[freebird]

Here's a little attitude about the surgery that a friend of mine is helping me to explore and adopt that i thought i'd share.
i have chosen to be my own best friend.
Food will no longer be my best friend.
in being my own best friend i have decided that this surgery is essential to my well being, health and mental
you may not understand that but that's ok
just accept and respect my decision
there are too many things going on with me right now that i don't have the time or energy to put up with negativity.
i plan on being selfish through this process because this is so about me and really has nothing to do with you and how you feel,
if you don't agree with me in my decision keep it to yourself until after you see how much my life changes

this attitude is being so helpful to me in dealing with those few who aren't really 100% behind me on this

hope some of you can adopt and adapt it to fit your life and needs

really if we can't be our own best friend who can?

[Pillows]

Freebird, I really like and appreciate that thought. I have learned to become more selfish lately and say assertively I NEED. It is such a relief to have something that is all about me for a change. Even when I was pregnant with my kids it wasn't all about me, it was about the kids that were coming out of me. We really do have to learn to be our own best friend instead of our own worst enemy.
Janae

[freebird]

it's hard to do after years of looking after everybody else's needs, desires and wants but i think it is the only way i'll be able to get through. And i am gettiing very good at telling others i really don't care what they think. That's hard to do when you've been giving in to others all the time. See the skinny me is already starting to assert herself.
Good for you pillows! That's the attitude we need.

[christyblue]

amen sistah!! we should all do that at least once a week.i know i get so worn out catering to everyone else that i just have no time for me.that has all but changed...it's ME time!!!
huggs
christy

[NCPTGUY]

I love your attitude and if you ever need help I'm here, just yell !!!! God bless your heart

[bren]

I love that attitude and have myself been trying to adopt the same attitude. But I have a problem My daughter will be 16 in a few weeks so she is at a tender age and she isn't dealing well with mom being smaller than her. She is trying very hard to loose weight too but because she isn't seeing the results as fast as mom is getting discourged. I've explainded that it is impossible for her to loose at the same speed as me so I'm trying to not make a big deal out of my weight loss. But at the same time I'm so excited!!

[Pillows]

Bren have you thought of trying to work out together with your daughter and using it as time to spend together? It would help your daughter and show her that you aren't just losing it as easily as it looks at times. I know how she feels a little because of how I felt when my mom started to lose her weight through her diabetes management when I was at my heaviest. Hope it goes well.
Janae

[DocSanae]

Here's CraigT's personal input on attitude. If you haven't read it, it's sure to be a good read.

[clancythecamper]

I know this is an old thread, but maybe if I just write I will feel a little better. I just told a couple of my co-workers I will be having my surgery next week. In less than 1 1/2 days someone in my office comes up to tell me how bad I'll do and that I'm going to have horrible complications. I politely informed her I am aware of the possible complications - some of which I've frankly never heard of anywhere - including my informed consent!! - and, have a nice day. I know people like this are out there, and that it was bound to happen but ARGH!!!!! If you can't say something nice......... (Thanks for letting me vent)

[DocSanae]

clancy, (((((((((HUGS)))))))))