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09-04-2009, 08:45 AM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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BTW, Ronda, I like your signature quote. Re-read it and ponder on what it really means in this context. The Scriptures are to be applied to our own lives to make us better people, or what use are they?
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09-04-2009, 08:46 AM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: San Antonio Texas
Posts: 137
Weight Statistics 08/10/2009 Start Date:
12/17/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
375 lb Start Weight:
185 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
190 lb Weight Loss:
60 lb Lb Left to Lose:
50.6666666667 % % Lost:
07/01/2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index70.8478903521 BMI Start:
34.951625907 BMI Current:
23.6159634507 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Originally Posted by Ebonidoll  Ok.... i can relate to what you are saying in terms of your sister being mean to you and whatnot.. But my question is? Why isn't mom putting her foot down? and telling you 2 that you need to get along. (i know you are adults and you should know better or better yet your sister should know better). but, sometimes.. sometimes hearing the phrase "stop acting like a jackass to your sister" helps. But, i believe the solution is... Don't treat you sister the way the treats you... you be the better person (as you have been) but keep a distance.. but tell her how you feel and why you feel that way and call it a day. Don't disown the child.. but treat her with a long handled spoon because you better believe she will be needing you real soon.
"It's all a process" | My mom sticks up for her all the time. She has even sat there while my sister has be little me and I said are you not going to say anything who is the parent here So that is a lost cause. I do want to thank everyone for your wonderful advice I will take it and use it you are all wonderful people.
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09-04-2009, 02:08 PM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Jun 2009 Location: Enterprise, Alabama
Posts: 424
Weight Statistics September 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
268 lb Start Weight:
197 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
71 lb Weight Loss:
72 lb Lb Left to Lose:
26.4925373134 % % Lost:
18-24 months? Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.9970703125 BMI Start:
33.8112792969 BMI Current:
21.4538574219 BMI Goal:
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I guess I am the only one who thinks absence makes the heart ever so happy so that I do not want to kill my brother any more....
The fact that mama died four years ago makes the jealousy and favoritism part almost moot. It will always be there, as he was the one that failed High School, grew pot in our back field and got suspended from school twice for having beer in his car and drinking at lunch.
ok, not going to dwell on that any more.....
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09-04-2009, 04:51 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Connecticut
Posts: 25
Weight Statistics 08/03/2009 Start Date:
08/11/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
277 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
-16 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.40433213 % % Lost:
06/01/2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.1131055363 BMI Start:
23.4130622837 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I think we share a sister.
Anyway...You know the best thing for you to do is to become healthy. Move on with your life, be happy. Your niece and nephew will eventually become adults and you can resume your relationships with them at that time. Kids aren't stupid, they know what's going on. Your sis on the other hand.......well, what can I say. Anyone who would put you in such a state is not worth your time. Tell her to bug off!
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09-05-2009, 03:40 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: alaska
Posts: 18
Weight Statistics 8/24/9 Start Date:
RNY 8/24/9 Surgery Date:
6' 0"
Height:
270 lb Start Weight:
253 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
17 lb Weight Loss:
78 lb Lb Left to Lose:
6.2962962963 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index36.6145833333 BMI Start:
34.309220679 BMI Current:
23.7316743827 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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We all have out birth families and our chosen families. Sometimes it is just best to lose our birth families.
This was really exacerbated after my dad died and my brother, older, took over and tried to mash me. I wanted mom to stay in home of 54 years and he wanted to move her closer to him.
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09-10-2009, 07:35 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Smiths Station Alabama
Posts: 4,363
Weight Statistics 07/23/2007 Start Date:
July 23, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
230 lb Start Weight:
130 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
100 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.4782608696 % % Lost:
June 23 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.0629552549 BMI Start:
23.7747138398 BMI Current:
22.860301769 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Rhonda I dont have anything to add just a big hug, sometimes those we love hurt us the most, hang in there sweety
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09-10-2009, 09:00 AM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: California
Posts: 57
Weight Statistics 10/14/08 (lost 18lbs before surgery) Start Date:
12/16/08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
226 lb Start Weight:
154 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
72 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
31.8584070796 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index40.0297304107 BMI Start:
27.2768959436 BMI Current:
22.1403376165 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I feel for you as I am the sibling who was always watching the dogs, kids, house, whatever my brothers and sister had a need for. I felt taken advantage of since I have 3 kids, who have since reached adulthood, and if I added up the time my 3 brothers and 1 sister had wacthed them over the years it would be less than 3 days combined. When I complained to my husband about this he told me something that i try to keep in mind to this day. He said no one can take advantage of you unless you allow it. So now when someone asks for something, instead of changing my plans and resenting it, I politetly and sometimes firmly(they just don't like the word NO) say I am unavailable. Has it been smooth....no...do I feel less taken advantage of.....YES.Good luck and remember she is your mother too. If you want to spend time with her without the drama, maybe you could take her out separately and spend some uniterrupted one on one time with her.
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