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11-15-2010, 12:01 PM
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#1 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: May 2010 Location: Fulton, New York
Posts: 253
Weight Statistics I started the process in May 2010 Start Date:
December 7th. Two days after my b'day! Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
320 lb Start Weight:
199 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
121 lb Weight Loss:
39 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.8125 % % Lost:
1.5 years or sooner Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.1136110492 BMI Start:
31.1644018712 BMI Current:
25.0568055246 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  Really upset how to answer negative comments
I know that there are people out there that do not agree with this procedure and I can accept that..but my own family makes remarks like " if you would just cut down on your portions and excercised you would lose weight." All my friends and co-workers support me 100%.
I guess I am just so upset because I would love to have my family support me. That would mean the most. I was concidering cancelling all of it and just say "to hell with it" . But my husband told me that I have been approved and my date has been set and that I have gone to far to turn back now.
I just don't know what to do or say that would make me feel better...
Has anyone had this issue and how do you respond to it? 
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11-15-2010, 12:19 PM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: Janesville, WI
Posts: 455
Weight Statistics 11/2009 for the last time! Start Date:
04/28/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
412 lb Start Weight:
261 lb Current Weight:
171 lb Goal Weight:
151 lb Weight Loss:
90 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.6504854369 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index62.6375432526 BMI Start:
39.6805795848 BMI Current:
25.9976211073 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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My in-laws weren't the most supportive up front, but they've sure done a complete 180 on it now.
They see how I keep track of items and exercise and take care of myself. That alone is a great feeling.
I can only hope that once your family sees you after surgery that they will support you - I've been very luck in that respect.
Aimee
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11-15-2010, 12:25 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Nov 2009 Location: chicago,il
Posts: 637
Weight Statistics 02-09-10 Start Date:
Feb.09,2010 & Dec.02,2010 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
358 lb Start Weight:
152 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
206 lb Weight Loss:
-13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
57.5418994413 % % Lost:
2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index63.4099269337 BMI Start:
26.9226505417 BMI Current:
29.2252456538 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodDuodenal Switch
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Hi,I agree with your husband,do what's best for you,if it was easy for you to exercise and watch what you eat and lose weight , I think you would have and you wouldn't be considering surgery, no one but you understands the issues with weight and unfortunately some people family included don't understand.Live for yourself not for them,and Hug hubby extra tight for his support.Wishing you all the best.
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11-15-2010, 12:27 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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1) This is not about them. This is about you!! You would be unwise to turn your back on your dreams and surrender to a lifetime of obese frustration just because they don't know what they're talking about.
2) They will never know how wrong they are unless you show them, and that means you have to keep moving forward. Listen to your husband. Sounds like he's supportive and has his head on right. Does he deserve a longer life with you? Do you deserve a longer life with him? (hint - the answer to both is "yes"!!  Maybe even "HELL YES!!!!!")
3) When it gets hard, come back to your family here and vent. We'll help you any way we can. 
CT
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11-15-2010, 12:32 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: nortonville ky
Posts: 314
Weight Statistics may 5 2010 Start Date:
dec 23 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
358 lb Start Weight:
190 lb Current Weight:
155 lb Goal Weight:
168 lb Weight Loss:
35 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.9273743017 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index61.4438476562 BMI Start:
32.6098632812 BMI Current:
26.6027832031 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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you go girl do what you want to do you don't have to get everyone's approval just you and maybe your husband but not really JUST DO IT
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11-15-2010, 12:40 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Blaine, Minnesota
Posts: 745
Weight Statistics 3/29/09 Start Date:
11/22/10 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
230 lb Start Weight:
114 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
116 lb Weight Loss:
-26 lb Lb Left to Lose:
50.4347826087 % % Lost:
11/22/11 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.0629552549 BMI Start:
20.8485952133 BMI Current:
25.6035379813 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I totally understand - My sister is the one that is not supportive and said that she has had friends that went bald, lost teeth and died form the surgery. thank you very much sissy!
Just remember why you are doing this. Keep coming here and vent all you need
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11-15-2010, 12:58 PM
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#7 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Indiana
Posts: 333
Weight Statistics March 1st Start Date:
11/23/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
375 lb Start Weight:
214 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
161 lb Weight Loss:
39 lb Lb Left to Lose:
42.9333333333 % % Lost:
06/2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index68.580905307 BMI Start:
39.1368366285 BMI Current:
32.0044224766 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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To piggyback off of everyone else, you do whats best for you, you dont live your life for anyone but yourself and your family. Dont let that negative energy stop you from doing what you feel. Hugsssss
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11-15-2010, 01:22 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Central Virginia
Posts: 2,952
Weight Statistics 4/30/2007 Start Date:
9/5/07 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
233 lb Start Weight:
127 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
106 lb Weight Loss:
2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.4935622318 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index39.9899902344 BMI Start:
21.7971191406 BMI Current:
21.4538574219 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I had a co-worker say the exact same thing to me. Now for years she had complained about how she just couldn't lose those last 15 pounds, but she had the nerve to tell me I could do it by dieting and exercise. My response to her was "You can't even lose 15 pounds, what makes you think I can lose 100?" That shut her up. 
Be honest with yourself, do you really think you can do it with diet and exercise? Some can, are you one of them? Probably not or you wouldn't be here. But if you think you can do it, go for it. This surgery should be a last resort, after you have tried everything else.
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11-15-2010, 01:42 PM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Philly
Posts: 427
Weight Statistics uhhh... Start Date:
November 23, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
277 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
85 lb Weight Loss:
27 lb Lb Left to Lose:
30.6859205776 % % Lost:
November 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index40.9012812434 BMI Start:
28.3503465658 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I had someone the other day telling me how dreadful and ugly the excess skin is going to be. Yet, she also asks me everyday how she can improve her diet and what helathy lunches she should bring (i've been trying to lower my tryglicerides and have been eating like a rabbit)
Ive come to the conclusion that there is no making everyone happy...someone is always going to think im making a mistake or being lazy...blah blah blah!!!
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11-15-2010, 01:56 PM
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#10 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Dec 2008 Location: Durham, NC
Posts: 693
Weight Statistics All my life Start Date:
February 10, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
88 lb Weight Loss:
12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
31.4285714286 % % Lost:
June, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index40.1714285714 BMI Start:
27.546122449 BMI Current:
25.8244897959 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Originally Posted by Perfesser  1) This is not about them. This is about you!! You would be unwise to turn your back on your dreams and surrender to a lifetime of obese frustration just because they don't know what they're talking about.
2) They will never know how wrong they are unless you show them, and that means you have to keep moving forward. Listen to your husband. Sounds like he's supportive and has his head on right. Does he deserve a longer life with you? Do you deserve a longer life with him? (hint - the answer to both is "yes"!! Maybe even "HELL YES!!!!!")
3) When it gets hard, come back to your family here and vent. We'll help you any way we can.
CT | Could not have said it better myself!!!!!!!!! You look out for yourself. Don't quit because of some nay-sayers--you and your husband go ahead and "start a new life" with the surgery. And come back to your family and vent all you want!!!
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