  | | 
01-28-2011, 05:10 PM
|
#1 (permalink)
| | Guru In Training
Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: NC
Posts: 321
Weight Statistics 01-21-2011 Surgery Date:
6' "
Height:
318 lb Start Weight:
170 lb Current Weight:
200 lb Goal Weight:
148 lb Weight Loss:
-30 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.5408805031 % % Lost:
2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.1238425926 BMI Start:
23.0536265432 BMI Current:
27.1219135802 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  My wife is driving me crazy!!
So I'm 1 week out of surgery, and my wife is driving me batty!! LOL....not really, but we just got in an argument. She makes me feel like I'm not eating enough, or drinking enough, and telling me to do something I shouldn't. I know what I need to do with my eating, and it doesn't help when I look to her as a nurse to give me guidance. Right before dinner, she told me to drink some protein shake. I knew I was going to be eating an egg soon and told her I didn't need to drink. She said "it's fine to drink them together." I knew it was wrong but followed her advice. Ten minutes later, the egg is waiting for me on the table. I take a couple bites and the pouch says "enough for me!" I push it away and my wife looks at me with this irritating scowl like I should've eaten the entire thing. I said I'm sorry, but I am done. So then we get in this blown-out-of-proportion yelling match about what I should be doing. I find it so irritating when she tells me to do the wrong thing and then gets mad at me when I don't listen to her. GRRRRRR!!! Sorry for the blow up, but I had to vent!
__________________  | 
|  |  | Weight Loss Surgery Insurance | | | |
|
| |
01-28-2011, 05:21 PM
|
#2 (permalink)
| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New Zealand
Posts: 1,292
Weight Statistics 10/27/07 Start Date:
11 March 08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
239 lb Start Weight:
134 lb Current Weight:
144 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
-10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.9330543933 % % Lost:
12/25/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.3323255228 BMI Start:
23.7344419249 BMI Current:
25.5056689342 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
awww... sounds like shes a bit worried for you!
Why dont you sit her down in front of the comp and get her to look on here? Maybe ask some questions if she wants?
You know what you need to do, stick with that, but it sounds like she wants to be involved in helping you, so, yeah, get her on here either on your profile or maybe her own even?
You 2 will work it all out and find a way to fit the new you eating plan into your days.
Best wishes (to you both!)
| |
| | |
01-28-2011, 05:23 PM
|
#3 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Sep 2010 Location: Oregon
Posts: 863
Weight Statistics 10 yrs old Start Date:
Dec 14, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
266 lb Start Weight:
164 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
102 lb Weight Loss:
24 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.3458646617 % % Lost:
ASAP Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.6538085938 BMI Start:
28.1474609375 BMI Current:
24.0283203125 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
That seems to happen often with partners, they don't know what your Dr. has told you or they feel that they know better than the Dr. Sorry, that must really be annoying, Ya'll will work it out.
__________________  | |
| | |
01-28-2011, 05:40 PM
|
#4 (permalink)
| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jan 2010 Location: Idaho
Posts: 3,952
Weight Statistics Jan 2009 Start Date:
Dec. 22, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
317 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
29 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.8012618297 % % Lost:
May 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index51.1595500459 BMI Start:
31.3089990817 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
My husband took care of me after beig by my side 8 days in the hospital,he done everything he could to learn when and what I should , was home for a month with me and to this day he still offers me soemthign to drink when we eat Dotn be hard on her, they are trying to help, but you have to tell her when you say no ( in anice way lol ) that you mean know, that your pouch knows better than anyone on when and what to feed it and when its time to drink...Good luck..oh and men dot do well being home 24/7  , hang in there sweetie, but stand your grounds or you will pay for it !  annie~
__________________  | |
| | |
01-28-2011, 05:47 PM
|
#5 (permalink)
| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New Zealand
Posts: 1,292
Weight Statistics 10/27/07 Start Date:
11 March 08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
239 lb Start Weight:
134 lb Current Weight:
144 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
-10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.9330543933 % % Lost:
12/25/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.3323255228 BMI Start:
23.7344419249 BMI Current:
25.5056689342 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
p.s. a protein shake IS a meal btw  | |
| | |
01-28-2011, 07:46 PM
|
#6 (permalink)
| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Dec 2009 Location: Iowa
Posts: 1,729
Weight Statistics 1/1/2010 Start Date:
August 3, 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
292 lb Start Weight:
208 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
84 lb Weight Loss:
58 lb Lb Left to Lose:
28.7671232877 % % Lost:
December 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index47.1248852158 BMI Start:
33.5684113866 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by kiwi-leelee77  p.s. a protein shake IS a meal btw | Depends on the surgeon, mine only count a protein drink as a meal if it is mixed with milk. Otherwise it is a snack, which ironically my surgeon doesn't allow.
__________________
I'm doing this for me, so I can be healthy and live the life that God intended me to live.
23 pounds lost prior to surgery.
Mel
| |
| | |
01-28-2011, 08:41 PM
|
#7 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: Minnesota
Posts: 852
Weight Statistics 5-1-2010 Start Date:
9-24-10 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
258 lb Start Weight:
118 lb Current Weight:
130 lb Goal Weight:
140 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
54.2635658915 % % Lost:
9/24/11 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index38.0957781979 BMI Start:
17.4236504936 BMI Current:
19.195547154 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
I went through the same thing with my DH. He still brings me a glass of milk when he makes dinner sometimes. You need to follow the doctors advice and go by the rules you know but at the same time you dont want to hurt your wife who is trying to help. I agree to get her on here for some info and to ask some questions.
Amy
__________________   . 
Highest weight...258
weight the day of surgery 228 (30 lbs lost before)
100 pounds lost.......1/19/11
 | |
| | |
01-28-2011, 08:48 PM
|
#8 (permalink)
| | Big Loser
Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Peabody Massachusetts
Posts: 183
Weight Statistics 1/4/2011 (2 week liquid diet) Start Date:
01/17/2011 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
278 lb Start Weight:
155 lb Current Weight:
141 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
14 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.2446043165 % % Lost:
When it happens! Goal Date:
Body Mass Index49.2401108592 BMI Start:
27.4540186445 BMI Current:
24.9743008314 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
My husband is the exact opposite! If I try to take a sip of something he'll tell me that it's only been 29 minutes! He also tells me that I'm eating too fast..... I get that it should take 30 minutes to eat, but seriously.... a soft boiled egg???? It usually takes me 15-20 minutes, and he completely bugs out!
I think our spouses just want to see us succeed as we have already put so much time and energy into changing our lives. They just want what they think is best for us.
But I totally understand the frustration!
Hope it gets bettter!
__________________ "Take care of your body. It's the only place you have to live!" ~Jim Rohn  
Created by MyFitnessPal.com - Free Calorie Counter  | |
| | |
01-28-2011, 09:09 PM
|
#9 (permalink)
| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Jan 2008 Location: New Zealand
Posts: 1,292
Weight Statistics 10/27/07 Start Date:
11 March 08 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
239 lb Start Weight:
134 lb Current Weight:
144 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
-10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.9330543933 % % Lost:
12/25/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.3323255228 BMI Start:
23.7344419249 BMI Current:
25.5056689342 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
Quote:
Originally Posted by mj2903 Depends on the surgeon, mine only count a protein drink as a meal if it is mixed with milk. Otherwise it is a snack, which ironically my surgeon doesn't allow. | Are you serious?? lol that makes no sense to me at all!
Gosh, there are so many widely varied opinions from the doctors!!! Our nut is adament, water or milk, makes no diff to her, its a meal..lol
I had no idea... | |
| | |
01-28-2011, 11:26 PM
|
#10 (permalink)
| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
|
There is a steep training curve for us on this journey, and we're totally committed to it. It's harder for a bystander, even the most interested one, to get it all right in only the first week. Education is better than hurting feelings, though. Go through your materials with her, explain the things you've learned here and other places she may not have been. In the end, no matter how helpful she wants to be, you are the one who pays the price for wrong counsel.
Make it clear that you really do value her interest and involvement, especially when you read here of spouses who don't care, or worse. But you must be the "expert" here.
One of the dangers of WLS is that it can put tremendous strains on a relationship. You are entering a perilous time. It will take a lot of working together and a minimum of sharp words to make it through the next 6 months. Explain that to her, also, if you can and tell her that you aren't ignoring her or devaluing her contributions. Make sure she still feels involved in this change you're going through. Especially if she is in need of weight loss herself, it can be highly frustrating for her to watch the shrinking process you're going to go through in the next little while. Do everything you can to make it a smooth journey.
My wife tried to be helpful when I had my surgery, but she hadn't learned all that I had. I had to recalibrate her a time or two (gently, with love and patience!) When she had her RNY a year later, she had learned a lot from me and the process she'd just been through and she knew that when I "nagged" her (she'd given me permission!!) I was telling it how it is.
Good luck!!
CT
__________________ da perfesser
*******************
Dare to live your dream!!
If you want to be healthy for life, do for life the things that get you healthy!! Living healthy takes work. Dying fat is easy!! "That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the nature of the task has changed, but that our capacity to do has increased." - HJ Grant
"Do, or do not. There is no try!" - Yoda
| |
| | | Thread Tools | | | | Display Modes |  Linear Mode | 
Posting Rules
| You may not post new threads You may not post replies You may not post attachments You may not edit your posts
HTML code is Off
| | | | |
