HI
All I can say is I'm sorry you're going through this and...THANK GOD I NEVER MARRIED

but I have my own problems as evidenced by my recent post!
Good luck and I hope the two of you can work through it or that you find a way to separate that won't be horribly painful.
I have noticed that a lot of men are against the surgery because they think other guys will be hitting on their new slender woman and she might be looking at that them instead of him! It's called jealousy and it comes out in many way shapes and forms.