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11-16-2011, 10:52 AM
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Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Horseheads, NY
Posts: 894
Weight Statistics 01/12/09 Start Date:
August 18, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
258 lb Start Weight:
135 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
-15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.6744186047 % % Lost:
Summer, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.6377410468 BMI Start:
21.7871900826 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
 |  Hurt by my daughter's comment
Maybe I am being too sensitive, but when we were watching the Biggest Loser on TV last night, I said "It felt awesome to lose 100 pounds" when Antone got there, and she said well, they did it on their own, you kind of cheated. She is 17-years-old, and has been my biggest supporter. We are very close. It really hurt. I have kept my weight off for 2 1/2 years, and am doing well.
Thanks for letting me get it off my chest. I will just let it roll off of my back.
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11-16-2011, 11:16 AM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I believe it was Mark Twin who once said that it was a pity that youth was wasted on the young. Once we're over a certain weight, there is no easy way, and any way a person can find that works is not cheating. It would be cheating yourself to not take advantage of every means available to drop that weight and live a happier, healthier life.
But I think I'm preaching to the choir here. If anyone would understand that, I know it'd be you. I've watched your commitment and faithfulness to the rules over the years, and I've seen the joy it's brought to your life (and your family's, too!)
Let it out, sister. We can't change a teenager's attitude, but maybe we can help make it a bit easier to take.  
CT
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If you want to be healthy for life, do for life the things that get you healthy!! Living healthy takes work. Dying fat is easy!! "That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the nature of the task has changed, but that our capacity to do has increased." - HJ Grant
"Do, or do not. There is no try!" - Yoda
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11-16-2011, 11:43 AM
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Join Date: Oct 2011 Location: Atlantic beach, FL.
Posts: 744
Weight Statistics Sept. 22, 2011 Start Date:
04/30/12 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
340 lb Start Weight:
267 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
73 lb Weight Loss:
102 lb Lb Left to Lose:
21.4705882353 % % Lost:
01/2013 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index54.8714416896 BMI Start:
43.0902203857 BMI Current:
26.6287878788 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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A lot of people are under the impression that WLS is the easy way out when in reality it's not. We have to be even more careful of what we eat, we have to exercise, and not to mention all the pain we have to endure. Do not let her take anything away from you. You have done this on your own. It was your efforts and your struggles. It's not like the surgeon went in cut out all the fat pieces and you walked out of the operating room looking like an instant barbie. No, you had to work at it very hard. So be proud of your achievements. Your daughter along with everyone else who has never experienced obesity will never understand. I'm proud of you and as long as you are proud of your achievements, the comments from the peanut gallery doesn't have much weight to it. So enjoy your rewards.
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11-16-2011, 12:49 PM
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Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: New London, WI
Posts: 692
Weight Statistics 1/13/11 started on pre-op diet Start Date:
August 16, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 1"
Height:
268 lb Start Weight:
137 lb Current Weight:
125 lb Goal Weight:
131 lb Weight Loss:
12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48.8805970149 % % Lost:
whenever it happens Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.6326256383 BMI Start:
25.883095942 BMI Current:
23.6159634507 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Wow, I could write a book about daughters' hurtful comments!! Your daughter is only 17, so I will hazard a guess that it's just a lack of life experience, and not enough knowledge about the surgery itself. It's been a different thing for me to handle...my daughters are 29 and 32 respectively. Both work in the medical field, and I still cannot believe their way of thinking about my surgery. At first they waited for me to fail at it. Now that I weigh less than one, and probably the other one, now, they don't want to talk about it. They always ask me what my weight is. They have been doing Weight Watchers and exercising excessively, and it breaks my heart to see them struggle. I see myself in them, and I relive all the struggles with weight that I have endured. I don't want them to go through it, but I realize that until they get their thinking straightened around, they are going to struggle. My oldest lost 54 pounds in 6 months, and now has regained 30 back, because nothing has really changed about her way of thinking about food. They still think I cheated it somehow by having surgery!! As someone pointed, I didn't just have all the fat cut off, and was able to jump into size 2 clothes and run all the way home!!! My husband has been with me right from the beginning, and he knows all I've had to endure, and he knows it hasn't been easy at times. The thing is, my daughters have seen my problems after surgery, but all they focus on is the number I have up on that scale and how it compares to their numbers. I don't even tell them anymore how much I have lost. They still continue with the hurtful comments, but I know a lot of it is due to their frustration.
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11-16-2011, 01:02 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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CS, just tell 'em that when they're ready to get serious about weight loss (instead of just flirting with it), you can give them the name of a really good surgeon! That oughta shut 'em up for awhile!!
CT
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Dare to live your dream!!
If you want to be healthy for life, do for life the things that get you healthy!! Living healthy takes work. Dying fat is easy!! "That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the nature of the task has changed, but that our capacity to do has increased." - HJ Grant
"Do, or do not. There is no try!" - Yoda
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11-16-2011, 01:30 PM
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Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Pittsburgh, PA
Posts: 861
Weight Statistics 09/01/10 Start Date:
04/11/11 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
301 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
129 lb Weight Loss:
7 lb Lb Left to Lose:
42.8571428571 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index44.4450745642 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
24.36357908 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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*hugs to you*
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Highest weight: 301 ~ Pre-op diet weight: 295 ~ Surgery weight: 283 Goal #1: 60lbs lost before 7/4/11 vacation
Met: 6/24/11 (10.5 weeks)
Goal #2: 75lbs lost before Labor Day 2011
Met: 7/29/11 (15.5 weeks)
Goal #3: 90lbs lost by Oct. 11 (6 months post-op)
Met: 9/15/11 (22.5 weeks)
Goal#4: 100 lbs lost by Halloween
Met: 10/30/11 (28.5 weeks)
Final goal: GOAL! 130 lbs lost by 1-yr anniversary
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11-16-2011, 02:44 PM
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#7 (permalink)
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Join Date: Mar 2009 Location: Horseheads, NY
Posts: 894
Weight Statistics 01/12/09 Start Date:
August 18, 2009 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
258 lb Start Weight:
135 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
123 lb Weight Loss:
-15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.6744186047 % % Lost:
Summer, 2010 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.6377410468 BMI Start:
21.7871900826 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Thanks guys! I think it is because I have not had a lot of problems since my surgery that she thinks I cheated. But, I know I did not and that is all that matters.
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11-16-2011, 04:20 PM
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Join Date: Aug 2010 Location: Southern Mississippi
Posts: 840
Weight Statistics August 2010 Start Date:
Dec. 21st 2010 Surgery Date:
5' 7"
Height:
295 lb Start Weight:
133 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
162 lb Weight Loss:
-17 lb Lb Left to Lose:
54.9152542373 % % Lost:
Reached 12/17/11 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index46.198485186 BMI Start:
20.8284695923 BMI Current:
23.4907551793 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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At that age they just don't understand! I'm sure she didn't even know that she hurt your feelings. My son (at 16) said he would never be fat but now that he is 29 he struggles with his weight. He thought because he was thin and very active his weight would never be a problem. He is in the Army and does PT everyday and runs extra after work and on weekends and still has to work really hard to meet the Army required weight! He now understands!!!!
Hugs to you!!!
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Highest Weight ~ 318lbs
Pre-Diet Weight ~ 295lbs
Pre-Surgery Weight ~ 277lbs
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11-16-2011, 04:21 PM
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Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Hmmm ... so according to your young "expert", yours or my weight loss experience has less validity than that of someone who suffered post-op complications? Isn't that a bit like telling a soldier that he isn't a "real" veteran because he was never assigned to front-line combat duty? (A young colleague of mine years ago told me that one.  )
Aahhh, youth!! Let 'em run the country now while they still know everything!!
CT
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Dare to live your dream!!
If you want to be healthy for life, do for life the things that get you healthy!! Living healthy takes work. Dying fat is easy!! "That which we persist in doing becomes easier, not that the nature of the task has changed, but that our capacity to do has increased." - HJ Grant
"Do, or do not. There is no try!" - Yoda
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11-16-2011, 07:22 PM
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Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: S. Jersey
Posts: 2,480
Weight Statistics ?? Most recently Oct. 2010 Start Date:
January 31 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
342 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
148 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.2748538012 % % Lost:
no pressure... 1 year? 1-2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.4990548204 BMI Start:
28.6456626759 BMI Current:
27.9073724008 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Kids, at any age, do you kiss 'em? or kick 'em?
My daughter has been pretty supportive; but when I discuss a future facelift well she doesn't seem too happy. When I first told my husband of WLS he said he wasn't on board... I remember saying "I hope you will change your mind."
To date I havent had serious complications-if I had, maybe that would change some opinions. But now, the family compliments me a lot and DH said "The surgery has done well for you."
There is no easy way for those of us who have sturggled with obesity. Even with surgery we don't have a "sure cure." We will continually have to work at it. If we forget, the scale will remind us.
And, "nix-nay" on the scale and numbers anymore. Don't tell them. Just say you are more comfortable working at your weight loss on your own right now. Let them wonder.
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