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09-18-2009, 11:02 AM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Raleigh, NC
Posts: 63
Weight Statistics 8/27/2009 Start Date:
10/14/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
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230 lb Start Weight:
175 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
55 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
23.9130434783 % % Lost:
december 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index39.4750976562 BMI Start:
30.0354003906 BMI Current:
28.3190917969 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|  sorry to vent, but
my sister moved in with me last Feb and so far hasn't been able to find a job. She has been looking but not as diligently as I would be doing, but I'm trying my best not to judge.
Anyway, last night she had an total meltdown about how she was missing all her friends, didn't have a job, was miserable, etc. I know she's hurting and she's very worried about money and she is in a depression (she's on Zoloft and works with a therapist), but I get so tired of her pity parties; they happen about every 6 weeks.
In the meantime, I'm working myself to death to hold on to my job (our only source of income) and have my surgery coming up in less than 4 weeks. Is it too much to ask her to focus on someone other than herself for once???
Sorry, had to vent. Thank God for this board. Think of all I save not having to go to therapy!
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09-18-2009, 11:21 AM
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Aw ((((HUGS)))) No, it isn't too much for you to ask her so.
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09-18-2009, 11:51 AM
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Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Mississippi
Posts: 4,904
Weight Statistics 3/18/2008 (dieted all my life) Start Date:
9/30/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
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292 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
100 lb Weight Loss:
3 lb Lb Left to Lose:
34.2465753425 % % Lost:
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Body Mass Index44.3935986159 BMI Start:
29.1903114187 BMI Current:
28.7342128028 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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You have to tell her. It is not fair to you. You will need to focus on yourself during this wonderful journey you are about to take. It is time to think about yourself and tell her she needs to take care of herself. Hang in there. It will get better.
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09-18-2009, 03:51 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: Troy,ny
Posts: 2,799
Weight Statistics Since birth:) Start Date:
August 5, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
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319 lb Start Weight:
189 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
130 lb Weight Loss:
39 lb Lb Left to Lose:
40.7523510972 % % Lost:
sometime in 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.4823232323 BMI Start:
30.5020661157 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Ditto everyone what everyone else said.
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09-18-2009, 04:25 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Northern California
Posts: 28
Weight Statistics January 1, 2009 Start Date:
January 13, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
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295 lb Start Weight:
179 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
116 lb Weight Loss:
19 lb Lb Left to Lose:
39.3220338983 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index46.198485186 BMI Start:
28.0323011807 BMI Current:
25.0568055246 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Sometimes the best thing you can do for someone is ro tell them to get up and stand on their own two feet.
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09-18-2009, 05:13 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: North
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102 lb Current Weight:
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108 lb Weight Loss:
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51.4285714286 % % Lost:
August 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.0083333333 BMI Start:
19.9183333333 BMI Current:
21.4805555556 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Sounds like a candid discussion with Sis is in order. Even though you love her & you're trying to help her sometimes people in a rut need a wake up call, kind of a kick in the butt to get them motivated. Perhaps even giving her a deadline to obtain some type of job may be in order. Sometimes tough love is the best love. Good luck.
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09-18-2009, 05:37 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
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280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
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108 lb Weight Loss:
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At a minimum, you need some domestic help around the house for awhile after surgery. If she's going to stay, she has to pay, and if it's gotta be labor she pays with, well, you can use the help!
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09-18-2009, 06:02 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: North
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108 lb Weight Loss:
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Good idea!
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09-19-2009, 11:15 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: Raleigh, NC
Posts: 63
Weight Statistics 8/27/2009 Start Date:
10/14/2009 Surgery Date:
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Height:
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175 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
55 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
23.9130434783 % % Lost:
december 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index39.4750976562 BMI Start:
30.0354003906 BMI Current:
28.3190917969 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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great ideas and advice! We did have a long talk this morning and I told her frankly that I needed her full attention and support during and after the surgery. We also agreed that she would start keeping the house clean and handle the cooking and cleaning until she gets a job. Hopefully this will work.
Thank you all so much for the kind words and advice!
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09-20-2009, 11:04 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Big Sky Country~Montana
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Weight Statistics Sept 2008 Start Date:
Oct 13, 2008 Surgery Date:
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450 lb Start Weight:
306 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
144 lb Weight Loss:
126 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32 % % Lost:
in late 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index70.472265538 BMI Start:
47.9211405658 BMI Current:
28.1889062152 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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awesome and congrats on your successful talk, communication is such a big part of relationships. YAY!
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