Thank u so much

Yeah, I had a pastor that would say, you've got to replace the old behavior with good. When the drug of choice is also a necessary ingredient for life its even tougher. Do you have a hobby? If you don't pick one up, let that be your drug of choice for a while. Right now mine is watching t.v. cause I in a legal battle with my HUD apartment managers, I am very stressed and have very little energy to do anything else, except school of course, t.v. takes my mind off my situation. I'll get over this eventually, and after I do, I start doing my painting (at home), sewing and knitting.

Hey LP its so hard not to think about it I've always focused on the fat I have to stop that thank u

Thanks Elizabeth, I've been dealing with this for so long. Some time it really upsets me, and some times I get a handle on it. I've been writing about it in my writing classes and that seems to alleviate some of the anger and pain, as well as get it outside of me.
When I was younger, I went to all of the groups and read all the books and did all of that stuff, after a while it gets old and, for me, didn't solve much. To each his own.
No, you aren't alone. I tried, like I said in my reply, to allow him back into my life. I was fully prepared to forgive him but, in front of me, he sat a little girl on his lap, just her and no one else. I knew that he was the same. Given the opportunity, he would do the same things again. I don't know if he ever has but I really wouldn't put it past him.
You need to do what is best for you. I can understand your predicament though.
Good luck.
If you need to talk more, let me know!

Yes leelee is a god sent I have forgiven my abuser but I can't face him or be around him there is no trust and I just don't want a bigger mess I know it is good to be open about this. It helps the healing process. Thank u for telling your story. It helps to know I'm not alone neither r ya there r wesites for this also I've visited some. They helped me see the addictions to food and other bad coping skills I had developed it is unreal how many people r like us if u would like some book and website info I can pm u let me know . They do help but its a long process. I have a long way to go take care thanks

Hey guys, Thanks so much for the support!!! Oh course I am being so sarcastic, it's not not funny. I am really going through some heavy stuff here and not one person has really or given my situation credence. That is some real support!!! I will continue to look at the advice and look in once in a while.
I feel really hurt!!! I am going through something that every one here is going through or is supported by the advice of those who have gone through the wls.
I don't know what it is about me that causes every one to distance themselves from me, honestly I don't care. .
Here is the thing though. You have no idea who I am, or what I am going through. If this is how I am treated here; I do enough of this to myself and get enough of it in the real world!!! I don't need others, proclaiming support, to treat me a though I am a leper as well.

Good luck, hope things work well with you all