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10-17-2011, 06:50 PM
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#1 (permalink)
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Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Central WI
Posts: 7
Weight Statistics March 28th, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
243 lb Start Weight:
148 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
95 lb Weight Loss:
13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
39.0946502058 % % Lost:
March 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.9094329481 BMI Start:
27.9613007256 BMI Current:
25.5052405267 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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So, I am close to goal. I have friends of all shapes and sizes. And of course now that I am looking awesome and healthy people will make comments about my looks. "You're looking to skinny," and "how much more do you intend to lose?!" Personally, I think I look great. And I have actually been thinner in my life. It just bothers me that in the beginning, these same people acted so supportive, and now they are bringing me down.
I try and stay away from them as much as possible, but when they are supposed to be your best friends, it makes it so difficult.
I have come to conclusion that I would rather live my life healthy and without people like that, than unhealthy and surrounded by people who seem to accept me.
Has anyone else experienced this?
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10-17-2011, 09:12 PM
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| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Central Indiana
Posts: 555
Weight Statistics 8/1/2010 Start Date:
12/8/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 8"
Height:
307 lb Start Weight:
193 lb Current Weight:
180 lb Goal Weight:
114 lb Weight Loss:
13 lb Lb Left to Lose:
37.1335504886 % % Lost:
12/31/2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.6740916955 BMI Start:
29.3423442907 BMI Current:
27.365916955 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I haven't. Thankfully everyone has been very supportive. I guess you can tell them that your goal weight will give you a BMI that is medically healthy and normal and that you are under a doctor's care and thank them for their concern, but you're good.
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10-17-2011, 10:56 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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You have stripped away their excuses and shown that if a person wants it bad enough, she can make it happen. They are spectators. You are living life. You may be making them feel inadequate, and your newfound confidence is changing your relationships with everyone, whether you know it or not.
When a relationship is stable and one person changes while the other stays put, it puts a strain on the whole thing. Many here have lost "friends" of the fair-weather variety, but no one has ever lost a true friend though this process. Spouses are included in this, too. If a relationship is built on anything other than true love, it probably won't make it.
It's their loss. You've proven that you can take on the world on your terms and win. They haven't. They can only bring you down. You're wise to recognize this. It may hurt, but no one here ever told you it'd be easy, did they? 
CT
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10-18-2011, 02:38 AM
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Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan
Posts: 24,786
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Rather a common story, sorry to say. As CT said, the whole journey will show the true colors of your friends and family. Stay strong, always believe in yourself!
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10-18-2011, 09:12 AM
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#5 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Atlantic beach, FL.
Posts: 744
Weight Statistics Sept. 22, 2011 Start Date:
04/30/12 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
340 lb Start Weight:
267 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
73 lb Weight Loss:
102 lb Lb Left to Lose:
21.4705882353 % % Lost:
01/2013 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index54.8714416896 BMI Start:
43.0902203857 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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All that matters is that you feel great. You can never please people all the time. You only need to please two people in life, the first one is God, and the second is you. You have fought the battle of the bulge and you're doing fabulous. Keep up the good work and go for the gold. Best of luck.
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10-18-2011, 09:44 AM
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#6 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 861
Weight Statistics 09/01/10 Start Date:
04/11/11 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
129 lb Weight Loss:
7 lb Lb Left to Lose:
42.8571428571 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index44.4450745642 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I wouldn't worry about comments like that - to me they don't sound harmful or negative (of course, I can't hear the inflection in their voices).
If you feel your friends are being jealous, then definitely remove yourself from them - there is no need for you to have that in your life. Everyone serves a purpose in our lives - even if it's just temporarily.
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Highest weight: 301 ~ Pre-op diet weight: 295 ~ Surgery weight: 283 Goal #1: 60lbs lost before 7/4/11 vacation
Met: 6/24/11 (10.5 weeks)
Goal #2: 75lbs lost before Labor Day 2011
Met: 7/29/11 (15.5 weeks)
Goal #3: 90lbs lost by Oct. 11 (6 months post-op)
Met: 9/15/11 (22.5 weeks)
Goal#4: 100 lbs lost by Halloween
Met: 10/30/11 (28.5 weeks)
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10-18-2011, 01:18 PM
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#7 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Southern Mississippi
Posts: 840
Weight Statistics August 2010 Start Date:
Dec. 21st 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
295 lb Start Weight:
133 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
-17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
54.9152542373 % % Lost:
Reached 12/17/11 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.198485186 BMI Start:
20.8284695923 BMI Current:
23.4907551793 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I'm sorry for the negative responses you have received. There will always be people who need to make themselves feel better at your expense. You really haven't lost anything, true friends are there thru "Thick and Thin"
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Highest Weight ~ 318lbs
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10-19-2011, 12:10 PM
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#8 (permalink)
| | WLS Master Guru
Join Date: May 2009 Location: Chicago, IL
Posts: 970
Weight Statistics June 15, 2009 Start Date:
June 15, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
285 lb Start Weight:
166 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
119 lb Weight Loss:
26 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.7543859649 % % Lost:
June 15, 2011 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index45.9951790634 BMI Start:
26.790174472 BMI Current:
22.5941230487 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I have been at this a long time now. Some people are happy for you. Some people are surprised that you actually did do it...but are still happy that you did. Some people said they were happy for you but really are not and more than likely hoped you would fail or re-gain the weight. I unfortunately have a few of those in my life (I haven't even made my goal yet…) and it kinda sucks the joy from your accomplishment. Especially so if they are overweight as well and you tried and succeeded at something they can only wish for. CT hit it right on the head. Do not let them suck out your joy over your weight loss. Easier said than done…I know. Congratulations….all of us are really happy about your success!!!  | |
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