[jazzine]

Good morning everyone.

Well I keep hearing everyone call me slim and I cannot see it yet. How do they see me thin when all I see in the mirror is still a fat chick?

A co-worker suggested I seek psychological help to deal with the way I see myself. I still see a fat girl, I still spend about 45 minutes putting on & taking off clothes to see what I should wear every morning. My hubby tells me I look good in everything I try on but I am so critical I don't find myself thin enough to look nice in my new clothes. I try setting small goals for myself for example my new goal is fitting into a size 14 jeans and weighing 199. I can feel slimmer & healthier but why can't I see it too???

So I am considering getting psychological help but my close friends think I shouldn't go, they say it's just a faze until my brain catches up to my body.

What do you guys think, would seeking a professional be helpful with dealing with this and other weight issues? Any advise is appreciated.

Thank you

Sandy

[Kenyar]

well, there is a bit of a lag. only you know if you really need help. i wouldnt be worried unless you are depressed or something. if you feel you need someone to talk to make sure they are experienced in eating disorders or weight loss issues. it cant hurt to talk to someone.

[jazzine]

I don't feel depressed actually I feel pretty good.
Even though at times I feel like I don't want to go out because I look or feel fat. Hmmm, I guess I do need help.

[Kenyar]

whats funny is, i think the first 4 months i refused to go outside at all unless it was really quick. i posted about it on here. i went thru that. your brain will catch up eventually. we never see ourselves as others do. what helped me was taking pictures. the mirror is tricky but pics dont lie!!! LOL. try it. and put the new you next to the old you and look at all of the differences from head to toe. you will be amazed.

[jazzine]

Thank you so much Kenya.

[BOOTS]

Yes Kenya Is Right And I Feel It Took My Brain To Catch Up Also And I Still Dont Think Its Seeing Everything Everyone Sees But It Is Catching Up Now So Give It A Little More Time And Then I Would Seek Help

[Kenyar]

it's not a problem. if you ever need, pm or email or feel free to contact me. we are all here to help eachother thru this

[jennifer07]

I get compliments all the time...and my first reaction is they are joking with me....I SO DONT SEE IT EITHER..I feel it in terms of how my clothes fit...but i still see the fat girl in the mirror. And if I find myself replying with a Thank you..I feel guilty ..almost like the person who complimented me thinks I agree with them??!! I know I am wierd....

[Queenofthenile]

I agree with the ladies. It's all part of the journey. How many years were you overweight and didn't feel good about yourself? It will take time but you will see what everyone else sees. I haven't had surgery yet but I can relate. A speech therapist that I work with in a school for children with disabilities has complemented me twice in one week. She said,"You just keep on looking better and better." All I could do was blush and say thanks.

[Chilly]

I also think that others "compare" the old you to the new you. So yes, they see the difference. All you see is what you still have to lose. I have ppl say...you're not going to lose anymore are you? LOL I say, yes, I want to. And they say, but you don't have to. Then I tell them, well, I still weigh 172 pounds!!!! LOL it IS a mental thing we all go thru though. And bottom line is....we ARE our worst cricits!