[Tupper_Mom]

I feel so bad reading posts from ladies who's hubbys are not supportive or are even harmful (even if it's by attitude, or what have you) to their weight loss journey.

I do believe I'm heading for my TOM...so even though I'm doing the same things...my weight's creeping up. Something in the beginning I was able to take, swallow and shake, vowing to do better the next day.

For some reason the last couple of days it has REALLY been bugging me (and THAT'S putting it mildly) I feel bad for my hubby in this moment...He's worked the last 31 days with no days off (with him on call, a lot of those days have been 24 hours ones too yuck), before that he was juggling home, kids, and me in and out of hospital (all of which he did without complaint) He's also quite large himself (he gets his referral for surgery the end of next week...when he finally has a day off) So he's watched my weight come off, and been excited for me, even though he is tired and not feeling that excited about his own weight. Only to get into bed to hear me whining (yes, I said whining) about "ALL" of this weight that I've put back on. (all of 3 pounds...seriously)

We talked about the "probable causes" the whole time with him telling me "You've done great...3 lbs is NOT the end of the world...you'll work at it and it'll come back off again." (This from a man currently weighing in at 300+ lbs himself)

So after talking about it for a bit, we come to "the root" of the problem for me...I've always yo-yo'd and this is the most I have ever lost, I was scared of what would happen if I gained it all back...to which this angel of a man replies... "Well sweetheart, keep working at it...one of two things is going to happen...by the time you get a surgical consult, you'll have lost more weight and this will all be a moot point, and the consult etc. is cancelled, or you put it back on, which is not the end of the world, you do the surgery, knowing what needs to be done following up surgery, because you've been doing it all along, and totally rock it."

I love this man, with all that I am...between him and our children, I am completely and utterly blessed.

Just wanted to share

P.S. Yes...after our talk I feel much more confident that I can do this, no matter how it needs to be done...it will get done

[kitcatcopycat]

I feel the same way about my DH. He has always been very supportative. Without him I would not be the person I am (well at least the good parts).

[cleeclee]

I too have an amazing husband! Sonetimes I wonder how i got so lucky. He loves me big little happy bitchy or whatever the day may bring . He hugs me when I cry about not losing and cheers me on when I lose. I couldnt do this without him!

[Tupper_Mom]

Thanks ladies for the comments!

[Perfesser]

It's good to see you appreciating your men and telling the RR family how good he is to you. Now that you know how much they help you, how are you showing your appreciation (and I don't necessarily mean sex, although that's not a bad idea either)? What little random acts of kindness are you doing for him to show him how much his love and support mean to you?

Love notes in his lunch? Special meals, modified so you can both enjoy them, in a romantic setting? Store the kids someplace and have a picnic ready to go when he gets home? Back rubs? Doesn't need to cost anything, but it should have "you" all over it in a way that shows him you return the love.

One of the oldest truths in the book is that the behaviors you reward, you get more of. The behaviors you punish, you get less of (but not always.) What meaningful rewards are you giving the world's best husband to support the wonderful things he's doing for you because he loves you?

CT

[Tupper_Mom]

Waaaaay ahead of you

Dropped the kiddos off at the sitter's and brought lunch out to him at work, and sat in a filthy oil battery, with a wonderful lunch (that superceded the sandwich he went with) enjoying his company, when he asked why I was there I explained that I was there because I love him and wanted to let him know how much

(He knows I'm terrified going out there...most of it's gravel roads, super duper easy to get lost, and a lot of the guys just fly on those roads...mainly because there's nobody on them...140kms/hour is nothing out there...so me getting there was pretty huge...plus I brought lunch from his favorite place...home hehehe)

Backrubs, and notes in his lunch are almost common place at our place, I'm adamant about being very open and obvious to the people I love, exactly how much I love them. Been like that for as long as I can remember, don't wait till tomorrow to tell someone how much they're loved or appreciated, because really, you just never know.

But thank you so much for chiming in CT Wise and wonderful as usual

[kitcatcopycat]

CT - Excellent suggestions!