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01-17-2012, 05:53 PM
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| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: Ithaca, NY
Posts: 17
Weight Statistics February, 2012 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
289 lb Start Weight:
283 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
6 lb Weight Loss:
148 lb Lb Left to Lose:
2.07612456747 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index46.6407254362 BMI Start:
45.672405877 BMI Current:
21.7871900826 BMI Goal:
|  Not Planning to tell anyone about my surgery, stupid?
I just recently finished all requirements for my packet to be sent to insurance for approval. I have made the decision, that outside of my husband and close relatives I will not tell people I had the surgery.
I don't want people to think I took the easy way out, or that I didn't have to work for my weightloss and I feel the easiest way to avoid judgement about this is to not tell them.
Is this stupid or do I have the right to keep this a secret?
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01-17-2012, 05:56 PM
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| | WLS Mentor
Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Colorado
Posts: 1,081
Weight Statistics August 15th, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
278 lb Start Weight:
176 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
102 lb Weight Loss:
11 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.690647482 % % Lost:
August 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index39.8844897959 BMI Start:
25.2506122449 BMI Current:
23.6724489796 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodSleeve Gastrectomy
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OH, the easy way out conversation. I think we have it every month. I told those people I knew would ask eventually at work, and only my husband. I ended up back in the hospital a week after surgery so the gig was up at that point. It's your decision...be prepared to explain yourself after you start losing lots of weight. Perfesser has some great advice of what to tell people, as it will come up. Best of luck to you!!
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01-17-2012, 06:35 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: Apple Valley Minnesota
Posts: 2,084
Weight Statistics 2 Feb., 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
252 lb Start Weight:
131 lb Current Weight:
149 lb Goal Weight:
121 lb Weight Loss:
-18 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48.0158730159 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index43.2509765625 BMI Start:
22.4836425781 BMI Current:
25.5729980469 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Congrats on your decision to have this surgery, it is definately life changing!
This is totally your decision and everyone makes it based on different reasons. If this is what you feel comfortable with, don't feel guilty about it.
I chose to tell everyone because I was proud that I finally took this difficult road and had done enough research to tell people this is NOT the easy way out. That, and I knew the couple people I HAD to tell at work would not keep their mouths shut.
Some tell, some don't. Don't second guess yourself.
Good luck!!
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01-17-2012, 06:37 PM
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| | Big Loser
Join Date: Sep 2011 Location: Augusta, Georgia
Posts: 139
Weight Statistics August 18, 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 6"
Height:
328 lb Start Weight:
208 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
120 lb Weight Loss:
58 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.5853658537 % % Lost:
When the good Lord lets it happen! Goal Date:
Body Mass Index52.9348025712 BMI Start:
33.5684113866 BMI Current:
24.2079889807 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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You absolutely have the right not to tell anyone! When I first went to have surgery, only my immediate family, parents, and close supportive friends knew. About a month after surgery, I let it all out on my blog and have made it my mission to make sure people know this isn't the easy way at all. I've personally found freedom in sharing my experience...even with strangers!
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01-17-2012, 07:04 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Jul 2010 Location: Texas
Posts: 3,654
Weight Statistics 7/27/10 Surgery Date:
5' 4"
Height:
379 lb Start Weight:
180 lb Current Weight:
165 lb Goal Weight:
199 lb Weight Loss:
15 lb Lb Left to Lose:
52.5065963061 % % Lost:
July 27, 2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index65.0480957031 BMI Start:
30.8935546875 BMI Current:
28.3190917969 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Tell whomever you like and don't worry about the others. I haven't told everyone just my closest family members and a few friends, I'm not ashamed but I know some of my friend's don't agree with it and didn't want to deal with their opinions.
Congrats to you and best of luck as you begin this journey. And by the way this is most definitely not the easy way out, far from it!
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01-17-2012, 08:26 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Dec 2011 Location: just north of Boston
Posts: 2,397
Weight Statistics 1/31/2012 Surgery Date:
5' 10"
Height:
338 lb Start Weight:
253 lb Current Weight:
175 lb Goal Weight:
85 lb Weight Loss:
78 lb Lb Left to Lose:
25.1479289941 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index48.4926530612 BMI Start:
36.297755102 BMI Current:
25.1071428571 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I've told my immediate family, my supervisor, one friend who's had the surgery and one other friend.... I know others will find out over time, but I just don't want to get into it beforehand
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01-17-2012, 08:55 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: S. Jersey
Posts: 2,480
Weight Statistics ?? Most recently Oct. 2010 Start Date:
January 31 2011 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
342 lb Start Weight:
194 lb Current Weight:
189 lb Goal Weight:
148 lb Weight Loss:
5 lb Lb Left to Lose:
43.2748538012 % % Lost:
no pressure... 1 year? 1-2012 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index50.4990548204 BMI Start:
28.6456626759 BMI Current:
27.9073724008 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Only a few people know I had it.
At t his point I pretty much say what Perfesser said on an earlier post...
something like I am doing an Aitkins type thing...lots of protein and water,low carbs, calories and sugar. And I go to the gym all the time and got a trainer.
I have worked at this for about 14 months, so...it is "feasible".
But I, too, am not ashamed or embarassed. It is just the way I want it for now.
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01-17-2012, 09:46 PM
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| | Guru In Training
Join Date: May 2010 Location: Boston
Posts: 267
Weight Statistics 1/14/2010 Start Date:
04/14/2010 Surgery Date:
5' 3"
Height:
292 lb Start Weight:
196 lb Current Weight:
164 lb Goal Weight:
96 lb Weight Loss:
32 lb Lb Left to Lose:
32.8767123288 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index51.7198286722 BMI Start:
34.7160493827 BMI Current:
29.0481229529 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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I told only the folks who had to know at work. A couple of very close friends and that's it. I still have not told my mother. Somehow they would ruin my accomplishment with their comments. It's been almost 2 years now and I usually just talk about the plan we follow. That is enough to justify my loss. Do what makes you comfortable.
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01-17-2012, 11:09 PM
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| | Seasoned Veteran
Join Date: May 2008 Location: Just north of Iowa, not far from I-35. 2nd star on the right and straight on 'til morning!
Posts: 8,639
Weight Statistics December 13, 2007 (pre-op liquid diet started) Start Date:
December 27, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
280 lb Start Weight:
172 lb Current Weight:
184 lb Goal Weight:
108 lb Weight Loss:
-12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
38.5714285714 % % Lost:
Originally - 12/08. Actually - 8/08. Goal Date:
Body Mass Index41.3442554085 BMI Start:
25.3971854652 BMI Current:
27.1690821256 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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It's your decision, it's your body, it's your news to tell, but once you tell one person who won't honor your confidence, everyone knows. The best way to keep a secret is ... don't tell anyone! We had a pretty good discussion about this a few years ago ...
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02-08-2012, 06:38 AM
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#10 (permalink)
| | Whipper Snapper
Join Date: Jan 2012
Posts: 13
Weight Statistics August 1,2011 Start Date:
January 27,2012 Surgery Date:
5' 9"
Height:
325 lb Start Weight:
255 lb Current Weight:
150 lb Goal Weight:
70 lb Weight Loss:
105 lb Lb Left to Lose:
21.5384615385 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index47.9888678849 BMI Start:
37.6528040328 BMI Current:
22.1487082546 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
| Who knows
My husband, a friend that has had GB and another friend that I know I can trust. I haven't told my kids(2 live at home and one at college),my parents or Inlaws. I found out about 4 weeks before surgery, I have food allergies- Food molds. No cheeses, fermented, smoked or pickled items. Etc. so that is my cover, plus I needed my Gallbladder out. When they took that out during GB, they actually had problems it was so bad. The doctor told us, it was like cement and he had never seen one so bad.
I did this for ME and don't feel I owed anyone else a chance to judge my choice. I grew up with a Mom that is obsessed with weight. She has strong opinions of people who are too "weak" to stay slim.
I battled long enough and knew THIS was my last chance to take control and be healthy.
In no way is this the easy route. I have explained the entire journey to my friend and she is amazed. She has so much respect for those of us that have chosen to do this.
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