Where do I go from Here?

gregnewlife · 02-19-2007, 03:56 PM

March 22nd is my Re-birth Day. I find myself wondering just what is next. For years this trapped me. I was captured by a illness that some felt was merely a lack of self control. Know here I am struggling inside to know which way to good.
My family has been such an important part of my life that I withdraw from attempt what some may consider wishful thinking. I really thought making this life change would give me the assurance that I could fulfill my deepest desires.
Everything or should I say 90% of what I do today does not make me believe that what I am doing is really what I was distined to become.
I truely need to find that answer. I have personlly seen and know individuals who left this world not fulfilling the dreams.
My health by far is what I am so greatful for and know what my future holds is yet be seen.
Thanks for letting share a piece of my heart.

Gregewlife

DocSanae · 02-20-2007, 10:48 AM

A lot of people have a hard time with this question.
For a very long time, getting the surgery, and losing the weight was the ultimate goal. You didn't have much space in your thought about what you needed to do for the time after--except learn to eat healthy, develop a healthy life style.
Did you want to be able to run and play with your family?
Did you want to be able to be an active person in your family life?
For some people, a great and distant dream works as the motivation.
For others, little things in one's present life is what works as motivation.
Which person are you?

You may be looking for an answer, and be impatient that you do no have it, but maybe, your ponderings are the answer to your question at this point in your life.
Maybe, it's best right at the moment to take on one day at a time, instead of trying to make it ahead by leaps and bounds.
Have you ever thought that now that you are unable to gobble up food by buckets, you are trying to gobble up your future, trying to get there by leaps and bounds, instead of filling yourself up with food?
If you want to get to that future, you need to build up the foundation for a good building, step by step, stone by stone. You will never be able to build a good life without a firm foundation, and you will never have a firm foundation unless it has been build day by day, consolidating each stone.

A read of this article by CraigT may help you.
The Journey is the Destination.
(((((((HUGS)))))))

P.S. I have split your post from the original thread as your thoughts were rather unrelated to what was being discussed in the original thread.
I hope you won't mind.

fr1endly2 · 02-20-2007, 12:51 PM

THANKS for shareing your pondering thoughts!!!!!
jUST live life enjoy yourself and the rest of life
will fall into its own place!

((((HUG)))))

gregnewlife · 02-22-2007, 06:54 PM

Thanks for keeping me straight!!!

LittleLisaMarie · 04-14-2007, 09:31 AM

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Originally Posted by gregnewlife

March 22nd is my Re-birth Day. I find myself wondering just what is next. For years this trapped me. I was captured by a illness that some felt was merely a lack of self control. Know here I am struggling inside to know which way to good.
My family has been such an important part of my life that I withdraw from attempt what some may consider wishful thinking. I really thought making this life change would give me the assurance that I could fulfill my deepest desires.
Everything or should I say 90% of what I do today does not make me believe that what I am doing is really what I was distined to become.
I truely need to find that answer. I have personlly seen and know individuals who left this world not fulfilling the dreams.
My health by far is what I am so greatful for and know what my future holds is yet be seen.
Thanks for letting share a piece of my heart.

First off happy belated re birthday.
Next i can totally relate to alot of what you are saying. I wake some days and wonder what is missing. I feel like there is something i need to be doing for someone else. Like there is a hole and i need to fill it. Dont get me wrong, i have my beautiful family, 4 beautiful healthy kids, my health back, a great job and everything that i need . But something is missing. I cant quite put my finger on it but i pray every night that i find what that is. What my real calling in life is supposed to be. You are not alone in these feelings. Thank you for sharing.

LittleLisaMarie

02-19-2007, 03:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
gregnewlife Newbie Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 5 Please Enter Height:	Where do I go from Here? March 22nd is my Re-birth Day. I find myself wondering just what is next. For years this trapped me. I was captured by a illness that some felt was merely a lack of self control. Know here I am struggling inside to know which way to good. My family has been such an important part of my life that I withdraw from attempt what some may consider wishful thinking. I really thought making this life change would give me the assurance that I could fulfill my deepest desires. Everything or should I say 90% of what I do today does not make me believe that what I am doing is really what I was distined to become. I truely need to find that answer. I have personlly seen and know individuals who left this world not fulfilling the dreams. My health by far is what I am so greatful for and know what my future holds is yet be seen. Thanks for letting share a piece of my heart. Gregewlife

02-20-2007, 10:48 AM	#2 (permalink)
DocSanae Super Moderator Join Date: Nov 2005 Location: Tokyo, Japan Posts: 8,726 Blog Entries: 2 5' 5" Height:	A lot of people have a hard time with this question. For a very long time, getting the surgery, and losing the weight was the ultimate goal. You didn't have much space in your thought about what you needed to do for the time after--except learn to eat healthy, develop a healthy life style. Did you want to be able to run and play with your family? Did you want to be able to be an active person in your family life? For some people, a great and distant dream works as the motivation. For others, little things in one's present life is what works as motivation. Which person are you? You may be looking for an answer, and be impatient that you do no have it, but maybe, your ponderings are the answer to your question at this point in your life. Maybe, it's best right at the moment to take on one day at a time, instead of trying to make it ahead by leaps and bounds. Have you ever thought that now that you are unable to gobble up food by buckets, you are trying to gobble up your future, trying to get there by leaps and bounds, instead of filling yourself up with food? If you want to get to that future, you need to build up the foundation for a good building, step by step, stone by stone. You will never be able to build a good life without a firm foundation, and you will never have a firm foundation unless it has been build day by day, consolidating each stone. A read of this article by CraigT may help you. The Journey is the Destination. (((((((HUGS))))))) P.S. I have split your post from the original thread as your thoughts were rather unrelated to what was being discussed in the original thread. I hope you won't mind. __________________ "In every job that must be done, there is an element of fun." Just a li'l bit 'bout myself

02-20-2007, 12:51 PM	#3 (permalink)
fr1endly2 Seasoned Veteran Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY Posts: 6,756 Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date: Please Enter Height: 310 lb Start Weight: 167 lb Current Weight: 159 lb Goal Weight: 143 lb Weight Loss: 8 lb Lb Left to Lose: 46.1290322581 % % Lost: Body Mass Index 51 BMI Start: 27 BMI Current: Weight Loss Method Roux en Y Gastric Bypass	THANKS for shareing your pondering thoughts!!!!! jUST live life enjoy yourself and the rest of life will fall into its own place! ((((HUG))))) __________________ LISA http://w5.photobucket.com/widgets/dy...164/fr1endly2/ LAP RNY Gastric Bypass

02-22-2007, 06:54 PM	#4 (permalink)
gregnewlife Newbie Join Date: Feb 2007 Posts: 5 Please Enter Height:	Thank for the Help Thanks for keeping me straight!!!

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