Well, I choice living4me because that is what I am doing, Living for me.
I am having WLS for me and me alone. I have minimal support. I personally am a loner. With my Army Husband's rank and moving around a lot, I have learned to live without many close personal friends. I have my Husband and a 2 year old son. My DH is excited about it (since, he married me at 225lbs. I lost 45 to fit in my ideal perfect dress 10 years ago) and my 2 year old son doesn't know what is going on, except mommy cries a lot (mainly, because I am frustrated that I can't even run after him and play with him like most mothers).
My mother is an unconditional loving support (but of a "keep your mouth shut if you don't like it" kind of attitude), while my father thinks I am crazier than a loon (Loves to tell me every day that I don't need the surgery that FAT IS also BEAUTIFUL). My 2 brothers think I am gonna die (we have a family friend who died from WLS complications 2 years ago).
My Best Friend is on the fence but loves me anyway. She gives me all the negative things to read but then turns them into a positive. (kinda a double bladed sword... Because, she now has educated herself of the subject and still has never weighed more than 135lbs soaking wet.)
I have more negative people in my life than positive. I have learned that if I don't take control of my life, I will never live it to this fullest. I allow them to speak their minds but I will always form my own opinions. (spent 8 months in therapy to get to this point)
Therefore, I am Living4Me, While not being selfish. I have to live within this body and I choice to spend the next 40 years being happy and minimally caring what others think I should do with it. (I am reprogramming my mind to Not focus on what others think is correct for me.)
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