[Carol Jo B.]

My surgery is coming up next Tuesday. I feel calm and confident and very excited about this new start. (I have had surgeries before.) However, my poor husband, who is a very quiet and reserved Englishman, is quietly freaking out. He is trying so hard to be supportive, but I know he is afraid of the risks. How can I help him?

[MotoCO]

Tell him to bring something to read. The surgery takes only about an hour and a half and they will come out to chat with him and tell him you are fine. We just did this 2 weeks ago. My hubby is the same way. Very reserved. But it will be fine. You have done your research and found a very confident and capable dr. They have done it tons of times and you are in the hospital where they can handle anything and you have had anthesia so that is taken of the scary list. Tell him the hard part is getting you home and him having to wait on you the next week or so. THAT is what he should be worried about.

Be well. Speedy recovery. May God be with you!

[bluedelight]

Sorry but this is your time so he will have to sort that out himself. Good suggestion for him to find something to read but your focus now has to be selfish and focussed on the #1 person in this which is you.

Best of luck.