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05-07-2010, 03:03 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In the middle of nowhere vermont
Posts: 59
Weight Statistics Well it all started when i was born... Start Date:
5' 7"
Height:
385 lb Start Weight:
395 lb Current Weight:
192 lb Goal Weight:
-10 lb Weight Loss:
203 lb Lb Left to Lose:
-2.5974025974 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index60.2929382936 BMI Start:
61.8589886389 BMI Current:
30.0681666295 BMI Goal:
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Okay so i haven't had surgery yet but i am working on getting everything going. I thought everyone was behind me with my desicion and i guess not. My mom and little sis gave me a shocking reply to when we were talking about hoodies. See my mom had the WLS and she is doing well. She commented on how her hoodies didn't fit her anymore and she needed to get a new one. My sis and i were both agreeing that we too needed new hoodies. But i was like " But i am going to wait till after my WLS to get a new hoodie." My mom was like " Well after you see the dietcian and if they put you on meds to help you lose those lbs you need to lose for surgery you might not even need surgery." My little sis agreed with her. I was like WAT?!?!?!?!  I am already nervous and i was glad that my mom was behind me with my choice to have surgery done but this like statement has me worried. I am going to do the surgery no matter what her opinion is because i want a healthier me and nothing has worked yet. But it would be comforting to have her behind me.
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I never saw anything wrong till i was 385 at 17 yrs old. 
Now i am needing some more change in my life even though i am eating in small portions and excersing more. Hopefully my journey will be a good one.
My Blog here on the site: http://weight-brina-lose.blogspot.com/
It took years to ask why.
It took months to find the answer,
But it only took a few moments to choose to live. Now it will only take determination to reach my goal.
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05-07-2010, 03:19 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Maybe she just wants to make sure her baby's considered everything before having her guts tied in knots? She could be testing the depth of your commitment. If she's had it and done well, she knows what it can do for you. She also knows how hard it really is!!
Let it ride. Life's wayyy too short to be mad at your mom, especially on Mother's Day!! 
CT
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05-07-2010, 03:26 PM
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Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: South Central Kentucky
Posts: 1,242
Weight Statistics forever... 10/2007 was my official start date for WLS Start Date:
December 16, 2008 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
376 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
166 lb Goal Weight:
184 lb Weight Loss:
26 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48.9361702128 % % Lost:
no time limit... just want to be healthy Goal Date:
Body Mass Index66.5981355505 BMI Start:
34.007558579 BMI Current:
29.4023683547 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I agree with CT on this one. My mom is one of my biggest supporters now, but she gave me a hard time before the surgery. Part of it was testing my resolve, and I think part of it was just her being afraid for me. This surgery is a BIG step. Permanent and life changing.... moms get nervous when that kind of commitment is at hand. Heck, I get nervous when my daughter wants to go from blonde to a redhead! It's just what moms do.
Just stand your ground if this is what you want. Be prepared to defend your decision, from lots of people. It's happened to me many times. As much as I love my grandmother, and as proud as she is of my success...she still tries to give me the "horror stories" that she's heard. It's just all part of the process.
Just tell your mom you love her, and if you were to miraculously lose all the weight you want before surgery time, then so be it. Otherwise, you're surgery bound! LOL
Best of luck to you.
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05-07-2010, 06:20 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: Oklahoma City, Okla USA
Posts: 2,549
Weight Statistics 05/17/02 Start Date:
05/17/02 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
355 lb Start Weight:
190 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
165 lb Weight Loss:
15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.4788732394 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index59.0686390533 BMI Start:
31.6142011834 BMI Current:
29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Umm...what MEDS are she referring to that "they'll give you to help you lose weight before surgery"??? there is NOT one Bariatric program that I know of that give you medication to 'lose weight before surgery'...that caught my eye and bugged me, and made me really uncomfortable to read.
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05-07-2010, 06:46 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: In the middle of nowhere vermont
Posts: 59
Weight Statistics Well it all started when i was born... Start Date:
5' 7"
Height:
385 lb Start Weight:
395 lb Current Weight:
192 lb Goal Weight:
-10 lb Weight Loss:
203 lb Lb Left to Lose:
-2.5974025974 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index60.2929382936 BMI Start:
61.8589886389 BMI Current:
30.0681666295 BMI Goal:
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Srry should have been more clear. I think she was refering to the meds that the docs will give you if you having trouble losing that last bit of weight. I believe they gave her phentermine (sp?) after she kinda stalled out with those last 10 lbs i believe. I will double check it to make sure i got the correct information.
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I never saw anything wrong till i was 385 at 17 yrs old.
Now i am needing some more change in my life even though i am eating in small portions and excersing more. Hopefully my journey will be a good one.
My Blog here on the site: http://weight-brina-lose.blogspot.com/
It took years to ask why.
It took months to find the answer,
But it only took a few moments to choose to live. Now it will only take determination to reach my goal.
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05-07-2010, 07:44 PM
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Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan
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Aside from medication, siince your mother is doing well, she knows it can be a pretty rough road, so she may want to make sure you are mentally ready.
Don't just say you are going to have surgery to her, discuss WITH her about everything concerning surgery--what the drs and nuts and other people she had to see for approval said to her, how she what her emotios were going through the process, when she was approved to pre op, what her emotions were immediately post op, what she feels about herself now. Just bug her with ALL the questions that you come up with. You don't always know what the other person actually is going through even if you live together and arre observing that peson closely, so don't think that you automaically know because you are watching your mother.
Keep in mind that the post op journey is only 10% physical=surgery and 80% mental/emotional.
If you talk things out thoroughly with your mother, she will understand how serious you are about this, and will help you get the help you need.
Good luck.
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05-08-2010, 12:56 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2007 Location: No. Los Angeles County, CA
Posts: 2,849
Weight Statistics 4.29.08 RNY Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
168 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
133 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.1860465116 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index45.7618944637 BMI Start:
25.5415224913 BMI Current:
25.8455882353 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I thought one or both of the "phen's" were 1) considered temporary (as is "alli" etc) and/or2) dangerous for cardiac side effects? I would not take it/them.
I think your mom is only seeing the little girl in you and may not think you have the capacity to make the decision or to pull this off. This is all your decision, as you know, and you will do what you and your medical team decide what is best for your health. Mom can only consult.
This is why I did not tell my dad about my decision until 2 weeks before the surgery. We are very close and it was real tough, but it was best for all in the end.
And re: the last 10 lbs...heck, I stalled at week 3! And the last 10 lbs for me was a lot of work! And it is a lot of work to keep it off.
My two cents...your mileage may vary.
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"Burning out this fuse out here alone" Surgery 4.29.08
11-29-08: Down 90 lbs. Total cholesterol is under 200 for the first time in my adult life!
1.11.09: 100 lbs down! Century Club! WHOO HOO! 
7.10.09 GOL! GOL! GOLGOLGOLGOLGOL! GGGGOOOOLLL!
1.10.10 Still at goal.
2.21.12 up a bit. Back on track, I hope. 
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