[MsVickie]

Im glad you had that talk. Tough love is exactly the first word tough. But the time comes to where it has to be done. Of course I dont know what she is skilled at but you know Kroger is always hiring? I think you have one in your state. Or other grocery chains. This is not a demeaning job. I have worked 2 jobs before when my son was growing up in a furniture factory and upon the end of the day going to work in a fast food resturant to help pay bills.

Yes she can tend the house and labor around the house since she dont work. There is nothing wrong with asking that of her. She should have been doing this all along and when she does get a job she can split that with you. Its no more than right.

Its like a parent with a adult child........ like myself and getting them to get on with there life and tough love is hard card to play but you just have to do it. They will tumble fall and then learn to crawl then walk. I hope she fullfills her end I truly do because yes this is your time right now. Its not selfish either. Take care honey.

[inuit48]

Remember depression is a real disease and not something that you can make her get herself out of. If she had diabetes, you wouldn't demand that she stop having high sugars. She may need more Zoloft or maybe something else altogether. Seems like the Zoloft is not working very well. It does take 6 or more weeks to take effect. I'm glad you had a talk with her and came to the conclusion that you did. She is not your lazy sister, she is your sick sister. There is a difference.