[gail1011]

"I don't want to hear it," was my mother's response to my surgery date. She is dreading hearing my 'regrets' after surgery--she is not worried about the surgery itself but she cannot imagine me (or herself) being able to make this life change afterwards....

Mom and I are so different in this regard. I have always been a risk taker, give it a try kind of person--but I usually do vent with my mom--What will I do?? ...........Probably torture her with every detail

[laughingpainter]

That must hurt, she is most likely unable to process the change if she is not a risk taker. Is she going to come to the hospital after the surgery? You do have a ride and some one to be with you though, right?
I have to listen to my son and of the things he is going through, and sometimes it is all I can do to listen and not yell or come unglued (sometimes I do come unglued) at some of the decisions he makes.
Your mom thinks that you are making a mistake and would rather not hear any of the details so that she doesn't have to image what is happening. Its just the way some of us deal with issues we can't wrap our minds around. Give her time, especially afterward, she'll see your progress and be happy for you. Don't let it get you down.

[judst]

Gail, it must be tough not having the support from your mom. Maybe she fears the surgery itself or just fears change. Know that RR friends are here for you and you can vent all you need to. Do you have a support group near you? I am so excited for you as I see how close your surgery date is! Hang in there and hugs.

[country_strong]

Gail, don't pay any attention. You are doing this for yourself and a chance to have a healthier lifestyle. It's hard for me, because I have not been much of a risk taker. I was always to afraid of drawing more attention to myself if I screwed something up, so I just never did anything. Now, as it is, my daughters and I talk civilly, and they are all excited because I am following a low-carb diet and going to the gym nearly everyday. They think they have got the upper hand again, and have given up the wls "nonsense", but what they don't know is that I am still preparing and getting everything in order to have the surgery, and my hubby says the best way to handle it is to not even tell them until it's over. I just got sick of the drama I got from almost everyone, so now it's my choice, so the consequences of my surgery will be also. BUT, it is MY choice, and I have that right. If they are angry afterwards, oh well, that's THEIR choice. I wish I had my date, that's kind of making me anxious. But you just go get 'em, and know that we are all with you.