[momrobare]

HI
Ok...how is my family handling my decision? Well they're not handling it. They just don't care.

Let me qualify the family I LIVE with (a nephew, a niece and 2 grand nephews and 1 grand niece and my sister!) My brother lives in the area also and he thinks I'm making a huge mistake cause he says it is a waste of time as I will be fat and obese in a year or two after the operation. The other just flat out don't care!!!! I never married so I don't have to worry about a husband's input or lack of input anyway.
Right now I am pre surgery and have been eating healthy since April 29 of this year. BUT...I cannot buy anything and put it in my refrigerator without someone eating it! Doesn't matter if they're veggie burgers, light, low fat, diet etc...THEY EAT IT!

It's sad when I have to take my food over the little old lady's house (she turned 100 on the 9th of September) and put it in her refrigerator! And I can't do that with a lot of food cause she gets upset if she THINKS she has no room for her own...not that I blame her!

My sister wants the operation too but she doesn't qualify! She IS overweight but has no co mobidities and her BMI isn't high enough! So...she is going to weight watchers and has turned the whole weight loss issue into a contest! We don't support each other as we're too busy one upping one another on who eats the best and who has lost the most weight!

The ONLY ones who care are my daughter and son in law and they live 600 miles away from me in New Jersey!

My little old lady doesn't want me to have the operation cause I would have to take time off and since I work from 8pm-8am...she can't find anybody else willing to take my nights while I'm off! Plus she thinks I look fine now. She does belong to an older generation where fat people were considered healthy people so I can understand where she's coming from.

Anyway it seems like I'm going it alone except for the support of my daughter and son in law by phone!

But have no fear...I am determined and it won't be the first time I've had to do some hard/scary things on my own.

[4Kate]

Aww, I wish you ahd some more real life support. Maybe after others will come around? I choose not to tell people untill... well.... today. I finaly started spilling the beans.Its hard for them to say I am making a mistake when its already done. LOL

Hang in there!

[momrobare]

Originally Posted by 4Kate

Aww, I wish you ahd some more real life support. Maybe after others will come around? I choose not to tell people untill... well.... today. I finaly started spilling the beans.Its hard for them to say I am making a mistake when its already done. LOL

Hang in there!

Hi
Thank you. I see my psychologist whom I love on the 19th and I'm sure I will be able to talk to her about it and she'll support me! And to be honest...my daughter's support is all I really need! As long as she approves and supports me...and is coming up when I have my surgery to help me...I'll be just fine!

Oh and as long as I have this board!

[decker1976]

As difficult as it may be you have to stop worrying about what everyone else thinks. It's going to be hard since you either live with or work for one or the other. Please know that you are supported here. While it's not the same as having family support we don't come in a bad second. Chin up.

[dixieladybug]

Yep I agree with decker. We are here for you. Sorry you don't have the support that you need but I can tell you are determined to do this and you can make it work for you. Remember you always have us.. Good luck on your journey. It is so worth it.

[gowheelynn]

Remember you are doing this for your health not somebodys approval! You & I have almost the same starting weight & height. My surgery went great, no pain etc. If you follow your pre-op diet it will be a lot easier than if not. I did the 2 wk liquid diet & the doc was happy that I did. The diet makes the liver shrink down & gives the surgeon more room to move around. My problems started at about 4 days out, but if you drink enough this shouldn't happen to you.

[Nicole]

Ok, I have a couple of suggestions.

1. Put a lock on the fridge! If you can't lock up that fridge, look on craigslist or as on freecycle to see if someone can give you one for cheap or free. Then you can put all the other people's food in there and keep your food separate and lock it up! You need that food for you, not for them to just have at it when ever they want. Have you thought about getting your own place?
2. Maybe you should ask around and see if someone can help out with the lady you work for while you are recovering.
3. You should do this for you and your health. Others will either come around or not, but ultimately you are the only one who has to live with the decision. Right?

As for your sister, could you try ignoring her? I bet that she is doing it for attention. Could you just ignore her, and not reinforce it so she will ultimately give up?

You always have us here for support!

[luvRdogs]

Yup, we are here for you! Also, does your local bariatric center have a support group?
Hang in there..
salli lou

[DocSanae]

Aww ((((HUGS))))
Can you get a small fridge to keep in your room?
On second thought. Fill the fridge in the kitchen with the dreaded protein shakes and supplements

[not quite Barbie]

Oh Doc, I didn't think you had a mean side!

Momrobare, please stop competing with your sister. YOu are going to start losing a lot of weight once you get the surgery and it's just going ot make it even harder for her to support you if she's overcome with jealousy over your weight loss.

Any chance of moving in with the little old lady? Sounds like it would be a lot more peaceful. Look for one of those small fridges that they make for dorm rooms. That's about all you're going to need for a long time.