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05-04-2010, 05:53 PM
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#1 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: Indiana
Posts: 291
Weight Statistics 1/11/2010 Start Date:
1/28/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
258 lb Start Weight:
202 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
56 lb Weight Loss:
52 lb Lb Left to Lose:
21.7054263566 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index42.9287573964 BMI Start:
33.610887574 BMI Current:
24.9585798817 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|  What the *&^%
OK, got a call from one of the privilaged few whom I told that I was having WLS. Guess what she asked? "How much weight have you lost, I am sitting here with Susie and we got to talking and just wondered how much you have lost."
Problem one: Susie is not one of the "privilaged few".
Problem two: it really is none of their business. Guess I can plan to explain and answer questions to everyone in the company. UHG!
Let me say...in all my adult life I have NEVER asked someone how much weight they have lost / gained etc. What gives with the sense of entitlement and rudeness?
One other gripe while I am at it: a family member (Hubby's side) said when asking how much I have lost: "Is that all?"
Otherwise I am having a good spring...beautiful weather and I feel great! 
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05-04-2010, 06:24 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Idaho
Posts: 3,952
Weight Statistics Jan 2009 Start Date:
Dec. 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
317 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.8012618297 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.1595500459 BMI Start:
31.3089990817 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Betsy best way to reply to all of this is ," it doesnt matter what I have lost it matters that I am healthy , I di this for a health choice not for the pounds , now if you want to know how healthy I am I will be glad to share that with you "
For me I dont care who knows I had the surgery or how much I have lost but I do want them to know I most likely would have never done it if it hadnt been a major health choice , and people seem to understand that better than just looking at the pounds...
Hold you head high , you have nothing to be ashamed of or feel insecure about, your health brought you to this point and you made the right choices !  Beats being in a casket 
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05-04-2010, 06:35 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Sep 2009 Location: Southern California
Posts: 810
Weight Statistics 2000 Start Date:
February 17, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
175 lb Current Weight:
164 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.5 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index42.5692041522 BMI Start:
26.6057525952 BMI Current:
24.9333910035 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Yesterday I walked into work and my co-worker did her usual "oh wow, every week you just get slimmer and slimmer!" I replied, I haven't lost any weight this week, I weigh the same as last time you saw me" She said "not any? how can that be? You know what it is, its that chocolate milk you are always drinking!" She is referring to the 11 oz protein drink which I sip thoughout the day. Smack #1 for making comments about my weight every time you see me, which is at least 1x per week. Smack #2 for telling me how to eat.
Did you tell this person that she was one of the "privleged few" and that you were not interested in sharing with others? Sometimes people assume that if you told them, you don't mind who knows.
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05-04-2010, 06:43 PM
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#4 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Richmond, VA
Posts: 649
Weight Statistics Nov 3, 2009 (18 lbs. lost pre-op) Start Date:
Jan 29, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
245 lb Start Weight:
167 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
78 lb Weight Loss:
17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
31.8367346939 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index42.0495605469 BMI Start:
28.6623535156 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I had my surgery the day after you!! People just don't understand and why is it they think it is okay to be rude anyway!!! Well I hope you let them know just how you feel!
Hugs,
Lexie
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05-04-2010, 06:50 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 9,445
Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 June 18,2012 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
226 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
56 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.741046832 % % Lost:
When I get there again Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.0793877551 BMI Start:
32.4240816327 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Honey that is a question you will be asked alot belive it or not. Yes alot. I got asked that so often and acutally I couldnt keep up with it after a while. I never was asked how much I weighed to start off with but at one point I did tell some one? LOL. As for the thing is that all? ....... well I tell them like I like to tell people losing it..... when you think omg all I have lost is 20 lbs is next time your in the grocery store pick up a 5 pound bag of sugar see how heavy that is.. then pick them all up get the picture? Honey its ok.....and if it bothers you that much..... ask them if they would like the number to your surgeons office......... I did that to one lady never had a problem with her again. LOL....... Hey its your life...... you have taken the reigns now make it your own...... its hard at times..... take it with a grain of salt and move on........ on the bad days..... let it fly..... Take care.....
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05-04-2010, 07:12 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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When they ask how much you've lost, tell them your health stats, like "I lost 35 points on my cholesterol, 285 on my triglycerides, 50% on my blood pressure ..."
They have no right to any information you don't want to share, and you are under no obligation to play their game, but answering like this will drive home that you're doing it for your health, not your mirror.
Then if they say "but how much weight have you lost?", simply smile and reply "oh, I don't know. I haven't been tracking that much!"  (Even if it's stretching the truth, it'll mess with their minds something fierce!!)
Just remember - you have an island of sanity here to lift you back up when they try to get you down!!
CT
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05-04-2010, 07:27 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Oklahoma City, Okla USA
Posts: 2,549
Weight Statistics 05/17/02 Start Date:
05/17/02 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
355 lb Start Weight:
190 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
165 lb Weight Loss:
15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.4788732394 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index59.0686390533 BMI Start:
31.6142011834 BMI Current:
29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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You certainly would have been in your right to have pointed out that you had chosen only a few people to share with that you were having major surgery. Then pointed out that you didn't appreciate that you shared that information which was PERSONAL with "so and so" and HUNG UP THE PHONE.
maybe I'm just getting more b***hy about this kind of thing now that I'm 48 ha! but dang it..I'm sick to death of people gossiping about people and doing that kind of childish teenage chit!!! Are they 13? come on really now!
I've certainly had enough 'gossip' slung my way with this surgery I had this past 3.5 weeks ago. That I read this and it about sent me over the edge on your behalf!
We have the right to either share or NOT share. If you choose to NOT share then they shouldn't share it either. If you choose TO share then people shouldn't gossip about what the surgery 'really was for' kind of nonsense!
This is all major surgery and really none of their business in the end what you weight is now OR at goal!
hmph!!!
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05-04-2010, 09:22 PM
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| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: South Central Kentucky
Posts: 1,242
Weight Statistics forever... 10/2007 was my official start date for WLS Start Date:
December 16, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
376 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
166 lb Goal Weight:
184 lb Weight Loss:
26 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48.9361702128 % % Lost:
no time limit... just want to be healthy Goal Date:
Body Mass Index66.5981355505 BMI Start:
34.007558579 BMI Current:
29.4023683547 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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it won't be long, however.... until the "that's all" becomes "holy crap!" I know it's frustrating, but hang in there. You're still brand new.... before you know it, they'll be chomping at the bit to look like you! LOL
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05-04-2010, 10:25 PM
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#9 (permalink)
| | Big Loser
Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Illinois
Posts: 155
Weight Statistics forever Start Date:
Surgery date was Dec 30th 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
311 lb Start Weight:
245 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
66 lb Weight Loss:
75 lb Lb Left to Lose:
21.2218649518 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index50.1912304867 BMI Start:
39.5397153352 BMI Current:
27.4357208448 BMI Goal:
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Just tell them all to go to hell! LOL I am lucky that 99% of my co workers are great and have supported my decision for surgery. If they are talking about it, they haven't let it get back to me. The other 1%? Well, she doesn't talk to me anyway. LOL You should be proud to have just have made the decision to have the surgery and you are doing wonderful! Just think...you would have never lost what you have so far on your own, right? Give yourself a pat on the back and kick the others in the head and just smile!
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05-05-2010, 09:01 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: Michigan
Posts: 516
Weight Statistics January 2009 Start Date:
Sept 29, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
299 lb Start Weight:
176 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
31 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.1371237458 % % Lost:
Sept 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index54.6818418314 BMI Start:
32.1873048907 BMI Current:
26.517950052 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| WTF??? is right
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Originally Posted by Betsy  OK, got a call from one of the privilaged few whom I told that I was having WLS. Guess what she asked? "How much weight have you lost, I am sitting here with Susie and we got to talking and just wondered how much you have lost."
Problem one: Susie is not one of the "privilaged few".
Problem two: it really is none of their business. Guess I can plan to explain and answer questions to everyone in the company. UHG!
Let me say...in all my adult life I have NEVER asked someone how much weight they have lost / gained etc. What gives with the sense of entitlement and rudeness?
One other gripe while I am at it: a family member (Hubby's side) said when asking how much I have lost: "Is that all?"
Otherwise I am having a good spring...beautiful weather and I feel great! | ***
OMG!!! i got mad just reading this stuff... WTF is right...
Ok let me help... tell Susie to mind her own business and the other chick that she never has to worry about you telling her anything else again... Tell the person on the hubby's side, to stop hating.. and to bite you in your ever decreasing in size ass...
You did this for you... and your health ever one else can eat a @#$%... you continue to feel great and do you...
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To everyone else, for future reference... screw what everyone else is saying about how much weight you have lost and how much you should be losing it ain't their business.. and you can tell them I said, they can eat a bag of baby @#$%&...
remember "it's all a process" and there are haters everywhere...
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