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12-23-2010, 09:16 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Southern California
Posts: 30
Weight Statistics 9/15/10 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
300 lb Start Weight:
221 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
79 lb Weight Loss:
56 lb Lb Left to Lose:
26.3333333333 % % Lost:
11-16-2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index44.2974165091 BMI Start:
32.6324301617 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|  My Big Fat Secret
There seem to be a good number of posts about family and friends voicing their "concerns" about WLS to those who've undergone the surgery. I'm curious. Have you all told family and friends about your surgery? Are you fielding questions constantly...or do you feel judgement?
I've told NO one...except my husband (obviously). I don't feel as if my excess weight was anyone's business...and my weight loss is also mine. If anyone has noticed the 50lb loss so far, they haven't said anything. My weight has always fluctuated, so they may assume I'm on ANOTHER diet...or they really don't care. Not sure.
Do you regret telling family and friends? Do you think it's helped to tell people? Curious.  
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12-23-2010, 10:46 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I didn't tell anyone until I was at goal and hadn't dropped dead yet.  Following me, Peanut told everyone in the civilized world! It's entirely your choice - until you tell someone. Then it's out of your control.
There were some folks at work who wondered what I was doing, so I told them everything except the surgical detail. Once they heard it was a lot of work, they quickly lost interest. Now very few remember. Which is fine with me. 
CT
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12-24-2010, 12:45 AM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Mar 2007 Location: Floyd County Virginia
Posts: 9,445
Weight Statistics September 19th 2007 Start Date:
September 19th 2007 June 18,2012 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
363 lb Start Weight:
226 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
137 lb Weight Loss:
56 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.741046832 % % Lost:
When I get there again Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.0793877551 BMI Start:
32.4240816327 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Shoot honey if you have told no one........ and no one has said anything I wouldnt tell them anything. Dont worry they will soon start asking you how in the world did you lose all that weight or......... wow your looking good. If you dont want to go into it just say you are to! I have found that it self they love to here and they just go on to another topic. It will come soon honey them noticing. T hey cant not help but to notice. I myself told anyone that would listen. LOL. But I like your way to. Keep us updated on this I wanna hear how this goes for you acutally.
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12-24-2010, 04:31 AM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Manchester United Kingdom
Posts: 495
Weight Statistics October 2008 Start Date:
7th February 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
400 lb Start Weight:
166 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
234 lb Weight Loss:
-14 lb Lb Left to Lose:
58.5 % % Lost:
Lost it already Goal Date:
Body Mass Index59.0632220122 BMI Start:
24.5112371351 BMI Current:
26.5784499055 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Prior to the operation I told nobody but my partner and my boss, and just one day before I told my daughter. This was because I didn't want any fuss only to find the operation couldn't go ahead.
Post operative I have told everyone who asked about my weight loss the reason for my success. I have never felt any shame regarding my surgeon's success in my case, so therefore could see no reason for lying about it or being economical with the truth, indeed with all the publicity surrounding WLS anyone who believes that people are not going to work out why one suddenly loses 100 pounds plus in no time when they have been huge for years is kidding themselves
I found being honest with people allowed them to be honest with me. It meant they could support me through this and that I didn't have to compound one lie with another when they saw me eating hardly anything and refusing certain food choices.
Each of us must make our own choice in this matter and I criticise no one for theirs. I chose the truth as the right path for me
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12-24-2010, 08:03 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Dec 2010 Location: ohio
Posts: 773
Weight Statistics which time Start Date:
3-14-11 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
249 lb Start Weight:
181 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
68 lb Weight Loss:
41 lb Lb Left to Lose:
27.3092369478 % % Lost:
march 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.0429991938 BMI Start:
34.1959150766 BMI Current:
26.4498790648 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodOther
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Be consistent with who you are--some of us are very private and people like me open as a book!! It is your journey..
our disease is so public it is a struggle--it is hard to manage it privately ......
Thanks for sharing with us
gail
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12-24-2010, 10:12 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Oregon
Posts: 863
Weight Statistics 10 yrs old Start Date:
Dec 14, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
266 lb Start Weight:
164 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
102 lb Weight Loss:
24 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.3458646617 % % Lost:
ASAP Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.6538085938 BMI Start:
28.1474609375 BMI Current:
24.0283203125 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| I've told every one
I don't know why no one has said anything disparaging. I've told the ladies at the check out when I grocery shop, (I guess I am explaining the food that I am buying) people at school, people in my apartment complex... I went to cost co yesterday and told people in the check out stand. I guess it is easy for me to discuss this kind of thing; what I've learned just from being pre-op, and now post-op can help a lot of people that are having a bad time with their weight.
I am at my son's apartment with all of his friends for Christmas, they all know and they are 20 something; even they know about the wls I just went through. knowing my situations makes it easier to discuss what they are going through with they perceived problems. I tell them that protein comes first.
Many of the people I talk with know someone who has had the surgery as well.
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12-24-2010, 10:31 AM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Oct 2010
Posts: 15
Weight Statistics 07/01/2010 Start Date:
November 16, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
244 lb Start Weight:
164 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
80 lb Weight Loss:
34 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.7868852459 % % Lost:
2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.2179390275 BMI Start:
29.0481229529 BMI Current:
23.0259511212 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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well my husband and I both had GBS and we have chosen not to tell anyone on his side of the family. They are very judgemental and when he mentioned the idea of it last year his mom and grandmother FLIPPED. We didn't want anything to bring us down in our journey. we have told them we have just been dieting. they're buying it so far, lol. As far as telling other people, i am VERY cautious who I tell. I personally dont care what other people think but I think the less they know the better. its none of their business.
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12-24-2010, 11:21 AM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Central CA
Posts: 318
Weight Statistics Feb. 13, 2010 Start Date:
Feb. 13, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
289 lb Start Weight:
156 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
133 lb Weight Loss:
16 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.0207612457 % % Lost:
Aug, 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.6407254362 BMI Start:
25.1763085399 BMI Current:
22.5941230487 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I told everyone, if I was able to find a natural way to bring it up in conversation...(oh...sorry, I can't make it next week, I will be in the hospital for surgery, etc.)....I felt good about my decision and didn't care what others thought.... I didn't have even one single person make a negative comment...at least not to my face  I think you handlling it whichever way you are most comfortable is the best way to go!
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12-24-2010, 11:23 AM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Aug 2009 Location: North Dakota
Posts: 557
Weight Statistics since elementary school !! Start Date:
August 3rd, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
451 lb Start Weight:
211 lb Current Weight:
190 lb Goal Weight:
240 lb Weight Loss:
21 lb Lb Left to Lose:
53.2150776053 % % Lost:
When i get there.... Goal Date:
Body Mass Index68.5668252595 BMI Start:
32.0789359862 BMI Current:
28.8862456747 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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i told the world...i was sooooo excited....even the insurance provider knew me by name....hahahahaha....i am proud of myself and would tell anyone that asked me.....
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12-24-2010, 12:33 PM
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| | WLS Guru
Join Date: Oct 2009 Location: Philly
Posts: 427
Weight Statistics uhhh... Start Date:
November 23, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
277 lb Start Weight:
192 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
85 lb Weight Loss:
27 lb Lb Left to Lose:
30.6859205776 % % Lost:
November 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index40.9012812434 BMI Start:
28.3503465658 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I also tell people if it comes up...I told everyone at work...it seems like my fiance's family are more afraid of me being "exposed" then I am...its harder for me to try to hide it...
im proud of what I did...ive struggled with my weight my whole life, this was the best decision for me...if ya dont like it, bug off!
__________________ Nobody ever drowned in his own sweat.  11/23/2010---256 11/28/2010---245 12/5/2010---242 12/9/2010---238.5 (in the 230's YAY!) 12/16/2010---236.8 (20 pounds down) 12/23/2010---233 (1 month) 12/25/2010---231 (Merry Christmas) 12/29/2010---228 (in the 220's YEAAA!!) 1/4/2011---226 1/13/2011---221 1/28/2011---218 1/31/2011---216 (40 pounds down) 2/22/2011---211 2/25/2011---205 3/9/2011---203 4/2/2011---200 5/5/2011---192  | |
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