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07-16-2011, 08:14 PM
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Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Virginia
Posts: 58
Weight Statistics March 23, 2011 Start Date:
March 31, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
255 lb Start Weight:
142 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.3137254902 % % Lost:
as soon as it happens Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.7658691406 BMI Start:
24.3715820312 BMI Current:
24.0283203125 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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my husband supports me with my weightloss....but he sure doesn't help me. While I'm writing this post, he is sitting across from me eating McDonalds.
But the bad things is - he bought home the food for our 2 kids. I've talked to him and he is nice about it and says he knows, but then never stops his ways. Junk food at night after dinner is killing me. I stay strong and stick with my plan, but his ways are very disheartening. And besides all of this he is extremely over weight, too...but says he would never have the surgery.
I'm really let down that he is this way and bringing our kids this ways too.
He's a great great man. I love him more than life just the way he is - but does he have to snack on junk food all the time???
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07-16-2011, 08:27 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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My wife swore she'd never have the surgery ... until I was close to goal and having a ball and she was still fat, sweating and gasping for air. Sometimes it'll take a bit longer for the non-WLS spouse to really appreciate what can be done.
Stick to your guns, follow the rules, and some time you may be able to sneak in an intervention just to get him thinking about it. What really helped us was the day (I was down about 100 pounds at the time) I stood her, naked, in front of a mirror and made her look at herself. I told her I didn't care how she did it, whether she followed my example, bought a mail-order food plan, went to a weight loss group, whatever it took, but please, please do something!! A couple of weeks later, she started the process for RNY. That was over 100 pounds ago, and she's never looked back.
Don't expect miracles to happen right away. He's probably seen you diet down and regain a time or two. He may want to see if you can make it work before he invests himself in it. Peanut did.
Be strong!! The kids need a good example of positive nutrition in their lives. 
CT
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07-16-2011, 09:32 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: Blaine, Minnesota
Posts: 745
Weight Statistics 3/29/09 Start Date:
11/22/10 Surgery Date:
5' 2"
Height:
230 lb Start Weight:
114 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
116 lb Weight Loss:
-26 lb Lb Left to Lose:
50.4347826087 % % Lost:
11/22/11 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index42.0629552549 BMI Start:
20.8485952133 BMI Current:
25.6035379813 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I know what you are talking about, the only difference here is that my husband is very thin and always has been. I just stick to my guns and try to work within my plan. Sure I have fallen off the wagon, but I hop right back on and get going. | |
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07-17-2011, 07:23 AM
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Join Date: Mar 2011 Location: Virginia
Posts: 58
Weight Statistics March 23, 2011 Start Date:
March 31, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
255 lb Start Weight:
142 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
2 lb Lb Left to Lose:
44.3137254902 % % Lost:
as soon as it happens Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.7658691406 BMI Start:
24.3715820312 BMI Current:
24.0283203125 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Thanks for replying Perfessor and Kathy.
It helps to know that other people have had the same things going on. I am just sticking to my guns and my plan!!
I am 3 1/2 months out since surgery and I am down 70 lbs. I'm feeling great with more energy than he knows what todo with!! I'm walking, playing outside with the kids, yardwork, cleaning out the house...and feeling great!!
He's always saying he can't believe it!! Maybe soon he will want to feel the same way!! I'm loving this new feeling!! 
Thanks again!!
Karla
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07-17-2011, 07:37 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Kentucky
Posts: 708
Weight Statistics September 2010 Start Date:
12/27/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
264 lb Start Weight:
151 lb Current Weight:
160 lb Goal Weight:
113 lb Weight Loss:
-9 lb Lb Left to Lose:
42.803030303 % % Lost:
6/27/2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index37.8759183673 BMI Start:
21.663877551 BMI Current:
22.9551020408 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I didn't have to do anything with my husband...he did it on his own. I wish I knew what to tell you as far as a "secrete weapon" or something....(hugs). He says he would have lost his weight if I had had surgery or not. He went from 217 down to 178 by cutting out sweets and eating late night snacks. He is active because of his job. He is 50, to turn 51 this year. Me, I cut out sweets and soft drinks and lost 8 lbs in 3 months. Go figure. Anyway, he did it on his own to feel better. My daughter thinks he did it so that when I lost weight, he wouldn't be overweight. With his dieting, food choices have greatly changed. My husband does a lot of cooking due to my work schedule. This meant the brownies stopped, the desserts quit showing up, etc. Instead, more healthy food choices appeared. Man, the kids complain too! "There's nothing to eat", when there is less junk food in the house. I still treat them to some things, but I've noticed my oldest eating more salads and asking me about caloric and fat in items.
I hope this works out for you. Warmest wishes...
Mel
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07-17-2011, 08:27 AM
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Aw (((HUGS)))
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07-17-2011, 08:35 AM
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Join Date: Jul 2011 Location: South Jersey
Posts: 9
Weight Statistics July 10th 2010 Start Date:
July 8th 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
178 lb Current Weight:
170 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
40.8637873754 % % Lost:
06-17-2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index43.1842857143 BMI Start:
25.5375510204 BMI Current:
24.3897959184 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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im on the same boat as u. im only 9 days out of surgery and my husband i killing me by buying sweets and making crap for dinner. Now that i am getting ahold on myself im going to start cooking again. When ever i think about the foods and how they taste, i think about how sick i would be, an that subides the craving.
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07-17-2011, 12:31 PM
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Join Date: Apr 2010 Location: Georgetown,TN
Posts: 2,278
Weight Statistics way to long to remember!! Start Date:
12-09-09 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
282 lb Start Weight:
125 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
157 lb Weight Loss:
-25 lb Lb Left to Lose:
55.6737588652 % % Lost:
I just want to be healthy Goal Date:
Body Mass Index48.3999023438 BMI Start:
21.4538574219 BMI Current:
25.7446289062 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Ditto ((((hugs))))Just keep your head high and following your "pouch rules" 
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07-17-2011, 01:26 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: S. Jersey
Posts: 2,480
Weight Statistics ?? Most recently Oct. 2010 Start Date:
January 31 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
342 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
148 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.2748538012 % % Lost:
no pressure... 1 year? 1-2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.4990548204 BMI Start:
28.6456626759 BMI Current:
27.9073724008 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I think the smell of the junk food fat is still appealing to me. I am further out than you. I have eaten the inside of a grilled chicken snack wrap no sauce... it was ok.
Could he take them to McDonald's? Then at least you wouldn't have to smell it.??
On the other hand, once you start getting into the groove he may sit up and take notice.
There are many changes for everyone in the family with WLS>
Keep posting..
Good luck.
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07-17-2011, 04:57 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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A huge factor in bringing Peanut around was when she saw the kinds of meals I was eating and realized that I wasn't giving up anything worth keeping. Then she saw that she could still have chocolate ... !!!
I'm the cook, so she had no choice but to eat what I made. She found that she enjoyed it more than what we had been eating. From there the mental gap to WLS got smaller and smaller. Fear of the unknown is enormously powerful, and eating is a major source of enjoyment, so it's hard to make that leap to a new way of eating. It can be done, but you have to work into it.
There's still hope for your family. Consistency on your part and the creation of tempting menus will carry you a long ways to your objectives of a family enjoying good nutrition. You can't turn a big ship around in a hurry, but you can change its course if you're patient.
CT
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Dare to live your dream!!
If you want to be healthy for life, do for life the things that get you healthy!! Living healthy takes work. Dying fat is easy!! "That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the nature of the task has changed, but that our capacity to do has increased." - HJ Grant
"Do, or do not. There is no try!" - Yoda
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