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08-09-2010, 08:04 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Canada
Posts: 578
Weight Statistics July 2009 Start Date:
February 26, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
307 lb Start Weight:
143 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
164 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
53.4201954397 % % Lost:
July 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index56.1449011446 BMI Start:
26.1521852237 BMI Current:
24.6891259105 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  How Did We Let It Get This Bad?
I was reading the DH entry here today. It got me thinking about us as a couple. I mean where did we go so so wrong in our thinking and let ourselves go to the point of morbid obesity? I mean when I married I weighed 135 and he was 210 which was not bad at 6"1". But how did we get so so far off the beaten track?
I am just so happy we found a foothold and got back on the right path.....
Wow I cannot believe the difference looking at these pics and yet I see us every day...
Sometimes it helps to look back to see how far we have come...
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08-09-2010, 08:18 AM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Jul 2009 Location: New Orleans, LA burbs
Posts: 202
Weight Statistics 01-01-09 Start Date:
August 17, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
257 lb Start Weight:
143 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
114 lb Weight Loss:
-2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.3579766537 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index40.2474938739 BMI Start:
22.3945199376 BMI Current:
22.7077300067 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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What a good looking couple CONGRATS!!! 
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08-09-2010, 08:30 AM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: May 2010 Location: Surprise Az
Posts: 417
Weight Statistics May 20 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
306 lb Start Weight:
195 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
111 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.2745098039 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.9155029586 BMI Start:
32.4461538462 BMI Current:
26.6224852071 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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When we met I was 219 and he was 260 ....The sex made him lose weight and the comfort made me gain. Now 5 yeras later the comfort has made him start gaining weight back he got down to 190 .... Food is something we will always have in common we love to cook and eat but long gone are the days of sitting naked in bed watching a movie eating ice cream and drinking wine. Diabeties took over his life and my weight got out of control . Our love is different now deep and true not wild and passionate.
I suppose we just need to support each other in every way we can to ensure a long healthy future . You two look awsome keep up the good work!
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08-09-2010, 08:31 AM
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| | Cub Reporter
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Southern Missouri
Posts: 83
Weight Statistics July 27 2010 Start Date:
Oct. 29 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
260 lb Start Weight:
217 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
43 lb Weight Loss:
37 lb Lb Left to Lose:
16.5384615385 % % Lost:
july of 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index39.5285467128 BMI Start:
32.991133218 BMI Current:
27.365916955 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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you both looks so wondeful.
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08-09-2010, 08:38 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Canada
Posts: 578
Weight Statistics July 2009 Start Date:
February 26, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
307 lb Start Weight:
143 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
164 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
53.4201954397 % % Lost:
July 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index56.1449011446 BMI Start:
26.1521852237 BMI Current:
24.6891259105 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| If You Love Each Other
If you truly love each other you can do it together. But in my case I had to decide I loved myself enough to leave him (had other issues as well) because he refused to look at reality. He is a dreamer and his attitude towards life controlled me. Now he has seen that and is working very hard to work with me instead of against me. But we will see how long it lasts. Should things ever return to the point like last year where I wanted to step in front of a bus then I will not hesitate to leave him again.
I think this whole journey for me has been to feel good about what I see in the mirror and how I feel inside. I need to be true to me first or else I cannot offer him what he needs out of the relationship. If he cannot support me, work with me to be healthy, and work towards some of my goals with me...I WOULD RATHER BE ALONE....It sure is a journey this life together...But the one thing I am not afraid of anymore is to be alone...and he knows it...so we shall see if that is motivation enough to keep him going with me
Complicated stuff this marriage...laughing
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08-09-2010, 08:51 AM
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Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Iowa
Posts: 1,729
Weight Statistics 1/1/2010 Start Date:
August 3, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
292 lb Start Weight:
208 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
84 lb Weight Loss:
58 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.7671232877 % % Lost:
December 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.1248852158 BMI Start:
33.5684113866 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I agree that marriage is complicated. My husband is co-dependent most of the time, but I think he is enjoying being the king of the castle while I am staying across town until my drain comes out. (2 puppies- 1 appx 50 pounds and a drain do not sound like a good mix-I don't want to end up back in the hospital). This will be interesting because he is a sabateur so it will be a learning experience for both of us. I hope I don't have to do anything as drastic as leave but I can't make promises at this time, I have to look out for me.
I wish you the best and hope that your reconciliation works and that you are both happier than ever.
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I'm doing this for me, so I can be healthy and live the life that God intended me to live.
23 pounds lost prior to surgery.
Mel
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08-09-2010, 08:53 AM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Illinois
Posts: 119
Weight Statistics 3/15/10 Start Date:
8-3-10 Surgery Date:
5' 5"
Height:
264 lb Start Weight:
185 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
79 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
29.9242424242 % % Lost:
one year from surgery date Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.9271005917 BMI Start:
30.7822485207 BMI Current:
29.1183431953 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Initially, I had only read your first post in this thread when I responded. I thought you two had taken the journey together and were supporting one another. As I read on, your second comment told me what you were really trying to say. I wish you well in your journey and hope he is now willing to do those things you need for support. Take things one day at a time! BTW congrats on your great weight loss. You are an inspiration to me!
__________________ FLUX08 ~I chose to add to my life by losing~
~"Whatever you vividly imagine, ardently desire, sincerely believe, and enthusiastically act upon... must inevitably come to pass!" ~ Paul J. Meyer
Last edited by Flux08; 08-09-2010 at 09:01 AM.
Reason: had not read the entire thread!
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08-09-2010, 11:39 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Idaho
Posts: 3,952
Weight Statistics Jan 2009 Start Date:
Dec. 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
317 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.8012618297 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.1595500459 BMI Start:
31.3089990817 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I think we get so wrapped up in everyday life and so comfortable in our marriages that we just live and let live, eat and let eat and dont look back...now sometimes our marriages are rocky along that trip and then we eat to fullfil our needs also...food is our best friend, right ? I do think this surgery makes us more independent, we see our beautiful selves comming back to life and realize how great life is and dont want to live with all the excess baggage, we want a new start in life in every aspect, after all we were born again, right ? Also all the complients we are getting since the surgery the raves the marvels makes us think hmmm do we really need them, after all there is anew guy around every corner lol...but its no better around that corner usally , same stuff different day, I am so proud and happy for ou that you didnt take the easy road out and have fought for making your marriage work, you show us how strong you are in so man ways, the two of you are a beautiful couple and look so happy, I hope things just keep getting better for you Now back to how did we get that way, pure neglect not just in ourselves but in our spouses our bodies our entire life, we were out of control obviously, now we have been blessed with a tool to help us get back in control, I pray daily I can hold to these tools and continue to lose, not for the vanity reason but I want to continue a healthy lifestyle, I want to grow old wathcing my family hell joining in with my family and being part of thier healthy life also. Who knows for sure what the after life brings, so we need to live each day as if its the last day of our life, enjoy it, love the ones we love, do the best we can to be a better person/spouse and be Happy, its not always easy to do but we made the right turn when we went the direction of WLS and finding R&R has defiently been a huge Bonus.Keep up the great work everyone ! Annie~
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08-09-2010, 07:12 PM
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#9 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Mar 2010 Location: Canada
Posts: 578
Weight Statistics July 2009 Start Date:
February 26, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
307 lb Start Weight:
143 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
164 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
53.4201954397 % % Lost:
July 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index56.1449011446 BMI Start:
26.1521852237 BMI Current:
24.6891259105 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| Thanks Annie
Sometimes I think how far we have come together. And I think the grass is not greener just different so that keeps me working at it. But this time I think he is genuinely working at it too...so we will see where it goes. Hopefully we live happily ever after as two active skinny confident people. But if we don't..at least I know in myself I gave it my all with him and I could do it on my own if I have to. No more co dependancy going on here...I check it every time..I never do anything for him that he can do himself unless I want to do something nice..do things because I want to ..not because I have to...
I think when you get married there should be an escape clause ...laughing...
I am working on me and I expect him to work on him and if he doesn't then I don't want to be with him...I love him but enabling each other anymore....
So have to run we are taking the dogs for a walk....
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09-06-2010, 10:08 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Central Indiana
Posts: 555
Weight Statistics 8/1/2010 Start Date:
12/8/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
307 lb Start Weight:
193 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
114 lb Weight Loss:
13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.1335504886 % % Lost:
12/31/2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.6740916955 BMI Start:
29.3423442907 BMI Current:
27.365916955 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Good for you for knowing what you need and deserve. You look so great! Thank you for sharing with us all.
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