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03-24-2006, 06:31 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
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Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date:
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167 lb Current Weight:
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143 lb Weight Loss:
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Body Mass Index51.5810650888 BMI Start:
27.7872189349 BMI Current:
26.4560946746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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Dear Food:
I want to thank you for the comfort you brought me many times in my life. I believe more than once that you saved my sanity. When I was scared, alone, a young teen and no family, I turned to you and when nobody would listen I shared my pain and loss with you.
I want to thank you for the good times I shared with others while eating a delicious meal. I have good memories sharing a good meal with people very dear to me.
So far, so good. But it hasn't been all good, the relationship between you and I. My devotion to you, my obsession with you, has reaked havoc in every area of my life. You became a crutch for me to hide myself, to protect myself, to comfort myself physically while ignoring myself mentally and spiritually. The effects you had on my body at first didn't compare to the comfort you brought me. But that caught up with me and my body paid too high of a price. My spirit suffered, my body suffered, my mind suffered, my social life suffered, my ability to work suffered, my ability to be an active mother suffered, my relationships suffered.
For all of those reasons I worked on my "self" for a very long time to prepare to say goodbye to the role that you play in my life. It took two years for me to learn to find comfort elsewhere, to reclaim my life, to reclaim my own power over my future and my body and my health. I've taken the plunge and purged your importance in my life. You are no longer needed for me to find solace in hard times. You are no longer going to be the person I run to for comfort, I am no longer too weak emotionally to turn to myself, to find other ways to feel better.
Already I see the differences physically since beginning my path to redefine our relationship. I feel better than I have in years. I am no longer afraid to look in the mirror. I can also feel huge changes emotionally. I am so much stronger and no longer need you the way I once did.
So food, this is goodbye. I won't call you my friend because many times you weren't. I won't call you my enemy because many times you saved me from a downward emotional spiral. But I will say that with this redefined role in my life I am ready to accept you into my life as a tool to stay healthy and strong. We won't see each other as much anymore, and heck when you hit my plate alot of you will be thrown into the trash. I am learning that there are valuable things you can offer me and I'm choosing only those valuable things.
From here on out you are merely a means of existance, a fuel for my body which is nurturing my inner self. Dont be sad to say goodbye, I am not. I think we'll get along much better this way.
Signed,
A very happy weight loss patient
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03-24-2006, 07:54 AM
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"A healthy relationship for a healthy and happy life."
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03-24-2006, 08:29 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
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143 lb Weight Loss:
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thanks doc! hoeping many can relate to this!
lisa
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03-25-2006, 08:44 AM
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Oh friend! You've hit the nail right on the head for so many of us. This letter is awesome. I almost cried for the beauty of it. And though I'm not there yet, i know soon I will be. You have inspired me to write my own good bye to food after the surgery. I think it will probably be a great help in accepting the changes i'll have to be making. Thank you so much for sharing these personal thoughts from your heart.
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03-25-2006, 09:41 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
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Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date:
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167 lb Current Weight:
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143 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.1290322581 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index51.5810650888 BMI Start:
27.7872189349 BMI Current:
26.4560946746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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cant wait to here your goodbye to food post op!
THANKS for your kind words
lisa
PS: i am not the author of this piece but saved it when i saw it and had to share with everyone here cause its so fitting!
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04-02-2006, 12:03 PM
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Lisa I finally got around to reading this and yes i can relate. Thanks for posting it. 
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09-17-2006, 09:13 PM
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what a great letter! Thank you for sharing this with us.
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09-17-2006, 09:16 PM
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Very cool. I had never seen it before either. I love it. It's exactly what I need to hear now!
Kat
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02-23-2007, 08:04 AM
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LISA, I JUST WANTED TO SAY I REALLY LOVED THE LETTER. AND JUST LIKE FREEBIRD I THINK I JUST MIGHT WRITE MY OWN GOODBYE LATTER ALSO. IN FACT I THINK EVERYONE SHOULD DO THE SAME. AS WITH FREEBIRD I HAVE NOT REALLY BEGAN MY JOURNEY YET. MY FIRST APPT WITH THE DR IS MARCH 14TH. HOPE EVRYTHING GOES WELL FOR ME AND FOR EVERYONE ELSE ON THIS FORUM.  TAKE CARE EVERYONE, TAMMY
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02-23-2007, 08:19 AM
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Join Date: Jan 2006 Location: SOMEPLACE LONG ISLAND, NY
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Weight Statistics June 1, 2005 Start Date:
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310 lb Start Weight:
167 lb Current Weight:
159 lb Goal Weight:
143 lb Weight Loss:
8 lb Lb Left to Lose:
46.1290322581 % % Lost:
Body Mass Index51.5810650888 BMI Start:
27.7872189349 BMI Current:
26.4560946746 BMI Goal:
Weight Loss MethodRoux en Y Gastric Bypass
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HEY TAMMY THANKS!
GOOD LUCK on that first appointment on the 14th and i look forward to getting to know you thru your posts!
We are here for all your support needs!
hugs
and welcome to the forums
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