I was 40 to get married. Yes I had my son when I was 19 but never married his father. Now I might have to readjust myself in a year or so for saying this so give me some leadway. LOL. I think we as overwieght women seem to settle for somone because we in our unconcious mind think we can do no better or this is the way it is. Then we realize we are worth much more and we didnt have to settle for what we did. I watched my bestfriend do this alot with very disastrous relationships. While she was very overweight and then watched her go through the worst one while she lost the weight. Let me explain the latter one. She had lost about 75 lbs when she met this creep. She was still in the cycle of I cant do any better and moved this idiot in her home. He immediatly stopped working and lived off her. She was ok with it for a while. She signed for him a new car and motorcycle right when she first met him. The he quit work. She paid for these things for him. As she continued to lose weight the more jealous he got of her. He took her to work and went to get her. She coudnt leave the house without him. If he didnt wanna go she had to stay home also ETC........... He didnt want no one to hve any contact with her or come by to see her. I did to spite him. Finally she told me I had to stay away. Finally she woke up. Needless to say he ruined her finacially. She right now is at a loss. She is in thearpy learning she is worth more than she thinks she is. I have been strong throughout my years of dating creeps. My DAD made me that way. I have only been burnt once enough to hurt thank goodness. I knew better when I went into the relationship but wanted it to bad. I let my self control get the better of me. We are human. Settling is not a good thing. I think my marriage will do fine. We have talked about this surgery and the complications of marraige with it afterwards. We BOTH understand. I will repost in a year to tell you how it went. I hope I im right
__________________ Remember Tough times never last Tough people do... This Ribbon is for our Lady Lisa and all the women that fight this ugly disease. RIP Jerry my friend
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