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09-10-2007, 08:56 PM
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| Whipper Snapper  Join Date: Jul 2007 Location: South Central PA
Posts: 27
Weight Statistics 07/16/07 Start Date:
N/A Surgery Date:
5' 0" Height: 255 lb Start Weight:
196 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
59 lb Weight Loss:
76 lb Lb Left to Lose:
23.137254902 % % Lost:
12/25/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 49.7958333333 BMI Start:
38.2744444444 BMI Current:
23.4333333333 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Controlled Eating & Exercise  |  Negativity from Dad Does anyone struggle with acceptance of their decision from family members? I've just started my journey with the required 6 months of documented dieting and exercise. I drive 2 hours one way to Pittsburgh once a month to get weighed and take the required classes for insurance. My 2nd class is tomorrow and I've made arrangements for my mom to get the kids to bed since DH works nights. While my mom and I were discussing bedtimes, my dad decides to tell me how I should lose weight!?!? He said its simple -- cut out the fast food and continue with Curves and I'll be fine!  Well what do you know -- there is the solution to my obesity! Right in front of my face the whole time.  I am absolutely livid, disappointed -- every kind of emotion you can think of -- I'm feeling. I don't feel like I've ever had the support of my dad in any weightloss venture. When I lost 60 lbs several years ago, he just said I'd gain it back. No -- you look great -- keep going. Nothing. He has never had a weight problem and has no idea how much it affects everyday life. However, he thinks its cute that my daughters are 'chubby' while my son is thin as a rail and can eat anything and not gain a pound. I'm hoping my new habits will supercede his anything-goes-for-supper-while-mom-works attitude.I guess I'm ranting, but I didn't just decide to go through with this surgery willy nilly. I've been overweight my whole life and I have tried every diet under the sun. And now to get negativity from a family member is absolutely heartbreaking.  Sorry for ranting. I had to get that off my chest!Charlene
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09-10-2007, 08:59 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: May 2007 Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 2,187
Weight Statistics April 11th 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 4" Height: 267 lb Start Weight:
157 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
110 lb Weight Loss:
12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.1985018727 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 45.8254394531 BMI Start:
26.9460449219 BMI Current:
24.8864746094 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  | Been there done that. My mom was orignaly all for my surgery when I started my journey and then the closer I got to surgery day she changed her mind and really tried to make me change mine. I think she was nervous for me and scared. But in the end it was my husband and my dad who were my biggest supporters. I went thru with it and things are fine now that sugery is over and all. Im 5 months out. BUt yes Ive been in your shoes. You just need to do what is right for you and if your ready for this in your life then you have to ignore your dad and do what you want. Hang in there.
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09-10-2007, 09:08 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Aug 2006 Location: WADING RIVER (Long Island), NY
Posts: 4,754
Weight Statistics 7/16/07 Start Date:
7/16/07 Surgery Date:
4' 11" Height: 230 lb Start Weight:
137 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
93 lb Weight Loss:
22 lb Lb Left to Lose:
40.4347826087 % % Lost:
12/31/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 46.4492961793 BMI Start:
27.6676242459 BMI Current:
23.2246480896 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  | So Sorry To Hear Of The Hard Time Your Going Thru. Hang In There We Are Here For You 
__________________ 3/2008 PREG. START WT 144LBS. GOAL WILL HAVE TO WAIT TILL AFTER BABY  230 lbs 7/2007 & 142 lbs 4/2008     |
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09-10-2007, 10:07 PM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Apr 2007 Location: Mount Vernon, NY
Posts: 6,860
Weight Statistics 4/1/07 Start Date:
4/19/07 Surgery Date:
5' 9" Height: 258 lb Start Weight:
136 lb Current Weight:
140 lb Goal Weight:
122 lb Weight Loss:
-4 lb Lb Left to Lose:
47.2868217054 % % Lost:
04/19/2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 38.0957781979 BMI Start:
20.0814954841 BMI Current:
20.6721277043 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass  | its tough when family isnt outright supportive. been there recently. the ONLY family memebr that i told kind of stuck it to me...but we move on and do what we feel we need to do. he'll come around eventually. for now you have us here to evnt to  hang in there. you'll make it thru.
__________________ Anything worth having is worth working for Kenya R.  Lap RNY 4/19/07    |
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09-10-2007, 10:14 PM
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| Guru In Training  Join Date: Aug 2007 Location: Northwest Iowa
Posts: 221
Weight Statistics 8/27/07 Surgery Date:
5' 2" Height: 231 lb Start Weight:
119 lb Current Weight:
120 lb Goal Weight:
112 lb Weight Loss:
-1 lb Lb Left to Lose:
48.4848484848 % % Lost:
10/08 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 42.2458376691 BMI Start:
21.7630072841 BMI Current:
21.9458896982 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | I have not even told my dad. he has always been weird about my weight. Years ago i lost alot of weight and he says are you anorexic. It dont matter if im skinny or fat, there is no makeing him happy. I dont have alot of contact with him. So by the time he see's me, he will just think i did it on my own. Dont let them get to you. I know its hard because its family, but you will be fine . Some people are just negative.
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09-11-2007, 02:00 AM
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| Super Moderator  | Awww ((((((HUGS))))))) Some people are just judgemental, whether they are family members or not. Keep your chin up, your head high, and do what you need to do. Action speaks louder than words, and that is what will win the people you really need in your life over. May your journey go well.
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09-11-2007, 02:19 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jan 2007 Location: Hawaii
Posts: 2,957
Blog Entries: 2 Weight Statistics 07/23/2007 Start Date:
July 23, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 2" Height: 230 lb Start Weight:
125 lb Current Weight:
115 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
10 lb Lb Left to Lose:
45.652173913 % % Lost:
June 23 2008 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 42.0629552549 BMI Start:
22.860301769 BMI Current:
21.0314776275 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | I am so sorry for your dads reaction. I have beenlucky all my family hasbeen suportive, I have a few people I know who havesaidnegative things, I just ignore them |
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09-11-2007, 02:53 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: Jacksonville, Florida
Posts: 2,971
Weight Statistics July 21, 2007 Start Date:
August 6, 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 2" Height: 287 lb Start Weight:
182 lb Current Weight:
135 lb Goal Weight:
105 lb Weight Loss:
47 lb Lb Left to Lose:
36.5853658537 % % Lost:
January 1, 2009 Goal Date:
Body Mass Index 52.4872528616 BMI Start:
33.2845993757 BMI Current:
24.6891259105 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | I know exactly how you feel, it has been the same with me and my dad. He would say things to me about my weight that were suppose to magically help it come right off. I havent told him about the surgery, I am going to show up on his door step next year for a visit and see how it goes. I want to hear him tell me "you are so pretty, you just need to lose the weight". I hope that your dad comes around and realizes that him not supporting you is hurting you more than it is helping you. |
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09-11-2007, 04:27 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran  Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
Posts: 6,755
Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date:
Height: 310 lb Start Weight:
167 lb Current Weight:
159 lb Goal Weight:
143 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.1290322581 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start:
27 BMI Current:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | YEP my dad thought that surgery was far to drastic. BUT i know his problem was he had only heard of the scary horror stories and not all the good and happy people that have had the surgery. unfortunately he didnt live to see the success and joy surgery brought me. I minimized who i told pre op as i hated hearing the bad and people trying to convince me not to do it. I am the type person once i make my mind up to do something nothing changes my mind! JUST do whats best for you... sure the surgery is dangerous and has risks but so is walking around daily life as a morbidly obesite person. FOR me that out weighed the surgery risks that i could have had a heart attack or stroke any moment at my highest weight! good luck!
__________________ LISA  http://w5.photobucket.com/widgets/dy...164/fr1endly2/ LAP RNY Gastric Bypass  |
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09-11-2007, 09:29 AM
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| Seasoned Veteran Join Date: May 2007 Location: Upstate NY
Posts: 2,187
Weight Statistics April 11th 2007 Surgery Date:
5' 4" Height: 267 lb Start Weight:
157 lb Current Weight:
145 lb Goal Weight:
110 lb Weight Loss:
12 lb Lb Left to Lose:
41.1985018727 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index 45.8254394531 BMI Start:
26.9460449219 BMI Current:
24.8864746094 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass | I was like Lisa. Once I made my decison I was set. And like Lisa says, Im way off better than I was walking around before surgery. I was a health risk waiting to errupt. Hang in there. I had the negativity too as I mentioned above but if this is what you want to do, then do it. Good luck.
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