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07-25-2010, 04:25 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: May 2009 Location: Murrieta, Ca
Posts: 94
Weight Statistics 04/2012 Start Date:
5' 1"
Height:
236 lb Start Weight:
231 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
5 lb Weight Loss:
116 lb Lb Left to Lose:
2.1186440678 % % Lost:
when i lose it Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.5869389949 BMI Start:
43.6423004569 BMI Current:
21.7266863746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodOther
|  Drastic measures?
So I have been approved which many of you know and I am so excited! But now I am facing the struggles with my parents about how I am taking such DRASTIC measures. My mom just said a little bit ago, I'll love you but I just wish you weren't taking such drastic measures. How do you deal with comments like this? I know they are supportive with me losing weight but they are just scared I guess. What do I say to them to make them feel better about surgery?
Thanks in advance!
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07-25-2010, 05:32 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Feb 2010
Posts: 106
Weight Statistics 2/23/10 Start Date:
02/23/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
256 lb Start Weight:
145 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
111 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.359375 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index43.9375 BMI Start:
24.8864746094 BMI Current:
24.0283203125 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Well, I did not tell anybody because I knew those comments were coming. I told my mom after I had a surgery date (and I had only a 2 week warning on that) My dad came with all those comments after the fact and he said "if you had told me about this I would have told you not to do it" and I said "i know, which is exactly why I did not tell you!!" Just show her a BMI chart, and have her do her weight and height on there and see which category she falls in, and what the medical repercussions are. That usually shuts people up when they see what "morbidly obese" means.
Good luck. I am 5 months out, and it has not been all sunshine and roses, but I would do it again in a heartbeat!
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07-25-2010, 08:07 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: upstate, NY
Posts: 28
Weight Statistics October 25, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
213 lb Start Weight:
137 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
76 lb Weight Loss:
7 lb Lb Left to Lose:
35.6807511737 % % Lost:
March 14, 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index36.5573730469 BMI Start:
23.5134277344 BMI Current:
22.3120117188 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I know exactly how you feel!!!! I am in the same situation, so may not be a big help here. I understand your insecurity, and not wanting to tell anyone (after all it is none of their business!), people seem to think we "want" their negative opinions!
All I can say is, embrace this decision, listen to your doctors, get support wherever you can and recognise that there will be some bumps in the road. We WILL make to our destination!
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07-25-2010, 08:15 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: May 2010 Location: CALIFORNIA
Posts: 282
Weight Statistics JULY 2002 Start Date:
FEB 18,2010 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
250 lb Start Weight:
130 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
120 lb Weight Loss:
-45 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48 % % Lost:
FEB 18,2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index36.9145137576 BMI Start:
19.195547154 BMI Current:
25.8401596303 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Well I think there comes a time in your life when you must decide what is best their feelings or your health!?! Its stressful for family because they are scared. I wish you luck, take care of YOURSELF!
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07-25-2010, 09:24 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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"So, Mom, you'd rather I took my chances between diabetes and heart disease to see which kills me off faster?"
CT
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If you want to be healthy for life, do for life the things that get you healthy!! Living healthy takes work. Dying fat is easy!! "That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the nature of the task has changed, but that our capacity to do has increased." - HJ Grant
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08-01-2010, 11:18 PM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: May 2009 Location: Murrieta, Ca
Posts: 94
Weight Statistics 04/2012 Start Date:
5' 1"
Height:
236 lb Start Weight:
231 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
5 lb Weight Loss:
116 lb Lb Left to Lose:
2.1186440678 % % Lost:
when i lose it Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.5869389949 BMI Start:
43.6423004569 BMI Current:
21.7266863746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodOther
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Thanks all for your input and support! I finally sat down and talked with her about it and now she seems to feel a little bit better about it. My mother in law had the surgery 2 years ago and is my biggest cheerleader right now so at least I have her in my corner, without her and all of you, I would be terrified! So thanks again for all your encouragement and support and I will let you all know as the date gets closer how things are going!
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08-02-2010, 03:25 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Jun 2010
Posts: 11
Weight Statistics September 21, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
220 lb Start Weight:
160 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
60 lb Weight Loss:
45 lb Lb Left to Lose:
27.2727272727 % % Lost:
June 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index40.2341311134 BMI Start:
29.2611862643 BMI Current:
21.0314776275 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodSleeve Gastrectomy
|  This is what I did
I sat my entire family down at the table and said "I have something to say...please if you do not agree with my decision do not say anything. I have made a decision for myself that will improve my life. I have decided to get WLS." "I have made up my mind so please I do not want to hear anything negative." My Mother is the olny one that has said anything negative. I have to understand that she is worried about me going under the knife, but she has to understand I don't want to be unhealthy any more. I have to do this! She is better now that we have talked about it a few times. Everyone else was great, very supportive!
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08-02-2010, 03:37 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Jan 2009
Posts: 970
Weight Statistics All of my life! Start Date:
12/01/08 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
309 lb Start Weight:
138 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
171 lb Weight Loss:
-32 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.3398058252 % % Lost:
Original 12/09 Actual 09/09 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index49.8684573003 BMI Start:
22.2713498623 BMI Current:
27.4357208448 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Knowledge is power .. my Mom said the same thing. Now she feels it is best decision I have ever made. She is scared, scared of losing you, when she feels that there might be a less drastic way of losing weight. She needs reassurance. Take her with you on your appointments. Tell her you need her there for support. If you surgeon does a monthly seminar, have her go. That way she can ask questions. They can answer her directly.
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08-02-2010, 05:35 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Idaho
Posts: 3,952
Weight Statistics Jan 2009 Start Date:
Dec. 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
317 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.8012618297 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.1595500459 BMI Start:
31.3089990817 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Yes include her in everything , seminars, appointments, any education you can get your hands on, she loves you, she worries, as my hubby did, but once I had been told I was allergic to insulin and would die with out it, his head took a big turn and he pushed pushed pushed for it, then I was the scared one...You will do great and be able to enjoy life as we should...hugs, Annie
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08-02-2010, 05:37 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 9,445
Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 June 18,2012 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
226 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
56 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.741046832 % % Lost:
When I get there again Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.0793877551 BMI Start:
32.4240816327 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Normal feelings shes having honey. Its the unknown and your gonna have them to before its over in a way. Not so much like she has. You have more knowledge of this than she does. If you have to seen the surgeon before you have the surgery take your mom with you and that way she can understand a bit more. That is if that is a option. My surgeon seen me buy my self the first time and it was mandatory the second visit whom ever my support person was had to attend the visit with me so when explaining the entire surgery they would understand it to and they had the chance to ask questions and the time was made for it.
Yes the stress it hard on you right now having to hear that from your mom but what dont kill you honey will only make you stronger remember that. She wants you healthy to. And somtimes it takes drastic to make that happen. It is a last resort surgery. We all know that. You should be fine honey. Your date is comming fast and yes time is gonna fly it wont stand still like a vacation comming up does so hold on......
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