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11-13-2009, 08:38 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: New York
Posts: 32
Weight Statistics 07/14/2009 Start Date:
07/21/2009 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
253 lb Start Weight:
177 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
76 lb Weight Loss:
37 lb Lb Left to Lose:
30.0395256917 % % Lost:
07/21/2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.7987100242 BMI Start:
33.4402042462 BMI Current:
26.4498790648 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Ok...this is gonna be a long one. For me morbid obesity not only came with the threat of serious medical conditions but with chronic depression. Since I blew up like a hot air balloon I didn't really do much with my life....my appearance especially suffered. Now that I am a fairly reasonable size and have options with what I can wear I get to really portray a more accurate representation of myself to the world! My problem with this is that I keep coming across people who evidently think I am trying to be something I'm not. While it is frustrating (especially if it someone dear to me) I just give them a polite f*** you and move along with my day. Has anyone else gone through this? I really need someone to relate to right now because I am sick and tired of people trying to break my confidence.
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11-13-2009, 08:42 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 9,219
Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
170 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
193 lb Weight Loss:
53.1680440771 % % Lost:
12/31/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.0793877551 BMI Start:
24.3897959184 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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We all have been there and did that and still do it on occasion. I dont have your anwser because once you come accross it you will know it immediatly. I wish I could help ya more but I cant. ALot of it is jealousy. I think you will find others responding to this will agree with that one.
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11-13-2009, 09:09 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Sep 2008 Location: Mississippi
Posts: 4,905
Weight Statistics 3/18/2008 (dieted all my life) Start Date:
9/30/2008 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
292 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
100 lb Weight Loss:
3 lb Lb Left to Lose:
34.2465753425 % % Lost:
2 years Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.3935986159 BMI Start:
29.1903114187 BMI Current:
28.7342128028 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I agree with Vickie on this one. Jealousy plays a big part in it. Just smile that "eat your heart out" smile and keep doing what you are doing to make yourself feel good about your self. You deserve it. You are doing great. Keep up the good work.
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11-13-2009, 09:42 PM
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Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: North
Posts: 2,180
Weight Statistics August 20, 2009 Surgery Date:
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102 lb Current Weight:
110 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
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51.4285714286 % % Lost:
August 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.0083333333 BMI Start:
19.9183333333 BMI Current:
21.4805555556 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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At some point you will need to stop worrying about what others think. You took a singnificant risk to have WLS so that you could have a healthier you. Please don't let what others think impact your llife. You cannot control how others feel or react but you CAN control how you respond. Be happy & healthy. Stop worrying about others' perception of you. It is their problem not yours. :-)
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11-13-2009, 10:47 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: North Dakota
Posts: 3,521
Weight Statistics June 11,2007, lost 36 Lb. before surgery Start Date:
September 10, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
373 lb Start Weight:
205 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
168 lb Weight Loss:
25 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.0402144772 % % Lost:
2 years Goal Date:
Body Mass Index62.0636686391 BMI Start:
34.1100591716 BMI Current:
29.950295858 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I do not hardly have any trouble with that, becasue my family and friends are so happy for me and I was so unhealthy before the gastric bypass. I have had a few negative comments from people that I see once in a blue moon and then tell me, be careful you do not put it on again becasue they know some people that put it back on. They just asumed that I am going to put it on again just becasue they knew someone that put it all back on. It is beacuse they went back to their old way of eating again and old habits they had before. Well, I am going to try to keep it off with all the power within me. I do not care what people think, it was alot of hard work to where I got and I am proud of myself. It sure as heck was not easy to get to where i am today. My sister and friend told me that they could never go threw what i have gone threw in the last two years and family and friends are so proud of me and that I am a much healthier person today. I was a happy person before surgery, or so I thought, until my true feelings started to come out after I lost alot of weight and did some deep thinking of how I really felt about myself. People snickering and laughing at me when I was so heavy I feel with all the weight I lost and all my feelings being messed up sometimes, I deserve to be happy and proud of myself for what i have accomplished with myself in the last two years. I I could care less what the next one thinks of me and how I lost all this weight, I am just a very happy person now and life is so wonderful now.
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11-14-2009, 12:29 AM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,214
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
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38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Well, y'know, the big thing is to figure out who you did it for. I did it for me. I didn't do it to impress some dweeb with an inferiority complex who feels the need to rain on my parade. Those idgits are of no importance to me or my image of myself. Fortunately for me, and the image of a nice guy I'm trying to present, I never had anyone really burrow under my skin. Takes an awful lot to get me riled, but anyone dumb and persistent enough to do it is in for a rough time!!
Of course, all this is strictly theoretical because folks have been so good about my weight loss. Maybe that's because I shared every technique I was using with them except for the minor little detail that I had surgical help!!  Some suspected but no one asked, so I never had to tell them.
People whose goal in life is to make others miserable aren't worth the effort it'd take to give them a good putdown!! They probably wouldn't understand it anyway!!
You have earned the chance here to reinvent who you are. Pick a good role model and set out deliberately to become like that person. If you're drifting right now not knowing who you are, you might as well find yourself as a person you approve of!! This is the chance of a lifetime for each of us!!
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11-14-2009, 02:18 AM
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Unfortunately, this happens often. There are lots of threads about this in Family and Loved Ones.
I am also moving this thread to the said section.
When people say things to you, remember that they say stuff because they have issues with themselves, not you. They are unhappy, so they take it out on you, which is none of your fault. Best to walk away from the worst ones at least.
Hang in there. ((((HUGS))))
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11-14-2009, 03:51 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Cypress,Texas
Posts: 926
Weight Statistics March 17,2009 Start Date:
March 17,2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
294 lb Start Weight:
157 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
7 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.5986394558 % % Lost:
Whenever it happens:) Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.4476584022 BMI Start:
25.3376951331 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
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Originally Posted by decker1976  At some point you will need to stop worrying about what others think. You took a singnificant risk to have WLS so that you could have a healthier you. Please don't let what others think impact your llife. You cannot control how others feel or react but you CAN control how you respond. Be happy & healthy. Stop worrying about others' perception of you. It is their problem not yours. :-) | AMEN TO THAT!!!!! You can't control how others act but you can control how you respond! Don't allow others to steal your joy. A lot of people just aren't used to you dressing nice and feeling confident so they may mistake it for conceite. Don't worry about it. Just let them know that "this" is you now and you feel great. I know I have had people say stuff like "oh you think you're all that now huh" and I just respond with a smile and say well I must be in order for you to say that...then giggle and say thanx Girl!....lol! I love it though! I feel great and others see that. I do ocassionally hear negative things too like the other day when a friend of mine (happens to be overweight) told me in my ear that I have no booty now. I kind of got a little offended for a sec but then told her no I just don't have a so called booty up my back it is now where it should be. She then said yea you're right. That's a good thing..LOL! Hey just makes me want to work harder on the squats..lol!
Best to you and stay positive. Don't allow anyone to steal your joy again!
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11-14-2009, 05:14 PM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Troy,NY
Posts: 424
Weight Statistics forever Start Date:
August 5th 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
319 lb Start Weight:
216 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
103 lb Weight Loss:
66 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.2884012539 % % Lost:
sometime in 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.4823232323 BMI Start:
34.8595041322 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
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Don't let others rain on your parade....I am currently experiencing this with someone at work....I will represent myself and choose what clothing I wear for no one else but me. I don't let her get to me. You earned all that you have worked fro so go ahead and strut your stuff girl and do it with confidence!
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11-14-2009, 05:32 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Durham, NC
Posts: 690
Weight Statistics All my life Start Date:
February 10, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
88 lb Weight Loss:
12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
31.4285714286 % % Lost:
June, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index40.1714285714 BMI Start:
27.546122449 BMI Current:
25.8244897959 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I agree with everyone here. Strut your stuff girl; you deserve it. And those who don't like it, who cares!! This is for YOU; those others are just jealous that you're looking so good. This is when you really find out who your true friends are; the true ones support you, the fake ones give you a hard time. And who needs a jealous, so-called friend in their life??? Don't let anyone steal your joy!!!
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