[Motherly27]

HELLO EVERYONE,

I JUST HAVIN BEEN SITTIN AT HOME ALL DAY ONLINE TRYIN TO FIND INFO.. ON LAP RNY.. I HAVE BEEN TO SEMINARS AND TALK TO PEOPLE ONLINE BUT, AT TIME I START TO GET SCARED BECAUSE I KNOW THAT WITH THIS SURGERY THERE IS A RISK OF DEATH. I DON'T WANT TO LEAVE MY CHILDREN. I WANT TO LIVE THAT'S WHY I THOUGHT ABOUT HAVIN THE LAP RNY DONE.. I KNOW IF I DO NOTHING ABOUT BEING OVER WEIGHT THERE IS A CHANCE I STILL WILL DIE..

I JUST WONDER IS THIS NORMAL THINKIN?

HOW DO I GET OVER THIS FEAR OF DEATH AFTER OR DURIN LAP RNY?

I COULDN'T FIND ANY DEATHS RECENTLY FROM LAP RNY...

I NEED FAITH...

I REALLY WANT THIS BUT SCARED...

[DocSanae]

Your thoughts are quite normal. Everyone goes through them.
So, you'll have to ask yourself, which risk is higher, the risk of you dying from the surgery, or the risk of you dying from some obesity-related illness. Everyone goes through this throught process before deciding whether or whether not to do this surgery.

((((((HUGS))))) You are the only one who can make the decision.

[MsVickie]

Yes.......honey your normal. Like Doc said it comes down to a decision you have to make. What scares you more. The feeling of being scared of dying dont leave you until its over. Its dangerous yes. This will have to be soley your decision in the end to have it or not. I had a surgeon scare me to death. I chose another one because of it. It took me 6 months to get up the courage to seek anothers advice but I did.

You will have to look at your life now and what made you come to the decision you wanted this done. You will make the right one for yourself.

[Motherly27]

Thanks For The Help And Support... I Just Didn't Know If Goin Back And Forth Was Normal..i Think Any Time Someone Say You Can Die From Somthing Our Nerves Get Worked Up...i Am Coming Up With A List Questions For My Visit With The Surgeon.

If There Any Main Questions I Should Asked Please List Them...

I Need All The Help I Can Get.

[Trulykath]

There are inherent risks with anything. I could get in my car this morning and die on the way to work. I looked at it from the perspective of, "If I don't do this, I'm going to die sooner anyway." I was headed down a path full of co-morbidities.

[Rachael]

Originally Posted by Motherly27

Thanks For The Help And Support... I Just Didn't Know If Goin Back And Forth Was Normal..i Think Any Time Someone Say You Can Die From Somthing Our Nerves Get Worked Up...i Am Coming Up With A List Questions For My Visit With The Surgeon.

If There Any Main Questions I Should Asked Please List Them...

I Need All The Help I Can Get.

Personally, I would think there was something really wrong with you if you didn't have fears and go back and forth. I know now that I have a child as well, I have fears of things I would never have had before, so that makes them even greater.

And not meaning to scare you further but getting in your car to drive is probably about the riskiest thing you can do, but you proabaly do it every day.

I have a panic attack over thinking about this surgery at least once daily. But then, I have a panic attack about having a heart attack at least once daily if I don't anyway, both of which are probably justified, so I tell myself that, give myself permission to panic, and move on - because that is just how I am.

But I think it is perfectly normal, no matter how badly you want it (the surgery that is, not the worring about it, LOL) and would be just a bit off if you didn't.

Just keep coming here to look at before and after pictures, talking to people, etc. I've read some of the people's stuff here about how they got so worried and after surgery felt silly and are fine. That has always helped me too.

Also, I am a single parent with absolutely no family but my son, so no one to care for him if anything happens to me. I have called a lawyer about plans for him in the event something should happen (regardless of this surgery), which oddly enough makes me feel more comfortable too; to know that he will be taken care of.

[thumper1]

Yes those are totally normal thoughts My kids were a big concern of mine too,they were unsure of how they felt about mom doing this they said I was fine the way I was,but......I knew the co-morbidities could take me from them too,so the pros-cons list realyy helps,do it on paper not just in your head,try it at least. You'll be ok,good luck and God bless you which ever way u go. kathy

[fr1endly2]

yeah all SURGERIES have risks
but for me so did walking around at 310 lbs.
That CAME WITH a risk of death everyday for me.
I could have had a heart attack or stroke at anytime.
SO that help put me at ease to get this surgery with
any risks.
THANKFULLY i am fine.
AND now in very good health but yes
there is the chance...

only u can make this decision!
NO one else......u will
know when its right.
AND ITS NORMAL TO FLIP FLOP INM UR HEAD TOO!
GOOD LUCK
SORTING THIS THRU

[Christy0283]

I think everyone has said what I was already thinking. There are risks in everything. About the surgery, you will know in your heart what is right for you. Good luck in whatever you decide. Go with your heart!

[LittleLisaMarie]

You are TOTALLY NORMAL


Do your research, ask as many questions as you can think of.....you can never have to much knowledge....learn all the risks and all the benefits and discuss with your docs and then YOU can make the best decision for YOU...

We are here for you

LittleLisaMarie