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05-04-2010, 06:00 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgetown,TN
Posts: 2,278
Weight Statistics way to long to remember!! Start Date:
12-09-09 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
282 lb Start Weight:
125 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
157 lb Weight Loss:
-25 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.6737588652 % % Lost:
I just want to be healthy Goal Date:
Body Mass Index48.3999023438 BMI Start:
21.4538574219 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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So since my surgery in dec.09 I have struggled daily,questioning myself at every turn even self doubt. So last night I went to bed and my husband said did u watch the news,I said no my stomach hurts. He then says it's because you are eating stuff you know you can't have.I was pissed so I said, you tell me what you've seen me eat that was not "right".....dead silence,then he says I will not say anything else to help you if you want to regain the almost 80 pounds you've lost so far.I told him thats a heck of a way to be supportive I'd HATE TO HEAR HIS NEGATIVE THOUGHTS!!!!!!Then he said you have done very good so far he was proud of me!  Thank you for listening,just needed to rant!!!!!!!
Kim 
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05-04-2010, 07:54 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Idaho
Posts: 3,952
Weight Statistics Jan 2009 Start Date:
Dec. 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
317 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.8012618297 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.1595500459 BMI Start:
31.3089990817 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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HUn no one really gets it unless they go thru it I swear , Heck he probally dont even know what you are to eat for sure My hubby does the larger part of cooking but still comes up with ideas that I think where the hell is your head today You know what you can and cant do and obviously by reading your stats your doing awesome , chalk it up to him being not intune or just plain incensitive for the moment ,ummm didnt I hear a swift kick in the butt helps with that LOL...I have good days and bad days with my pouch also , but I must say I am getting good ones much more now...Dont let him discourage you , just rant away here to us and we will get our voodoo dolls out and make him pay for what he says ...good luck hun  PS: your beautiful !!!
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05-04-2010, 08:16 AM
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Aw (((HUGS))) You've done very well, keep your head up high.
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05-04-2010, 08:33 AM
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Join Date: Apr 2009 Location: Bergen, Norway
Posts: 281
Weight Statistics November 3, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
336 lb Start Weight:
160 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
176 lb Weight Loss:
-10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
52.380952381 % % Lost:
Christmas, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index57.66796875 BMI Start:
27.4609375 BMI Current:
29.1772460938 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I'm of the belief that men can be complete tards. Just remind yourself that this is his way of looking out for you. It sounds bad and we don't always want to hear it, but sometimes we NEED to hear it. Keep your head up, and try to let him keep his attached  We're here for you!
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05-04-2010, 10:39 AM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
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Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Originally Posted by Jenna  I'm of the belief that men can be complete tards. Just remind yourself that this is his way of looking out for you. It sounds bad and we don't always want to hear it, but sometimes we NEED to hear it. | I don't think men have a monopoly on this, though! Peanut said a few things about my progress in my early days post-op that were uncalled for. Now that she's 14 months post herself, I sometimes remind her about them just to watch her cringe!!  We can laugh about it now, but a couple of years ago? It's a good thing I can let things flow on past without internalizing them ... 
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05-04-2010, 10:40 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Oklahoma City, Okla USA
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Weight Statistics 05/17/02 Start Date:
05/17/02 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
355 lb Start Weight:
190 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
165 lb Weight Loss:
15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.4788732394 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index59.0686390533 BMI Start:
31.6142011834 BMI Current:
29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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oh good grief!! what a jerk..
You've done so well and stop questioning yourself at every turn!! good grief..in FIVE months you've lost a LOT of weight..that's an amazing change right there!~
Keep you head held high!
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05-04-2010, 11:20 AM
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Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: São Paulo, Brazil
Posts: 620
Weight Statistics Jan 7th, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
232 lb Start Weight:
129 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
103 lb Weight Loss:
-1 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.3965517241 % % Lost:
Dec 2011 - Achieved in Jan 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.4287200832 BMI Start:
23.5918314256 BMI Current:
23.7747138398 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I can't relate to what you're feeling because my boyfriend still haven't made any comment that way to me about the surgery. Actually we just don't talk about it often. There was one time last week we were talking about a friend of his that is very obese and he said "maybe next time he meets you he can see how well you're doing and decides to go for it" (last time I saw him was in New Year's and I told him I was having the surgery and he said he didn't want to talk about it because his sisters had problems and he didn't want to scare me). Also last saturday we were at my sister-in-law's birthday and my boyfriend's family was asking him about my surgery and he just said "she's normal but just eats very little".
Anyway, back to you... Since your husband came and told you he was proud and bladibla maybe he meant the wrong food not in a sense of it being wrong in terms of fat/sugar but in terms of you knowing you ate something that upsets your stomach? Some post-ops can't handle different food for some time (and even for life). Some do not tolerate milk, others fruit, others bread and so on. And if your stomach hurting is often you can maybe relate to some food or if not you should go see your doctor as it could be a stricture or an ulcer or something else. Better be safe than sorry.
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05-04-2010, 11:29 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Idaho
Posts: 3,952
Weight Statistics Jan 2009 Start Date:
Dec. 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
317 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.8012618297 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.1595500459 BMI Start:
31.3089990817 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Gordina he should get the boyfriend of the year award This man is not a fool, he is now dating a very attractive lil chick a dee , he is thinking I am not biting the hand of the woman who feeds me lol...Seriously he has a great answer ,"she's normal but just eats very little". Sounds like he done a lot of reading on your decision to have WLS and is great at supporting you Oh and I must say once again those pics of you with your new make up ,are stunning !
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05-04-2010, 05:40 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgetown,TN
Posts: 2,278
Weight Statistics way to long to remember!! Start Date:
12-09-09 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
282 lb Start Weight:
125 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
157 lb Weight Loss:
-25 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.6737588652 % % Lost:
I just want to be healthy Goal Date:
Body Mass Index48.3999023438 BMI Start:
21.4538574219 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Thank you all for your words of encouragement(i love this site)We talked about it today and to make a long story short I worked with someone who had the surgery and she thought of it as a easy way out,eating the same way after wls as she did prior to it. My husband said he just doesn't want that same fate as hers to happen to me.I told him I appreciate his concern but i'm not that crazy or foolish !!!! thanks ya'll
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05-06-2010, 07:48 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Jackson MN
Posts: 222
Weight Statistics 1-4-2010 Start Date:
2-17-2010 Surgery Date:
6' 3"
Height:
399 lb Start Weight:
285 lb Current Weight:
250 lb Goal Weight:
114 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.5714285714 % % Lost:
Before I die Goal Date:
Body Mass Index49.8661333333 BMI Start:
35.6186666667 BMI Current:
31.2444444444 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Call it a guy thing but I didn't see anything wrong with what he said. You were sick, he thought that it had something to do with what you ate, That makes sense to me. I have not had a cold, or the flue since surgery. Every time I have gotten sick it has been food related. Granted he could have worded it better. But he had good intentions. My wife gets mad at me all the time because I bug her about her eating. She doesn't get that I am not doing it to be a pain, I am doing it because I love her and want her to live a long healthy life with me.
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